hi! so im questioning my gender (i dont think im cis anymore) and i havent told anyone. a big part of it is bc i feel like im lying to myself or something and i keep questioning it. i think i might be genderfluid and i was wondering if i could have some help. so i feel like i am attracted to different people as different genders. i am pansexual, but i feel like specifically i am attracted to girls as a girl and boys as a boy? idk how to rlly describe it but ive never heard of it &im scared. thx
I think first it’s good to know that gender and sexuality aren’t the same.
You could also have a very fluid sexuality. Personally, your experience could be filed under “bisexual” but there are also some fluctuating sexualities too. (The one that comes to mind for me is aceflux, where asexuality fluctuates.)
Genderfluidity is your own gender fluctuating. Some days you might be a girl, some days you might be agender, some days you might be demigender.
I just realized I might have misread the question. I’ll leave what I wrote, but you’re not the first question I’ve read where some people feel their attraction to other genders changes. You are fine. You might be comfortable staying under the Gay label, with the understanding that Gay changes with your gender.
You have nothing to worry about. There is someone out there who has experienced what you’re feeling and it’s okay. You’re not alone.