hi! i noticed your tags on an older post about labelling romantic attraction as well as sexual attraction, and for some people these labels are important bc they desire different things (like aromantics who still experience sexual attraction, or asexuals (like me!) who aren't a fan of sex but still enjoy romance). (1/2)
(2/2) being asexual but biromantic is something i like to establish before entering a relationship, to avoid going through another experience of begging, whining, or even manipulation to try to get me to have sex with my partner. i tend to not be shy about sharing it to avoid a future relationship with someone who would expect sex, but still make sure to list my romantic orientation to inform others i do indeed enjoy relationships
Hello, and that you for your question. I understand where you’re coming from, and I think it’s great to establish these things with your partner before entering a romantic relationship in order to foster reasonable expectations. I have no problem with label being important to people, or their usage to make communication and relationships easier. I take offense when people create these labels and use them to force themselves into other LGBT spaces, or act as if they are just as oppressed as others who are actually treated terribly for their sexual orientation, etc. What you’re doing is totally fine, but people who flaunt these labels in order to feel special and gain unneeded sympathy and special treatment are making a mockery of the LGBT movement and should stop. Again, what you’re doing is fine; it’s always good to inform your future partners of your expectations in relationships.
PS. Asexuality should be taken seriously as an identity, and your reluctance to have sex and willingness to inform your partners about it is realistic and smart. Bravo to you!