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[spaghetti-steven-side-dish]

Speaking in the context of the United States and mostly online social interactions…I think one of the reasons transmisogynistic attitudes are prevalent in many transmasc circles is insecurity of gender identity/expression.

Growing up we are taught everything boy is just girl but opposites and therefore better because Girl Bad.

It seems to me, (I could absolutely be wrong please correct me). That trans women due to the oppression have a sort of in built framework and lots of choice within that (with lots of pushback and shit no matter what you do) and solidarity with other trans women and TMA people and even cis women on account of being women/rejected by patriarchy, there is already a history of rebellion in gender, there is a framework and a community.

But in my experience trans mascs are left with little to no rebellious gender anchor point or strong community. I don’t know why this is.

But the outcome is that we have to construct our own gender identifiers from scratch and I’ll be honest idk what that even means for my own self.

Masculinity has been so defined in vague terms of Not Woman or as adjectives like Tough, Dependable, Even-Keeled.

Which…are all things women in my life have been way more than the men.

Not to even get into the completely Non binary people which can be a whole other can of worms for a binary trans man’s self perceptions.

And yes, obviously, we too are rejected by Patriarchy, but the solidarity with women and TMA people feels less secure not because of them, but because TME trans people, especially trans men, are often going to be massively insecure with our identities. The Social identifiers for my gender as a binary trans man were long long ago twisted to suit those in power and kept rigid with intense ferocity and cruelty.

By identifying with women in solidarity, with any non-men, the one anchor point that’s been drilled into our heads is shaken. And so out of insecurity hatches jealousy and rage. Hitting the only targets possible, punching down and to the side.

So this means the best cure for transmisogyny in TME/ trans masc /trans men circles is greater healthy solidarity between all of us trans masc and trans man brothers and siblings and knowledge and understanding of trans feminism.

We need to learn how to understand ourselves, we need iron sharpening iron, and we cannot allow anyone to take out their frustrations on our TMA sisters and siblings.

[greyspec]

From this post, which I didn’t want to add more discussion to since it didn’t quite seem like the post to have it on, but pinging @just-aro and @raavenb2619 if y’all want to see this:

honestly i hope “loveless” as a label/adjective never gets an official definition because it already exists as a word that aros may resonate with for many different reasons. i want to say it’s open to any person (aro or not) who want to call themselves loveless. it’s a word we borrowed from the english language! it’s free to use!

i don’t consider myself a loveless aro in the sense that it’s not part of the orientation terminology that i’d use for myself, but i do consider myself a proponent of lovelessness as an ideology (‘you don’t need love to be good’) & i’m ‘loveless’ in the sense that i don’t consider feeling affective love personally important often (it can fluctuate i think?). tbh i feel weirdly about loveless as a label when it’s used to mean ‘someone who believes you don’t need love to be good’ because like. i want everyone to believe that.

First, clarification: “official definition” to me means something like “one true definition everyone should use” and I just consider that bad practice in principle for identity labels.

I have two more suggestions about talking about lovelessness. I don’t consider it terribly important that people take me up on them, because ‘loveless’ is a word that is free to use, labels shouldn’t have official definitions, etc.—but sometimes I do get confused about its usage & think there are easy ways for individuals to mitigate that confusion if that’s something people are interested in:

Not using ‘loveless’ to mean ‘supporting the idea that love is separate from goodness’; instead saying something like ‘supporter of lovelessness,’ ‘pro-lovelessness,’ the entire ‘supporting the idea that love is separate from goodness,’ etc.

Providing alternate definition suggestions to ‘loveless’ as a label such as:

‘sometimes/often/always feeling personally and/or deeply connected to the idea that love is separate from goodness’

‘sometimes/often/always feeling like the idea that love is separate from goodness is personally important’

‘sometimes/often/always not considering any/some feelings of love to be personally important’ (if you wanna borrow how I feel about love)

‘sometimes/often/always not feeling much or any affective love, whatever much means to you’

I want to know if this is in any way asking a lot of someone from people who use loveless as a label and if there is interest putting this usage into practice? Or if other people also get kneejerk confusion when loveless is used to mean supporting lovelessness like I do.

[trendsnewsandnetwork-blog]

Case Filed Against 70 People In Inter-Community Clash Outside Gurudwara

Case Filed Against 70 People In Inter-Community Clash Outside Gurudwara

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A heavy police deployment has been made in the area. (Representational)

Shahjahanpur: 

A clash broke out between people belonging to two separate communities outside a gurudwara following which a case was registered against more than 70 persons for rioting and arson, the police said today.

Additional Superintendent of Police (rural) Subhash Chandra Shakya said that tension erupted…

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Internet Society (ISOC) Celebrates 25 Years Anniversary

Internet Society #ISOC Celebrates 25 Years Anniversary #thenext25

The ISOC, Internet Society’s celebrates the 25th year of advocacy for an open, trusted Internet available to everyone, everywhere.

