#loveless

[biornicles]

fun fact "a-spec people can still feel love even if it's different from what amatonormative society considers love" and "some people don't experience love at all and that's fine and doesn't make them any less human or worthy of respect" are two statements that can and do coexist

[moonprismpower456]

“Reminder that aspecs can still date and love their friends and family” and themselves. And their hobbies, and their passion in life, and the media they consume and their pets and places they like to go and food and drinks they like and in fact they don’t have to subscribe to the idea of “love” at all. You don’t have to date or have friends or family to be a person. You don’t have to fit into what society wants your life to be like to not be a robot. When I complain about aphobes implying that people who don’t date are machines, I’m not just complaining that they devalue platonic or familial love. They’re devaluing the idea of being your own person and thats a type of aphobia people don’t talk about enough. Aspecs can do whatever they want forever and that includes everything.

[microwavedasphalt]

i just saw the phrase loveless marriage and i was gonna be like “oh thats so based actually” until i realized it was meant to be a bad thing ✌️💔

[aroapl]

Once again asking y'all to remember loveless, aplatonic, and afamilial aros this valentines day. Some aros don't have any kind of interest in substituting any other kind of love for romantic love, and there's nothing wrong with that.

[silliestcolressfan]

non loveless person, there is a post in front of you that talks about how love isnt the best thing ever and its not what makes us human. all you have to do is Not comment how you agree "but platonic love IS the best thing ever and IS what makes us human". if you fail and comment that, the hill will be silent. you have 60 seconds

[faerie-fangs]

girlfriend and boyfriend is like one of those things you do in grade school but stop believing in after like the tooth fairy and cooties

[neptune-scythe]

I hate the idea that the opposite of love is straight up evil, and that love is required to experience any positive or caring emotion or be "a good person" (whatever tf that even means)

anyone can have empathy or compassion or respect without "love"

you can be social and have community and close relationships without having "love"

you can never experience "love" and still be kinder and treat people better than people who do experience it

and it doesn't make you evil

even if you don't experience empathy or any emotion like that it doesn't make you evil

not experiencing any emotions at all doesn't make you evil

and being empathetic and loving and compassionate doesn't make you immune to being evil or hurting people either

nothing is that black and white

love is in fact not what makes us human

it's literally just another emotion on the same level as all the others ... and not everyone experiences it, just like any other emotion

and while I'm at it there is nothing wrong with being anti social or having a hard time connecting with other people or having no desire for human connection

as long as you're not purposely hurting people, or unintentionally hurting people but never taking accountability or responsibility for it then you're doing okay

stay loveless stay heartless be social or anti social whatever it is you are

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