Genderfluid Shit

I want this blog to be a source of information and/or support to anyone who's looking for some. If you have any questions, feel free to ask.

[precioustranswoman-deactivated2]

There’s so much info about tucking and gaffs (less so) but to all new trans girls.. just get some cotton panties like boyshorts style and push it back gently.

 Like you might have to do slightly (slightly) more for tighter clothes or different fabrics but like… ya don’t need to tape yourself every day… or ever… and gaffs are good but unless you’re wearing something tight n thin cotton boyshorts or some other strong underwear will do the trick.

 Like all this info pretending like you need special gaffs, tape, to shove ur testes up into your inguinal canal, etc. is classist, physically harmful, and preventatively daunting information to be spreading without disclaimers like this.

[polyhedralprincess]

Idk if this has been said before but a long time ago another trans lady and I kinda realized we could just wear 2 pairs of underwear and call it a day without taping or anything fancy. Its definitely a cheap alternative and Ive been doing it for 6 years 👍

I wear jeggings to work and when im out and about and I never get looks or comments, idk if this is helpful to anyone tho 😅

[drumandbassdoll-deactivated2023]

to every transfemme person: please read this it will save you so much time, money, and energy

[low-or-no-dyspho-ria]

I had a friend who wore some layers compression shorts and called it a day

[reveriesystem-backup]

Froggy says you’re doing a good job

[that-taters-my-tots]

Me every time my mom talks about me:

[unknought]

reminder that if you’re questioning your gender, “what do I want?” and “what will make me happy?” tend to be much more useful questions than “what am I, really?”

[lumberjackloverboy-moved]

today i was talking to my therapist about being upset that my dad wanted a daughter and she told me 'your father is crying by a grave of his own making that has no corpse in it. you do not need to fill it for him and are not required to weep beside him' and I had to take a sip of water bc my mind stopped working for a moment

[so-many-genders]

I don’t think cis women understand how traumatic the side effects of being born with a functioning uterus/vagina can be for AFAB people who fall under the Genderqueer or Trans umbrellas.

Like no woman enjoys getting their period. But for GNC folk who do get one, suddenly it’s a week of their lives where a body part they might vehemently dislike suddenly comes front and center. And just because periods aren’t discussed doesn’t mean they’re not capturing your full attention. Every month you gotta keep an eye on the clock so you don’t bleed through or worse. Every month you gotta deal with being able to find a bathroom you’d be comfortable using—or hold it in, no matter the damage. Every month this body part that you’d rather not have hurts—and can hurt a lot.

Every other week is fine, you can just live blocking out the parts of your body you don’t like. Until you are betrayed by your body

[so-many-genders]

My gender is.....an experience

[shinyphan-deactivated20200629]

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[transgenderteensurvivalguide]

Lee says:

The word “transgender” is an umbrella term that is inclusive of (but not forced upon) anyone who identifies as a gender that they were not assigned at birth. 

Both binary people and non-binary people are equally transgender.

Being trans without dysphoria is possible.

Gender expression ≠ gender identity, as shown on the genderbread person

More info: Trans resources masterpost or Ally resources for cis people

Again, if you don’t fully identify as the gender you were assigned at birth 100% of the time, you can call yourself trans. That’s it, there’s no other criteria you need to meet to be trans.

Followers, feel free to add on!

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[redgoldsparks]

I’ve been talking a lot about my book, and specifically encouraging people to buy it, but there are lots of ways to support the book without spending any money! I would be absolutely thrilled to see people checking it out from the library, and to have it available in many libraries across the country. If it’s not available at yours yet, requesting a purchase is a very simple process! I have requested many purchases at my local library and they put the book on hold for me and send me an email once it arrives. Libraries are literally the best! I worked in libraries for 14 years (4 as a volunteer, 10 as an employee) before I began working full time as a freelance artist. There are multiple scenes that take place in libraries in my book :) And if there is someone who wants to read my book, but wouldn’t feel safe bringing it home, I hope that e might be able to read it secretly, safely, and for free in a library. Here’s my book’s Goodreads page, and here is all of the information you need to request a library purchase: 

GENDER QUEER: A MEMOIR by Maia Kobabe ISBN: 1549304003 (ISBN13: 9781549304002) Publisher: Lion Forge Comics, 2019

instagram / patreon / portfolio / the nib / etsy

[so-many-genders]

You GNC folks here will probably enjoy this book. A /lot/ of my own personal journey was mirrored on these pages and this whole novel was extremely cathartic (and personal) as a result

[f-ire-fly]

The most  e p i c  opening scene ever

[gummees]

how could you not include a link to the video

https://youtu.be/ffyKY3Dj5ZE

[so-many-genders]

Hey guys

I completely COMPLETELY forgot that tumblr doesn’t like notify you when you get messages in your inbox,

So I think I answered all of them

[so-many-genders]

I recently began identifying as genderfluid. I'm afab and the name I was given is Chloe (a name that I have grown to dislike). At first, I would just go by Cole on "guy days" but I was wondering if I should just change my name to something gender neutral? I have a few ideas, but I don't know which would be better.

