I think you're taking too much offense to the secret thing. I'm not criticising your family, because I cant care less about what people do online, but that's just it, it's the Internet. A lot of people are shitheads. Also, it is out of the norm for fandoms. Fandoms online are so cliquey that it's like high school again. so understandably it may freak people out to see everyone just get along. just my 2¢.
You may be right. At first I was a little defensive because I started the BONJOVIFAMILY with good intentions and I've always included everyone except for ONE blogger who has been incredibly rude and disrespectful to myself and many of the other BONJOVIFAMILY members and constantly disrespected Jon.
The beautiful thing that has come out of all this, is all the lovely messages and posts that the BONJOVIFAMILY members and even other bloggers have sent me or posted. It reminds me why we should stand up to their bullying and antagonistic behavior.
What we have is special and "AIN'T NOBODY NOWHERE GONNA KNOCK IT DOWN..."
I think you are definitely right that it does "freak SOME PEOPLE out to see another group getting along like we do. SomeTHING in their personality does not allow them to be part of something so lovely. Instead they feel defensive and I will even use the word envious.
Thanks for your 2 cents, I think it was worth way more than you thought!
BON JOVI ALWAYS! XOXO Gayle