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[wytv7]

*PODCAST #1 Communication & Trust Rekindle Your Love

[chrismas-81]

Digital #sketch of Mr Jones and Mr Sheasby from #stonefoundation. Used for my #ukulelecover on #soundcloud. Their new album #isloveenough is another belter. Thoroughly recommended. #neiljones #neilsheasby #rnb #soul #mod #britpop #paulweller #musician #singer #songwriter #funk #art #drawing #illustration #digitalart #adobeillustrator #adobedraw #comicart #comicdrawing #instagood #instaart #artstagram #chrismassoncreates #artistsoninstagram #glasgowartist https://www.instagram.com/p/CF-JbB_hoH1/?igshid=iyto5p3uvzcu

[venusbrinas-blog]

contemplating leaving.. stay or go..does it really even matter...

im so tired of holding it together..tired of sleeping alone, eating alone, parenting alone, everything a partner should be by my side for i do it alone.. I already feal like im a single mom. I do EVERYTHING for my little ones,I go above and beyond...If i ever do receive any help from my partner its quickly thrown in my face..like example i was so exausted from getting no sleep right..i fell asleep for 30 40 minutes..he said i let u sleep an took care of our kids..basicly he did it all everything i do alone daily and did it all better as well n a whooping 30 mins and he adds to it WHILE U SLEPT ALL MORNIN...So ya if and when he ever does something nice i feal like its only to throw it in my face.. Hes always right..Im always wrong..its just to much to take anymore..im just so tired..I find myself wandering around like a zombie every day fallin asleep doin normal things ive always done..This schedule of no sleep is really taken a tole on me and if he cared hed help me figure it all out.. right...He'd step up an really help out right...?? RIGHT..???.WELL, one would like to think so...IT JUST NEVER HAPPENS..I feal lost...I dont no should i stay an keep dealing with this EVERYDAY, praying itl get better or do i just GO...IDK SERIOUSLY..??!!?!! So i just exist daily till i figure it all out..Im not sure if love is enough anymore..

[sharonreneepa]

Get lost in the story of Gypsy and Jameson! An Epic romance that will draw you in and leave you with a heart hangover. If you loved the movie A Star is Born, you will fall in love with this one. Universal Link —-> https://books2read.com/u/3RVn2x Add to your TBR → https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/43839306-gypsy http://www.kellymooreauthor.com/gypsy-and-jameson/ #Gypsy #Epiclovestories #music #heartbreak #isloveenough https://www.instagram.com/p/Bvmt5hYggwv/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=17ejbezieyf3h

[dolceaversace-blog]

#pandimonium #kungfupanda4 #TheTaleOfTheMissingPrincess #princessdelafairestview #Sosophisticato #wemissyou #ravenna #WontYouChangeYahHeart #itsbeenlongenough #tell me #isloveenough #unleashthedragon #beast #from #the #pit ! #Vladburns #vladtheimpaler

[urflyness1]

Is Love Enough?

Is love alone enough to sustain a relationship?  If you have someone that loves you unconditionally, with every being in their body without a question of doubt, is that enough to sustain a relationship?  If you experience love from this person like no other has ever given, is that enough?  You know that you are their world, yet neither of you are perfect, none of us are, we all have flaws.  You know that they are willing to adjust to make you happy, even if it is a temporary adjustment, yet they try. Should we not consider that they are not in a position financially to pick up the slack let alone help in a pinch?  Should we not consider that they cannot fix anything nor pay for things to get fixed? Should we not consider that they are unable and have not been able to accept your children that are not theirs?  Should we not consider that they look to you for everything, not sure if they don’t know or need your approval?  Is love alone enough especially when you have never experienced true love, real love?  Is love alone enough when that is all they have to offer?  Should you wait for the rest to follow, not knowing if or when that will be, and if so how long?  We know relationships are all about give and take and what one is willing to accept. Do we accept love alone, or do we continue to search for it all?  Is it possible to have it all?  Would love alone be enough when that’s all someone have to offer?

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoings, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 1 Corinthians 13:13 So now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love

[kingdombuilt-blog]

It's up click the link in our bio to read the rest #IsLoveEnough #Page1 #authorbuild #chapter11

[kingdombuilt-blog]

Chapter 11

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Is Love Enough?

Written By Ashanti Chambers

 One of my favorite songs of all time is “Fairytales” from the soulful Anita Baker.  In this song, the singer talks about all the stories young girls are told about meeting prince charming and how reality kicks in and shuts that dream down.  She starts off with this happy upbeat tune about what love should be and how from childhood, we receive these different images and speeches on what love will feel and look like.  As the song moves toward it’s ending, Anita brings up the harsh realities of what real love is; the untold stories your parents didn’t want you know.  I never really understood her lyrics and those lyrics didn’t really make sense until I became an adult.  My philosophy then was, if I love you, and you loved me, that was enough to sustain a relationship but is love enough?  Even in the bible, it mentions how love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things……….well…you get the point. But after a lot of heartache over the years, disappointment and one failed marriage that I should have never entered and another failed marriage where my spouse walk out………………I’d come to believe that……well…..love may not be enough; at least in my opinion. Now I know my story won’t be like yours and every one from the bible scholars to newlyweds to even teenage “puppy love” couples will denounce my statement as someone who just hasn’t found the right person, or someone who will never experience real love or even pin me as needing more time in church to really understand that love is what makes the world go round.  

