I am grateful for this moment. Extremely thankful for the timing of reading How To Communicate Like A Buddhist. #howtocommunicatelikeabuddhist __ I learned a valuable lesson, and it's associated with my feelings, and it's translation to my communication style. Majority of the time I wouldn't share how I was feeling about something because I did not trust my feelings. It's a terrible place to be when you're trying to create and maintain healthy relationships. She shared this formula that helped me with mindfulness: "action + feeling + what you need to feel better." I've been using it as I reflect on past actions and will be using it going forward. __ For example, my kids didn't do their chores. It made me feel like they don't appreciate the things I do for them. What makes me feel better is them doing their chores without me telling them to do it. It would make me feel valued and respected. I then communicate this to them in a respectful manner. This exercise allowed me to review the story I've created in my head and to validate if it's real and acceptable response. It also allows me to address the concern before speaking with the individual (s). Does this sound like a helpful tool and would you use it? #somethingsabouther #helpfultips #speakup (at Avondale, Arizona) https://www.instagram.com/p/BpV3VXBleq7/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=s1yeqk2agiag