i think that even if u disagree with something u can at least acknowledge why a decision or situation upsets somebody, particularly if that somebody is from a marginalised group.
and if ur not part of that group then maybe it isn't ur place to decide whether their feelings are an overreaction or not. okay?
Funfact, in a gaming community, I was slandered as a racist with accusations of using my heritage as an "excuse" for saying the game having white humans and elves arriving to a new continent and killing jamaican accented, dreadlocked trolls wearing grass skirts and worshipping voodoo was racist.
Let me know if you wanna hear more, but there's definitely tons of entitled racists in these communities whom insist that marginalized cultures and people of color, must be the villains for the white characters, and fans of color must accept that or else they're racist.
that's genuinely so fucked i'm sorry u gotta deal with that...i think i vaguely know about this awful situation, i've seen it pop up on my fyp in the past... i don't have much more to say other than i'm so sorry, it sucks that we can't have shit in fandom. i genuinely hope you're doing as well as u possibly can <3
(first part of this ask is referring to this post)