#house rambles

[wholehouseonfire]

Impossible challenge for Tumblr users — when a trans, nonbinary, or intersex person speaks on their experience, you Listen and Believe instead of independently assuming they are full of shit! A trans woman says she feels she didn’t experience male privilege pre coming out? Listen to her! A trans man says he feels he doesn’t experience male privilege post coming out? believe him! A nonbinary person speaks on their experience with exclusion? Pay attention! And I cant believe i have to say this, if an intersex person speaks on their experience, especially if you are perisex you have to shut up and learn. Oh my god. People are not sitting around lying about formative experiences they have with oppression. You may disagree with something conceptually but you do not know better than people talking about themselves and if you aren’t of the same demographic Especially you MUST shut the fuck up!! And if many many people you see speak on their lived experience and it contradicts your theory, your fucking theory is shit. Is it that all these trans people are making shit up to feel special/distance themselves from privilege or something, or is it that your understanding of the world is deeply self centered. You should strive to include different people in your theorizing instead of doxxing random sexgender minorities for implying they experience unique circumstances in society

[wholehouseonfire]

My personal opinion is that ultimately we as the trans community in the majority have in some way failed to move past cispatriarchal gender segregation ideas, and i dont mean just that as a result we get “people imposing ideas about cisgender men onto masc perceived members of the community” and ofc “people imposing ideas about cisgender men onto perceived to be amab members of the community” plus the flavour of misogyny that this stems from. What i mean is that this is ALSO a side effect, the original problem is that few of us actively cross-socialize enough. Many of us don’t even bother talking to trans people with different to us identities in any meaningful capacity. Usually people associate with cis and trans folks that are their agab, or trans people of their agab + cis people of their actual gender identity. The idea that a trans man has nothing in common with a trans woman etc Just Makes Sense to most people for some reason, which one would think we would know to be gender essentialist and misogynistic, since we are all the same species. This means we don’t develop wholistic understanding of gender, transition, social issues, etc. This also means we develop pockets of theory, language, and culture that don’t overlap only because we self segregate, and when confronted with a different school of thought stemming from experiences we dont share (or rather, oftentimes experiences we do have in common but which are not identical), we are quick to dismiss that we have anything to gain from sharing and learning. Most people are content with the “all cats are girls all dogs are boys :)” mentality as long as they can shuffle around who fits into which box to accommodate their own identity.

This is spurred on by the fact that some of yall think that one type of trans person can’t and shouldn’t try and depict the experience of another type of trans person due to a given, forever unfixable lack of understanding of The Experience. Which like. Most of the stuff we deal with looks rather similar even if its unique. And stuff that truly isn’t shared, well i hate to tell you but you should have been talking to trans people of other genders this entire time. And learning about them. Why is this such a huge ask? There is about an even split of trans masc, femme, and neu people i know. Why are so many of you in friend groups with gender ratios resembling character casts in children’s shows?

[wholehouseonfire]

What interests me is that presumed afab, neutral or masc presenting trans people, are often blamed for the treatment we get (which we have no control over), as opposed to the cisgender people who are transphobic. When violent transmisogyny is seen, and a lack of the same type of violence is observed, the other types of misogyny and transphobia experienced are seen exclusively as either lesser or even as privilege (when the same misogyny would Not be seen as privilege in a cis woman). This alone sucks but the issue is the people that get shit for it aren’t the violent cis people, but trans people the majority of whom don’t want their sisters to suffer that AND still suffer other bad treatment. At times this escalates not only as blaming trans people but as assuming they are uplifted and are eager to leave behind trans women. Is it a lack of recognition of other types of misogyny and how they look? Or is it because unlike cis people we make for safe scapegoats? Ill get back on this later today maybe, but when we are treated differently, it’s interesting to see that what I can easily observe as an effect of benevolent misogyny making for example trans mascs more “palatable” (read: not seen as likely rapists) to the cis crowd, to others this is an indicator that masculinity is being rewarded, rather than what it is — people recognized as occupying the woman TM patriarchal class are weak and non threatening (and therefore naturally in need of protective subjugation). When this happens to cis women we have broadly learned to see it’s still problematic, but we don’t apply this logic to trans people. This is not to suggest social acts if benevolent misogyny alone are equal to violence, but rather that they are not seen as misogyny at all.

