#introvert confessions

[girlygirlblush1111]

[an-infp-mess]

Whenever I interact with a person who is just as socially awkward as me it's so exhausting and awkward, but at the same time I feel this deep comradery.

[juniperkittyadventures]

A difficult thing about being an introvert is trying to explain to an extrovert why I can't go out with them at the last minute and them not understanding that I had no warning for this added social time, have already had my shower and changed into pajamas, and feel that it is somewhere between physically impossible and morally wrong to get dressed again, undo all that I've spent the last few hours doing, and upset my normal routine which brings me comfort.

[skellybonesandtrees]

You know, I'm sure I'm not alone in this but I do miss wearing masks in public? Yes, they were mostly for health reasons, but the reason I miss them is...people couldn't see my whole face? And in the age of over exposure, where everyone can whip out a cell phone and bam, you end up somewhere in the background of some stranger's instagram vlog, or worse, the subject of a meme or public shaming campaign? It just felt good to be sort of mysterious!

I've always tried to be invisible so that time where we were trying to avoid the plague? Actually brings somewhat sweet memories.

[myfavorite26]

Last day of school was yesterday, my family is all out town=complete and total alone time for this introvert, it’s raining outside, and I’m rewatching Schitt’s Creek from the beginning...this day couldn’t be better!!!

[queergremlin]

How to tell if you’re overpowering your quiet friend

Ok guys, so as the person who’s usually the “quiet one” in just about any group, I have a few thoughts.  A lot of times I’m kind of the group wallflower in that I like to sit back and watch and listen to interactions, and most of that is ok because I’m a hardcore introvert and that’s just who I am.  Sometimes, however, people like me want to interact and interject opinions a bit more but are kind of just overpowered by all of the louder people who are more liberal with their thoughts.  We generally loathe “breaking in” to a conversation that’s fast paced without any breaks and so will choose sitting in silence over voicing our thoughts.  In my experience this usually isn’t purposeful at all on the part of the talkative people, so I thought I’d share a few ways to know if you’re unintentionally overpowering your quiet friend(s). 

Ask yourself if you know these things about your friend (this is obviously assuming that you’re in a fairly close-knit friend group where real talk regularly happens):

What’s an issue that they’re passionate about?

If there is a general consensus among the friend group about a topic, does this particular friend agree or disagree?

What’s something major that this friend has gone through in the recent past?

If your group regularly eats out, what’s their favorite/least favorite place to go?

What’s a cool talent they have?

What’s one thing that they say all the time?

What’s something they really love?

What’s something they really hate?

Obviously these are just a few general questions and nothing is one size fits all, but if you realize that you know most/all answers for most of your friend group and none or only a couple for a certain person, I can guarantee you that they will completely love you for creating an intentional space for them.  Just a simple “What’s your opinion, __(insert name here)__?” is a godsend for people like me because it gives me a clearly recognized opening to speak up without having to fight for it.  If your friend legit doesn’t have an opinion, they’ll tell you so, but odds are they have a million thoughts they’ve been keeping in their head rather than calling attention to themselves.

So go ahead and give it a try.  If you intentionally notice someone that’s really good at going unnoticed, there’s a huge chance that you just got yourself a new best friend.

[black-introvert-confessions]

It’s Complicated

Vent:

Sometimes I wish I could find a community, to be honest, but it’s really hard to find people and open up to them and talking is tiring. Things I like will come and go, mainly because my special interests fluctuate. I want to talk to people, but too many think it’s okay to test and/or insult my existence because I’m a lot of things at a young age, not including my ethnicities. I would love to tear down those people, but they are my environment and I have been practically forced to live in it because those same individuals decided to run my life instead of leaving me alone.

[modern-hermit]

101+ days

A little over 101 days since my exodus from Texas to the dry, sunny state of California. In those 101 days I have found a new job, met new people, and struggle with thousands of Los Angeles inhabitants to find parking.

I can’t quite call this busy city home, but I am trying.