How to deal with an overwhelming amount of tasks (in GTD and in life)
Posted on the GTD Facebook page:
"I have written down every work and personal task I need to do, including converting emails to action items and now I have 580 work tasks, 346 personal tasks, 266 tasks for my assistant and 117 honey-dos for my husband! I have them organized by project and date, but am feeling overwhelmed by the sheer volume of it all! Any advice? Thanks so much for your work.
Answer from David Allen:
Well, you have as many commitments as you have, and unless you want eternal subliminal stress, you need to get them objectively out of your head and reviewable. As you’ve discovered, your next task to get more stress-free is to determine which ones are really “someday” vs. which ones need to be on the front shelf. Essentially, everything that you’re not doing at any moment is “someday,” but the psyche feels much better when you have made some distinctions between the active ones that you really want/need to get done within a reasonable time vs. those that can wait. Ultimately you’ll have to decide what kind of overview/map you need and want to see, to feel OK about what you’re doing. So there’s no right or wrong answer about any of this—only what’s most workable for you.
I've had this exact same problem, and the solution isn't accepting that the weight of the world is on your shoulders.
Rather, the solution is: To shrug.
The problem you're facing is:
Important tasks drown among unimportant ones. Same goes for urgent/not urgent tasks. You're not able to get a proper and manageable overview over what you need to do.
"Long lists don't get done." It's a guilt trip. You feel bad about yourself when you're not able to make the list become noticeably smaller.
GTD doesn't really give any good advice on "what tasks NOT to write down". The only mention in GTD I've found is: ".. if you're like most people, having some type of self-regulating mechanism will help you become more aware of what you want to keep and what you should just get rid of" [regarding the read/review list] (p148). What if you don't have that self-regulating mechanism? How do you obtain it, before the system overflows?
The underlying cause is probably:
You're a creative person. This also plays out in coming up with stuff that you could potentially do. (GTD actually encourages you to be creative when writing your lists, often giving you simply too much noise.)
You start with "Yes". And you're overly optimistic about your own capabilities, and how much time or effort tasks actually require.
You're ambitious. You want to do more than you're able to get done (appetite > ability).
You're afraid of missing out on something, so you write everything down, to not risk forgetting something. This is loss aversion at it's finest.
I've found the following principles work as a solution:
Forgetting and "missing out" can be a blessing.
Forgetting is actually the best way "to get something completely off your mind" (which you might recognize is the stated purpose behind GTD). Writing stuff on a list will only get it off your mind until the next time you look at that list. If you look at the list often, then that task will consume your attention more often (and give you a guilt-trip too).
Attention is your scarcest resource. Before you wrote everything down, you were perfectly able to forget all the less important tasks, or someday/maybes, and that didn't cause you any pain, did it?
Being able to forget stuff makes you able to give your full attention on the stuff that is really important.
The world won't end if you miss out on doing certain tasks every now and then. Don't succumb to the worry and Fear Of Missing Out. Forgetting the mundane, will help you taste life more (and not living it through your lists). Accept the fact that you will be missing out possible-things-to-do all the time; on the web, in relationships, and in life in general. No matter what you do, or how much you do, there's always an abundance of things you could potentially also do, that you won't be able to. It's actually a good thing that you can't do everything, because that forces you to choose what you value. That will set you apart.
Go on a todo-diet. See how many things you could get away with not doing, and experience the fact that life goes on, pretty much as normal, even still.
People will ask you a second time if you've forgotten their request, and they won't be mad if you tell them they have to wait. It's totally OK to not "jump onto" a email/request/task the minute you see it, or to be constantly "hovering" over your inbox. People really don't expect you to do it immediately (in case they did, they would/should have texted or called you). And the next time life hands you that "thing you should do something about", or you experience "that problem you should fix" life will gently remind you, automatically.
"Start with No" / "Don't write it down".