During this anniversary year, ISOC wants to apply that experience to look forward to the next 25 years on the Internet

Plans include:

25 Under 25 – A new program to shine the light on young people between the ages of 13 and 25 who are using the Internet to make a…

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[les-bi-anity]

(1/1)@anon asking about me (les with a bi sister… mod feel free to not post this if it comes off as rude!) I’m not happy with my sister, not because she’s bi. That doesn’t bother me at all. What bothers me is that we don’t have an overly liberal/accepting family and her coming out could mean my coming out being more difficult. Having two LGB kids in the same family is a toughbite to chew for a lot of people, and I have concerns that some will think I’m “copying” my bihet sister--

(2/4) or that they’ll brush it off because my sister is with a man, so they might think I’ll end up that way too (a lot of people don’t really differentiate bisexuality from homosexuality) I’m currently a freshman in college, while she just moved back in with my parents after getting her degree (with her boyfriend). They plan to get married and stay monogamous and my family loves him so I don’t understand how her being bisexual is relevant to anyone except her when she has no plans---

(3/4) to be with a woman. I on the other hand, will never be in a relationship with a man. I’m actually in my first relationship with another girl and it’s terrifying. I don’t want to hide her from my family if we do stay together so coming out is kind of inescapable in the near future, unless I do hide her which I feel is a burden she doesn’t deserve, even if she’s been understanding so far, I don’t want that to be a strain. My sister coming out is more of an act of defiance than anything.--

(4/4)I’ve talked to her but she gets mad at me when I express these concerns (bc obviously it means I’m not happy for her and I’m a massive biphobe) so it’s all frustrating and complicated. I’m sure you didn’t mean anything, there’s nothing wrong with anyone coming out, but when you have the safety of a opp-sex relationship and don’t plan to leave it, it maybe is a bit selfish. Especially when she knows I’m gay and don’t have that same safety net as her. I hope that clears things up!

thanks anon. 

i’d just like to say, though, that this blog doesn’t advocate the use of the word bihet! 

[sapphicconfessions]

Sometimes I feel like the sapphic community on tumblr tries to be something it's not. We prioritize cis girls, white girls, able-bodied girls, and see nb sapphics as "basically girls." Moodboards and tag yourself posts are cool, but some people act like they're better than others, and put eachother down. That's not what this community is about. We should be uplifting one another, not trying to sabotage happy relationships, or silence the voices of people who need to speak.

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[angry-old-asian-man]

Friendly reminder: I've had non-First Gen African Americans prefer and take offence to both terms, Black and African American. However, BLM is an important and needed movement. In addition, white people are the only ones who have the "priveledge" of getting to be a whole fucking person. Asia, Latin, from which Asian and Latino are derived are proper nouns, as are Africa or Swedish. Therefore, they are always capital. That First Persons or Native American are a two-word proper noun, I think, is generally accepted. Now, linguistics state that black and white, being colours, like green or purple, are adjectives and don't get capitalised. But Black is an racial ethnic identity under attack-- again, Black Lives Matter. (A white person may be shot by a cop, but it's not because of their race. Equally, a white cis woman will not face sexual violence because of her race, as would an Asian woman or Black trans woman--I note because Black trans women are under special attack in a way that their cis peers even aren't. They all face violence over gender as women, but this doesn't mean the white woman is under attack for being white; she's under attack for being a woman. And a white person attacked by a cop will have a similar something else that the cop attacked them for. (Additionaly, if you punch me because you got drunk and that makes you hit people, and I grab your hands to stop you from punching me, that's self defence. This is what we of colour--and we of queerness--are trying to do to the white supremacist structure--and the suppression of queer people. (You all like the idea of getting a baddie with your shotgun, right? Well, by protesting your violence against us, we're standing our ground. (I heard a saying from someone who was here for 1970s feminism in America, "what's good for the goose is good for the gander." [Gander is male goose]. Well, what's heroic when the elephant does it is heroic for lions, buffalo, and tigers, too [Elephant is a GOP symbol and I don't know what big/predator animal is thought of for Europe. Lions are native to the continent of Africa, buffalo, to at least North America, and there's tigers in at least the snowy parts of mainland Asia. Japan has a lot of wild apes, but apes are totally chill as long as you let them be. Elephants are in Asia, too--India, especially. But I needed/something/ for these people, and they claimed GOP here, which uses elephant). Also, whites have every other priveledge in the book. Though if I'm talking about a guy who came from Germany when he was five, obviously German American is capital because both are proper nouns. And all the other racial names are multiple word proper nouns. So, when I say Black people/Americans/etc, it gets a capital letter. (If you see capital Buffalo, I used to live in NY. There's a city named that upstate. Habit.)

[w2radvice]

Hi! I'm a transman and I'm starting T soon, but I am always so happy for transwomen to a point where I wonder: Shouldn't I be more focussed on transmen? I don't know my it makes me so happy to see transwomen find their way. Is that weird? I always identified as a feminist and idk. Is that a thing to worry about?

Hey friend,

It’s perfectly okay to feel joy for trans women. Just be careful not to inject yourself into intracommunity conversations between trans women, talk over trans women, or fetishize them for being trans.

Good luck starting t!

-Sophia