[wholehouseonfire]

I wish i didn’t feel the need to verify all opinions of other trans bloggers when i see them post something i agree with. Why must i feel suspicious of my own people? I reblog something transfeminist, the person ends up transphobic to transmasc and or transneutral people.I reblog something in regards to antitransmasculinity and the person is a raging transmisogynist. We are plagued by intersexism and exorsexism. Everyone is violently western brained and racist. And those people make good posts they really do often hammer the nail into the point about the subject they are equipped to discuss. And then proceed to shit all over any sort of inclusiveness and intersectionality. If i have to open a blog and they have another linked treatise about how idk, trans men think transmisogyny theory is fake (usually not true???) or someone thinking predatorjacketing a trans woman over something legitimately innocent is a great idea im going to explode. Why are “trans activists” posting about how much they hate nonbinary people or push racist stereotypes? Can any blogger on here be trusted?

[wholehouseonfire]

Not a huge fan of the "X did this before they were trans" thing. There is a lot to be said about how people online will cyberstalk you until they find some bullshit from a decade ago to call you out upon because those people are malicious, meaning no amount of accountability will technically ever be enough because no matter how many times you do better and apologize some fuckwad will dig up info on you from when you were 12, but on the other hand, i dislike this... what i can best call "transition = catholic confession" thing where as soon as you change pronouns anything you did in the past is moot and void as a valid criticism against you, you have been cleansed. Yes even when that something is transphobia you did to protect your own self from accepting your transness. I can always do better as a trans person but I can't take back things I said when I was in denial, though this isn't a reflection of my current self whatsoever it still sucks, you know? And with other things its actually deranged, like no, if you refute someone who is in the community's racist behaviour in the past with "they weren't even trans back then" I'm exploding you. You can argue subject relevance without saying this dumb shit. And I cannot believe this is something people say in regards to physical actions, like abuse or sexual assault. Idk how to tell you this but the trauma of being closeted in denial and dysphoric has never made me rape someone. idk. Weird ass excuse. We can have conversations about relevance and consequence that is appropriate vs doxxing someone solely for being on 4chan for a month a decade ago but some of you think that slapping trans onto yourself now means someone coming forth and saying you were an abusive partner has nothing to do with your current woke self. Especially if you have only been out for a short while, "repainting my car in GTA to get rid of police following me" behaviour

[wholehouseonfire]

“vestigial white saviorism” VESTIGIAL. Пусть расскажет всем нам как было хорошо татарам, бурятам, казахам, и ну всем множественным народам в СССР, ведь они были такие независимые и их никто не эксплуатировал и не репрессировал🫠 западные «коммунисты», когда надо перестать мастурбировать на СССР что бы послушать коренных народов республик. Потому что правительство правда выполняло свои обещания о культуре, независимости, и равенстве👍Спасибо большое 👍👍👍

When the russian empire expands east its colonialism, when the USSR in no real meaningful way grant full autonomy to those peoples and expands even Further, failing to support cultural restoration, continuing cultural repression, exploits regions for labour and resources, and displaces people, it’s woke and antiracist. Something something “western propaganda” right? As if Russia doesn’t overreach into those regions as a colonizer STILL without consequences because asian russians and people in post soviet nations are not interesting to meaningfully listen to even to self proclaimed left wingers

[wornoutqueer]

Hoo boy! I think I’m going to use tumblr to ramble about our adventures as millennials buying our first house.

Today I had the realization that I will HAVE to talk to people. In person and on the phone. Often. In order to buy a house.

[plaguebringerswife]

taps mic. *Bernie Sanders voice* I am once again updating my intro post. hello it's me. the House real. You can call me either House or Knight. Pronouns are She/They and I am 18+!!! however it is very unlikely that I will post anything NSFW here TH: https://toyhou.se/DiscoCorviknight

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fond of Sentient Building and Object Characters.

also there is a non-zero chance that if you follow me for anything else you will be jumpscared by House of Leaves. or Anatomy