#ignoring boundaries

[abrantepakjunyor]

Unhealthy Things to Avoid in a Relationship.

Here are some things to keep in mind to maintain a healthy relationship: Power Imbalance: One of the most important aspects of a healthy relationshipp is a balance of power between partners. In an unhealthy relationship, one partner may have almost complete control over the other, which can lead to feelings of resentment and low self-esteem. Avoid this by making sure both partners have equal say…

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[mentalillnessmouse]

I had an argument with this boy in my class and we were in the same mental hospital together and he'd told me he loved me and wanted babies with me before (I'm not sure whether he was joking) but he shouted at me in front of everyone and calmed down two seconds later to hug me and when I said 'okay' he said 'aww a little more positive than that' and wouldn't let go until I said 'okay!' in a fake happy voice. I'm terrified of him and my parents don't get it. Was that abusive behavior?

Hey anon,

That was toxic behavior. I don’t know if it was abusive, as “abusive behavior” is usually used to describe ongoing patterns, but this person doesn’t seem healthy for you to be around.

You have a right to say no to any form of physical contact you don’t want. You have a right to boundaries and limits, and he doesn’t seem to respect that. I would recommend keeping your distance from him, as well as talking to your teachers about the fact that he makes you uncomfortable/feel unsafe. You deserve a safe learning environment.

Stay strong.

--roboraptor

[beyondmimesis]

Although this blog mostly is features emerging artists/painters, the basic idea obviously is to highlight work that should be seen and ‘known about’ by us all.

Some time ago I stumbled about paintings by Dana Schutz, whose canvases are everything from small to large scale, mixing multiple perspectives with bright colors, post-cubistic approaches with figuration and narration, pop with politics and IPad-aesthetics, etc etc.  Beautiful, refreshing work creating its individual idiosyncrasy by seemingly ignoring previously established formal boundaries.

With Schutz by now already having had her solo at CFA Berlin, she’s bound to leave the ‘emerging’ for the ‘established’ — yet independent of market status, her work’s feistiness makes me smile. The use of light! The amount of detail! But most of all: the eloquence of craft! Here’s an artist understanding their territory: A lot of figurative artists would benefit tremendously from analyzing and understanding the looseness and strictness, the perfect balance-in-imbalance of work by someone of Schutz’s caliber.

Do yourself a favor and image-search her. Try to understand why she does what she does, and how she does it. And then transcend it: cherish, challenge and foster your own punkitude.