#himpathy

[locusnegotium]

Post by @handkinkbis

💬 0  🔁 0  ❤️ 3 · Regarding the excellent quote from Kate Manne: "To move from sympathy (or empathy) to himpathy is something else, too: to

[locusnegotium]

They ruin their own time, their own futures.

All women do is refuse to have our hands bound-up with fine china, to carry the load in silence and solitude. If someone presumes we're willing to hold a dish, slips it toward us, and it shatters on the ground, it's their fault.

All women do is bat the bullshit back their way with our racquets. If they didn't want it to backfire, they shouldn't have sent it our way. We rarely strike first, more rarely than them.

[heterorealism]

[profkew]

Op-Ed: Free Megan

Megan Thee Stallion, and Black women as a whole, deserve justice when they’re victims of violence, even if it is at the hands of a Black ma

"Whenever a well-known Black man is accused of a crime against a woman or girl, there is widespread defensiveness among our people. We’re clear that it takes a lot for a Black man to make it and we don’t want to see one lose all he’s worked for. We don’t trust the victims, we don’t believe their motivation for coming forward to be legitimate somehow. We acknowledge the bias against Black men in the legal system and in broader society, but behave as if somehow Black women and girls are without their own unique vulnerabilities.

Our distrust of the system has allowed us to behave as though Black men are simply incapable of being abusers, which contrasts starkly with the fact that Black women and girls experience sexual and domestic violence at higher rates than nearly all groups of people. We, as a community, don’t want to believe the stereotypes that White people have created that suggest Black men are inherently violent or predatory. So instead of allowing for the reality that some of our men are abusive, and some of them do great harm, many of us have placed our heads in the sand and either denied these men’s capacity for violence or acted as if the violence didn’t matter.

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These lopsided loyalties stand between our people and anything resembling liberation. Until the protection of Black women matters as much as the protection of Black men, our entire community will continue to suffer. Until the hatred of Black women that permeates our culture is eradicated, we will continue to exist as second-class citizens within our own communities. We must break free of the notion that any Black man accused of a crime against women and girls is being unfairly targeted in order to place him within the criminal justice system. Painful as it may be, we have to acknowledge that the capacity for violence exists amongst even those whom we love, and how frequently Black women and girls fall victim to that violence."

[junawer]

The Crown 03x10 / Himpathy and the double standards when it comes to a man cheating and a woman cheating

[izukukuzi]

Oh no it isn't just about s3xual violence!!! Himpathy run deep in lots of cultures it comes with simpatyzing with abusers 2hile ignoring the victims pain. That is mostly from sa where powerful men ends up not facing consequences for their actions and being seen as <poor babies who just made a mistake> but it could also be seen as a phenomenon that resonates a lot with the way abu5e is handled in mha. i just found it interesting jsjsje

ah okie, gotcha!!!! that is definitely something worth learning more about 👁👁 thank you for bringing it to my attention nonnie!!!

and you're absolutely right. the resemblance, just from your description alone, is obviously there with how bnha handles abuse :/

[sindreontumbler]

The definitions are from Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny by Kate Manne.

[protoslacker]

Professors Reed and Butler are differently highlighting a basic insight about scholarship: we cannot separate the work from the person. We cannot love the scholarship and feel better about ourselves for hating the scholar’s sin. Whether intended or not, to promote a person’s work by engaging it is to amplify their prestige and to route legitimacy to them. And this disproportionately happens for powerful white men in the academic study of Bible and religion.

Stephen Young at Religion Dispatches. LOVE THE SCHOLARSHIP BUT HATE THE SCHOLAR’S SIN?: ‘HIMPATHY’ FOR AN ACADEMIC PEDOPHILE ENABLES A CULTURE OF ABUSE