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Posting at 1 am because I make good life choices.

Anyways, a semi-good life choice was to read the latest Captain Awkward, which is about dealing with family who aren’t vaccinated and are likely to react badly to “I’m not coming home for Christmas this year either”, and that got me thinking about the thing queeranarchism has been posting about vaccine hesitancy.

And I guess some people in the note are taking it as, you know, not being adequately in favor of the covid vaccine. But it’s not about that. It’s about anything. If you want people to change their minds, listening works better than lecturing.

About anything.

You know a smoker and are worried about their lungs? You don’t have to avoid the subject, but do be prepared to do more listening than talking. They’ve already heard everything you might tell them anyways.

I meant to come up with a series of examples, but turns out it’s one in the morning and I can’t be bothered.

The exceptional cases are where you don’t have to change anyone’s minds — this is why voting is like this, you don’t need everyone to agree, you just need to get your team to show up to the polls in larger numbers than the other team. So riling up your team is more important than changing the minds of the other team. (Or I guess teams, for people who live somewhere that doesn’t have the annoying AF two party system deal.) There’s situations where changing people’s minds or behaviors isn’t actually necessary/all that important.

This, though, is a situation where people acting a certain way or not has very high consequences. (And getting pro vaccination people more fired up about vaccination…doesn’t actually do much, it’s not like there’s that much more you can do once you’ve gotten vaxxed. I guess you can offer your friends a ride or babysitting or something?) Which means it’s y’know the responsible thing to do to do what works, rather than what feels satisfying. And what works is trying to understand.

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