#invalidation kink

[shockspectrum]

i love casual birth where everyone but the person in labor is chill about it. they're freaking out, screaming in pain and panic, begging for help, but nobody really cares. this happens all the time. it's just birth, you'll be fine. move along, you're holding up the line.

[shockspectrum]

"why the hell are you screaming so loud? it's just birth" dom vs "if you're not screaming, the pain must not actually be bad. you must not be in actual labor" dom

[shockspectrum]

person whose contractions are extra painful but who keeps being told they're just being dramatic because "nobody else freaks out that much"