hiii there lovers. I decided to join @idsb ‘s challenge and share a part of what I do. I just wanna say that I absolutely loved this because it’s not only empowering women but also helps sharing what women go through in their lives and their different experiences as women. this will be very quick I promise ✨ thank you again for this moment.
Ok so I’m not really working yet, I’m still in college, finishing my bachelors degree in psychology. it’s my last year and next year I’ll do doing my masters. Althought I’m still not in the work place and in this environment I’ve gone through things that I’m sure men wouldn’t never get through.
psychology is a field where women are in majority, and that makes it so much more competitive especially women against women. Competiting for the same jobs, for the same spot, for the highest grades. so we can be viewed as competent as men are. And be viewed and perceived as the nice and caring. this particular situation happened one time with a women. my teacher. A teacher that I admired so much and looked up too told me that I looked sad, empty and that was too serious. That I should smile more and be grateful for what I have and that if I didn’t want to I didn’t need to be there. Working for her. She told me this because I wasn’t smiling at the moment. because because I had serious face I was tired. Like I couldn’t have a serious face like I couldn’t be smiling all the time. She said this in front of everyone, every girl at that table. Later they came up to me and were so supportive but I still just wanted to cry.
This was a painful moment for me and it’s still hard for me to talk about it. women don’t have to happy all the time, we don’t have to smile all the time. That doesn’t mean we’re not happy or grateful. Only means we’re human. What hurt the most was that came from a teacher that I absolutely loved and admired. Women and taylor talked about this too have to be happy and thriving and smiling all the time. Sorry I can’t really talk about this anymore. If I were a man, this would never happen. People wouldn’t talk about their looks and how they have to be more excited or happy. They wouldn’t ask to do that. But they do to women. I’m so sick of this. Maybe I have a bitch resting face or not idk but talk about the way I look and about my face just made my insecurities and walls go up.
