A reminder for everyone on the Internet | Rant
⚠️ This is going to be uncomfortable. I'm sorry if I made anyone panic but this is a reminder to people on the internet since this happens a lot and you should NOT feel responsible for other people unless under a certain circumstance. This does involve mentioning the words self-harm and a short story of said self-harm but not by me. Again, I'm so sorry if I cause panic. Read with caution. ⚠️
As much as I want to go in-depth into what caused this blurt of words (If you know, then we both need to go touch some grass, my dude. It's not healthy to read drama).
When someone is being harmful to themselves or states they are. YOU as a PERSON should cut ties with them right away.
"But that is an ass thing to do," You said, angrily, "We should help them recover! Not abandon them!"
No. As someone who has been in that position more than once with different people. You should just straight up ditch them. If you know them in real life as in YOU are able to provide help, then GET THEM HELP. If you are online and can't do anything as in...(Get in contact with their family members, police, their in real life friends) DITCH THEM. They are not your problem.
YOU AS A PERSON ARE NOT SUITED TO DEAL WITH THAT AMOUNT OF STRESS AND PRESSURE. IT'S UNHEALTHY.
A normal person, should not deal with this amount of stress of someone's life in their hands. That's why professionals exist! They are trained and taught to deal with this stressful situation. YOU AS A PERSON ARE NOT. FUCKIN' PERIOD.
"But what if they are my friend! I can't ditch them!" Can you get them help? "uh..." CAN YOU GET IN CONTACT WITH THEIR FAMILY MEMBER? "No, that's bad-" HOW ABOUT A RL FRIEND OR A LIFELINE DO YOU KNOW ANY INFO ABOUT THEM THAT CAN TRULY HELP THEM? "...no." THEN YOU ARE NOT A "Friend" YOU ARE JUST ASSOCIATED WITH THEM. Or worse a problem.
But what if they are your friend and you have no idea how to help them. You don't have resources to help them, you don't have a way to connect them to their friends and family. What can you do in this situation? Get them help. How. They're not going to get help. Unless someone physical is there to truly help them. Being online will not help them.
"How about a support circle? Isn't that a good thing?" Yes, and no. Yes, it is a good thing but, if they're not getting help then no. Make a support circle the moment they are getting help. If you make a support circle and they are not getting help then sadly you are being used and again, sadly you're creating an "addiction" since they will now have a mindset of either lying to you about getting help or convincing themselves that they don't need help as long you are there to comfort them or doing both which is still bad.
This is an ass thing to do I get it. I was in that situation before it's alarming when someone just straight up out of nowhere confesses to you that they were harming themselves and saying they are going to poison themselves or even worse already have and decided to dump all sort of shit to you. Like what the fuck! Obviously, at that time I wasn't like fuck you or wtf get fuckin' help. I was panicked and begged them to call emergency or at least give me some sort of info about them so I can call emergency for them but no! They will not spill and in fact, got upset that I "demanded" info out of them.
I, later, after hours of finally getting them to "puke" out the poison (They later went to bed), decided to talk to a friend and explain what the fuck happen. They then ask if I was okay, not the person, me. I honestly told them, "no, I was not,..." I was more worried for the person. They told me "no, don't be worried about them. What they did was wrong." And then went on to tell me that we as people are not suited for this. And will never be suited for it. But I did not listen, I care about people and sadly that is still an unhealthy cycle to this day about how I care about people. It happen again, the person poisoned themselves and dump shit onto me since I would not leave their side... I was their comfort person. I told the same friend again and they help me write a message to the person. I later block them and carried on with my life. The one thing I would like to note in that message my friend mentioned themselves in the message in case they wanted to write something to me like an apology for what happened... I never got my apology.
Again, I know this is difficult, I know some of this is wrong but if you really, truly, don't have a way to help... the best thing you can do for that person is to block and move on. Slowly, distance yourself from them. In fact, ghost them.
I do want to mention if there was a way to have a therapy session with an actual therapist online (That isn't a scam) that would be wonderful and you can actually help but so far it's not coming true (VR would be a great place since you can invite your friends to have a session with you in case your nervous on telling your therapist what is happening since it'll feel like you are physically there helping them along the way).
That is all my little rant. Please be safe, and please know the signs of a toxic relationship and get the fuck out of it as soon as possible.














