#idemro

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Shout out to my fellow idemromantics and platoniromantics!!

It can be hard to accept that you don't differentiate between platonic and romantic feelings - you might even, despite knowing that this is who you are, wonder if you're wrong and you're "actually" just crushing romantically on someone, or "actually" just idolizing their friendship. It can be hard to shake off amatonormativity and stop examining your own feelings under a microscope in the hopes (fears?) that it turns out you're allo. But for us idemros and platoniros the struggle to differentiate is normal, and doesn't have to be picked apart, or be a struggle at all. You can just be. I promise.

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Idemromantic culture is being asked what your sexuality is and trying to figure out what level of details they are ready for.

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Idemromanticism is LITERALLY the "i see no difference love is love" meme but with platonic and romantic attraction instead of anime couples

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Idemromantics are extremely powerful actually. It is very punk and hardcore of us to explicitly decide who and how we love and I adore that for us.

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shoelaces // the submarines

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for real i would date so many of my friends if they asked me out. the nature of my feelings for them wouldn’t change. i would just categorize my feelings as romo (if we both want that)

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Mad respect to aromantics that are struggling with how to reject someone who has a crush on you. That is super difficult and a hard situation to be in. As an idemro person, i can’t relate to those posts because my response process to someone who asks me out would probably look less like “no"/”yes” and more like this image

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Shoutout to idemros that...

characterize their attraction as romantic or platonic based on compatibility

characterize their attraction based on the presence of another attraction, like sexual attraction

deliberately label their attraction as romantic or platonic based on their own qualifiers

categorize their attraction automatically or subconsciously

don't want romantic relationships

want romantic relationships

don't want queerplatonic relationships

want queerplatonic relationships

don't know what kind of relationship they want, if any

have a hard time labeling their attraction

identify with romance

wouldn't touch romance with a ten-foot pole

love being idemromantic

are still coming to terms with it

...and a big warm shoutout to every other idemromantic experience out there! <3 it can be hard to feel real or legitimate, but I am here to say that we are!