Make actions work hard to get on your next action list. Make each action prove itself and show that it's a survivor. Make the initial response "not now" instead of "yes, lets write it down". (thank you 37signals). This is opposed to David Allens advice of writing everything down: "you need to get them objectively out of your head and reviewable".
If the action keeps coming back (in your mind, or from others), then it's time to consider it. If you want to do it (in the light of all the other next actions you have, and while realizing that it will come at the expense of the others), then write it down.
If someone requests you for something they're motivated to get from you, ask them to email you about it, instead of writing it down yourself at first. If they want it, it's their responsibility to go get it. If they forget (or don't bother) to to email you about it (or ask you again for it), then it's probably not that important to them. Viola, you just relieved yourself of remembering / tracking it. Being able to forget it made you able to focus on the stuff that was really important.
You just won't be able to do it all!
I find this to be unsound advice from David Allen: "you have as many commitments as you have".
Most of the stuff you deem you "need to do", you really don't. "Pleasing everyone, all of the time, is a surefire way to failure" someone once said. I'd extend this to pleasing your own apetite / ambition / wants all of the time. When your GTD-system inevitably crashes, or you realize that tasks have been lying on your next action list for weeks/months, you realize that it's really not a task you "need to do". Trash it, or put it into "someday/maybe" (then trash it from that list again if it's been there for several months).
Break stuff into smaller lists.
I go against GTD's advice, and use a daily todo-list. I try to filter my next-action list in the morning, and make a smaller list of stuff I decide to do "Today". The tasks on that list are grouped by context, and with a lot of whitespace between the contexts (so the contexts look like separate sub-lists). There, a much more manageable list.
If tasks carry over to the next day, I just use the same "Today" list as the day before (I just update it during my daily review of the next actions list). The reason for this today-list is in having decided on an agenda for the day, and to:
Avoid drowning your important/urgent tasks in between the rest.
Such a today-list is against the advice of GTD, but is actually in line with what David Allen stated above:
"[it] feels much better when you have made some distinctions between the active ones that you really want/need to get done within a reasonable time vs. those that can wait."
The key is realizing: You won't be able to glance at a list of 20+ tasks and quickly know what to do next!
Trust your intuition more than your lists.
Your brain is the best filter in the world. I've often looked for "the answer" somewhere in my lists. It's funny how we look for someone or something (even our own lists/systems) to give us the answer. Instead of exerting the (painful, strenuous) effort of thinking ourselves. When I realize I'm doing this, it's probably because I'm really low on energy, and default to less cognitive demanding tasks (like moving stuff up and down in my lists). Take a good break, and get something to eat. Sadly, but truly: There is no substitute for thinking yourself.
Usually, "the answer" to what you should be doing right now, you somehow already know. It's usually what makes you feel accomplished / not accomplished at the end of the day. Use your lists only as a check, not as a "blueprint answer".
Don't work "in" the list (sorting, prioritizing etc.). Let your intuition give you the answer instead.
What I'm trying to do these days:
1. Look over the calendar and the list, for a rough overview.
2. Put the list away, take a break and contemplate what I really want to do, and how I should start it.
3. Without looking back on the list: Start working on a task that would make me feel accomplished (It's often an urgent and important task, or an important but not urgent task. Thank you 7habits). If it's hard to determine what the most important task is; just pick one. Better to get started than caught in analysis paralysis (yet again).
4. Later: Go back to the list, and check that I didn't forget anything.
Let the list only serve as a check that you didn't forget anything important.
Working on GTD or actually getting things done?
If you're spending a lot of time on managing your system/tasks, and not on getting things done, then you're doing it wrong. Set aside some time to reflect on how you could reduce your system to a minimum. System overhead is wasteful expenditure of attention.
An optimal system, should get out of your way and get you going in the overall right direction, as fast as possible. You can course-correct underway.
So, when you're yet again overwhelmed with tasks, and it feels like the weight of the world is back on your shoulders: Shrug.
Update:
Here are some practical tips on what types of things to avoid keeping track of in GTD: 5 things to keep out of OmniFocus.