Don’t get me wrong, love has it place and should not be excluded or substituted for money, lust, revenge or something else it was not intended to be. Love is what I feel when I look down at my children each night before they go to sleep.  Love is what I feel when I know God forgives me for my sins even though I don’t deserve it.  I get the grasp of its importance so please don’t think I am negating it.  However, in terms of finding that one you can call your own, that special someone who you feel you will spend the rest of your life with…..the one you can share your innermost secrets with…….I wonder can love truly be the glue that will sustain and maintain a relationship above all else?

Back to my Anita memories, “She said he’d slay all dragons, defeat the evil prince” is the line that Anita Baker sang that made me believe without a shadow of a doubt when I find the man she described, I will love him for life and no matter what we would be together forever.

“You never came to save me, you let me stand alone, Out in the wilderness, alone in the cold……..….my fantasy is over, my life must now begin……………”   Well, I thought, even when the fantasy was over, love will be enough for the rest of the journey.  In my twenties, I admit it was enough for me.  Through the lying and the cheating, I still loved him.  Through the hurtful and painful actions (mutually done to each other), I… loved… him, I really did and that was enough.  He said he loved me.  He said he really did.  But all the love we said we had for each other, all the emotions that went in to “I do’s”,  all of the countless “I love you” on the phone, and before we went to bed and before work and when we prayed and all the times we said it or gestured it when it was all said and done LOVE didn’t sustain us LOVE didn’t maintain us , love got a good laugh at my expense and didn’t wait around to help through the pain.  Love just wasn’t enough. It seemed like love coupled with “do what I want” or “meet my expectations” would be enough to last. But love just didn’t seem like it was enough.  

My current husband (yes, I’ve been married three times, don’t give up on me yet) says he love me. I love him that’s what I tell him. Not every day is paradise though and many people equate love to having a jolly ole time and no disappointments but LOVE is be able to stay in commitment to your partner when things don’t go seemingly as planned.  There are arguments, disappointments, some hurtful words said out of sheer emotion that we are still growing to work on.  Some days, I have looked him in the eyes after becoming so frustrated with him about something he did and I told him “I don’t think love is enough for me anymore.  The older I get, I need love coupled with you fitting in my big box of expectations” (well the part about expectations I didn’t say but looking back now; that was the message I was trying to relay).  I could see the hurt in his face but, I needed to keep it honest with him. Love was cute in my twenties, but in my thirties, not merely enough.  

The last time I stated this to my husband was about two months ago. As the words “Love is just not enough for me anymore” slipped off my lips, I was immediately silenced by this gut wrenching feeling that instantly caused me to stop speaking.  I couldn’t stop this feeling so I stopped talking.  I could feel God’s disapproval with this statement and for the first time, I felt a sense of shame for my words.  I thought about John 3:16 “For God so Loved the World, that He gave His Only Son” This kept ringing in my ear until it finally hit me that if God’s love was enough to send His Son down to die for me, just because he LOVED me, than how dare I have to couple love with my box of expectations and unrealistic demands in order to be fulfilled?  It’s because He loves me that I can stop cramming my husband in my box of expectations and truly love the man that God made him to be.  Let’s face it, I am far from perfect and yet God still just wants to love me, no strings attached.  When I started to use my measuring stick to see if my ideology of love was the same as God, I realized I had this all wrong.  

Love never left me, love never failed me, love was there all the time through hurt and pain………love comforted me.  Love sometimes disciplined me, love humbled me.  Love never failed me.  In my immature and misunderstood ways, I failed love.  When I started to look outside myself, threw away my crazy expectations, found the purpose and the will to move past old pain, and truly got an understanding of 1 Corinthians 13:7 “It (Love) always protects, always trust, always hopes, always perseveres”, I came to find out that maybe I was wrong, maybe love is enough by itself. Of course we want to be with someone who fits into this perfect picture we have Picasso so nicely into our mind. But can we love even when the picture gets a tear or written on or worse, some of the ink starts to fade? Can I still love him even when he gets on my last nerve and I get on his?  Can I love him if he doesn’t bring me flowers anymore?  When he doesn’t say all the right things?  When he disappoints me, doesn’t understand me, or forgets what I think is important.  Can I love him even if I feel I am in this marriage alone?  When all of these questions come to my mind now, I use God’s measuring stick and not my own.  At this point in my life, I chose to love him, no matter what.  I chose to show him love, no matter what.  I’ve learned that loving him is enough for me because I am not doing it to meet my standards, but I am doing it to meet God’s standards.  The great thing about realizing that love is enough is that my actions and attitude change when I am with him.  I chose to love him, I get to love him and he gets to love me.   I have made this decision to love him with no strings attached, nothing coupled with it, and our marriage just seems to get better and better day by day.  I have released him from my expectations of what love is and we are both free to be who God made us.  

So yeah Anita, I didn’t necessarily find someone to slay all my dragons and defeat an evil prince.  I may have even stumbled upon a few poison apples with no magic potion or a horse with wings to fly and yet I’m still, I am in my fairytale my own paradise even.  I found my own serenity, my own definition of love, my measuring stick only defined by God. You will have to answer this question for yourself and choose your own measuring tool.  Just make sure whatever tool you choose to measure your answer with; it matches the rubric God has set for you.

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