Excuse me for throwing up a ittle on here, but like do people know what asexuality even is???
I swear like half the comments I get about asexuality is about why i chose to do it and half of what i accidentally stumble over on twitter is people saying it’s no realistic and makes no sense. and You know why this pisses me off? Because it sound like people don’t like Kookie being asexual because it means he wont be banging Tae anytime soon.
like some people don’t think i makes sense because Kooks dated peopel before Hwanhee. Like the fact that he didn’t sleep with Hwanhee is a-okay because he had Tae and all, but if he dated others before then surely, he had to have done some horizontal tango, or at least a mouthy rumba.
do you know how that feels as an asexual? to have your own sexuality questioned like this? You do know asexuals date right? that ace ≠aro.
Im gonna repeat this in bold for the skimmers.
Since some are ready to blame me for only doing the Wikipedia searches, some of you have a very narrow gasp of what you’re talking about. Like let me put this up in away that easier to grasp... None of you ask me why Kooks is gay... Like nobody asks me why i chose him to be gay. Like, he could not be. Who says you have to be sexually attracted to a fictive soulmate. Nobody! Asking me why tae is allosexual and Kookie is ace is like asking me why Tae is bi and Kooks is gay. Like you wouldn’t fucking dare question that would you.
Like, No matter how i turn it or look at what people say we always get back to the fact that IBFY will always remain smutless and Tae’s balls will forever be blue is what got people in a huff. Like people always talk about how it can’t be that bad being asexual, but it is. You’re all proving it right now. For this to be a happy ever after, the sacred banging must occur, preferably in graphic detail and repeatedly.
And you know why this pisses me off, that people get this hanged up over it. BECAUSE JUST BECAUSE KOOKS IS ACE DOESN’T MEAN HE CAN’T HAVE SEX IF HE SO CHOOSES AND SO CAN ALL THE FUCKING ASEXUALS YOU INVALIDATING ATM.
Like seriously, there is so many facets of being ace and none of it has anything to do with your sexual drive. You’re so bloody used to seeing aesthetic attraction being the same as sexual attraction you don’t even know the difference. Nor do any of you seem to know about sexual drive. Like You’re all so ready to question me, to tell me off for breaking such a nice story with a sudden “forced asexuality plot” (that has been purposefully written into IBFY since around chapter 9, but okay of course it was a sudden idiotic idea, you know better than me of course. I’m only writing the shit). Like, half of you don’t even know what you’re talking about and you can’t even be bothered to ask, because apparently we’re back to last year where my fic was shit for not having smut (So much so that people used it as an excuse to plagiarize half of it... Good times.) For the actual love of everything holy, I’ve told you to ask me. Im right here and on twitter, even in the damn comments were I’ll answer anything if i feel it’s a legit question. Stop assuming you know and start respecting that no asexual is alike. We’re washed out of everything, barely represented anywhere, so excuse me for wanting to see some of “me” in my own fic.
Ace people can have sex and they can not. That is like the whole fucking point in trying to make, but you’re all fucking missing it because you’re to hung up on them not fucking yet. Notice how Kooks is healthily trying to discover his limits, how he is open about wanting to say no. Like that is what we need. To people not being afraid to discover if they like sex a little bit, if sex is not for them or if doing it with someone you really love can be okay if you’re in the mood. Like just fucking read the words.
Just the other day on the radio a woman was complaining about her boyfriend not wanting her, and me and Nan just looked on each other and went “he’s ace” but you know what, even if he repeatedly tried to tell her his need for sex wasn’t that high she kept pushing him because how can you be in a relationship and not wanna “do the do”? Like it’s not that weird. So Kooks might not wanna hump Tae, does that really weaken their love? Can’t they find a way to balance it out? Like you’re not even giving it a chance, you’re just going “that’s weird” and then you just drop it because “Yikes, this isn’t what I’m used to”. ‘
Now, I know I’m being harsh. But this is my sexuality you’re questioning. It’s me and my personal feelings you’re invalidating. I’ve had several people thank me for finally writing asexuality as it is. arghh!!!!!!!!!!!!!
To recap. Im an asexual, and if that freaks you out fuck off. Ace people can date. They can fuck, they can not fuck and you all need to sit down and read a proper fucking post about being Ace or ask me before you go judging my fic ever again.
