I'm almost entirely certain I'm asexual, but I'm having a hard time just kind of saying "yeah, this is who I am, and it's okay that this is who I am, and it's also okay if my identification changes" I'm not really sure what to do...
In all honesty, it takes time.
I know that’s probably not what you want to hear, but it’s true for many aces.
I kind of went through the same thing when I first discovered my asexuality. In order to help myself out with coming to terms with who I was, I did what I did best… I read. I found that reading other’s accounts of how they discovered their asexuality seemed to help. It made me realize that even though I came to the party later in life and with some uncertainty, I’d found my place finally.
I also found that writing a journal helped. I would do stream of consciousness writing where I just wrote whatever was on my mind at the time. Writing like that really helps me come to conclusions and think my way through things.