It’s up to you

I have a name that could’ve been easily engineered to been gender neutral, but it didn’t suit me, so I went with a different name.

But really it’s up to you and whatever you feel comfortable with!

[so-many-genders]

I am genderfluid, but all my fre inds and everyone knows me as a girl. I struggle because no one knows and I feel out of place in the world. I lied and said I was a lesbian so no one would suspect the truth. What do I do to help this trap I am in? I don't know how to come out

You can always come out just to one person! Identity is not always a sure and definite thing. I’ve gone through a couple of different sexuality labels, I think it’s the nature of the beast when you’re queer and trying to figure yourself out in an environment of heteronormativity.

Tell someone. I know. tell an internet friend. here is a place where you don’t need to worry, it is always a safe space

[so-many-genders]

Are you the same Trent Gates that cut off circulation to your dick and balls and casually posed with your severed extremity in photos?

Nope

[nb-stuff-blog]

Nonbinary people are still nonbinary, even if they don’t dedicate much time or mental energy thinking about their gender. Some nonbinary people just like to let themselves be, including their gender. Maybe they label their gender, maybe they don’t; either way, they’re still nonbinary! You don’t have to pin down all the details of your gender in order to be nonbinary, not unless you want to. 

[transgenderteensurvivalguide]

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Transgender Day of Visibility is on March 31st and if you’re trans then these blogs might boost your selfies if you send any to submit to them:

@brownandtrans (for all trans people of color)

@fattranspoc (for fat trans people of color)

@fuck-yeah-transmen (for trans guys)

@nbpocparty (for non-binary people of color)

@transmasculineselfielove (for transmasculine people)

@nbselfielove (for non-binary people)

@nonbinarynotandrogynous (for non-binary people)

@nonbinarycuties (for non-binary people)

@chubbytubbytrans (for fat and chubby trans people)

@fuckyeahcutetranschicks (for trans girls)

@transgirlsarebeautiful (for trans girls)

@dailytransselfies (general)

@transbutts (general)

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Transfeminine resources:

Presentation:

Tucking

Chest area

Voice

Broad shoulders tips

Hair removal

Feminine walk

Curves

Waist training

Growing out your hair

Clothing

Makeup

Passing

Medical transitioning:

Not medically transitioning

Fertility

Puberty blockers

Estrogen & anti-androgens/testosterone blockers FAQ

The types of surgery available

Surgery: A guide for transfeminine people

Pumping (Silicone injections)

Facial Feminization Options

Breast Augmentation

Genital surgery

Other:

Representation

Transfeminine period dysphoria

Yes, Transfeminine People Can Get Period Symptoms

Slipping into masculinity

Women’s restroom etiquette

Transfeminine people can breastfeed

Having sex or masturbating

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Transmasculine resources:

Presentation:

Binding FAQ

Masculine clothing

Facial hair

Masculine makeup

Getting short hair / Masculine long hair

If you can’t start T

Lowering your voice

Packing and standing to pee

Passing as male

Not shaving legs

Swimming

Medical transitioning:

Not medically transitioning

Fertility

Puberty blockers

Testosterone FAQ

Top surgery

Facial masculinization surgery

Body masculinization surgery

Hysterectomy and oophorectomy

Genital surgery

Other:

Periods and related things

Help! I need to see a gyno

Pumping

Masturbation and sex

Using the men’s bathroom

Hudson’s FTM Guide

Height dysphoria

Hip dysphoria

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More resources:

What gender am I? A roadmap to questioning

Trans 101 for trans people

What is the transgender umbrella?

How do I choose a name?

How do I come out at work/school or to family/friends?

Dysphoria info and coping tips

Mental health coping page

Being trans in school

Non-binary resources

Resources to send allies/friends

A page to send to parents/guardians

Convincing someone to respect name/pronouns

Here is how to get hormones in America

Here is how to get hormones in the UK

The NHS’s Guide For Young Trans People in England

Here’s a US resource with info on changing legally changing your name and gender marker

Here is a UK resource with info on changing legally changing your name and gender marker

What are the WPATH-SOC guidelines?

How to save money

How to buy a trans-related item online without parents knowing

I have to go swimming, what do I wear/do?

Trying to sleep when you have dysphoria

Airports and traveling by plane

Gender neutral bathrooms

Getting insurance to cover your transition

Does transitioning help mental health?

Trans teen’s experiences with inpatient hospitalization

Trans identity isn’t a mental disorder

Being religious and LGBT

Transgender Lives: Your Stories (to see trans adults)

Gender neutral pronouns in Spanish

Gender Variance Around the World Over Time

A map of gender-diverse cultures

American LGBT history by the National Parks Service

Other trans blogs on Tumblr

Crisis help: Suicide and crisis hotlines

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Anyone can reblog, including allies! Hopefully these resources reach someone who needs them. Happy TDOV everyone!