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we get it you hate transfems.

i am a transfem and i love myself

unironically im one of the least depressed and self hating people ik

AND

i love other transfems°❀⋆.ೃ࿔:･°❀⋆.ೃ࿔:･

i make posts about how much i love my fellow sisters and siblings frequently but i have critiques of some of my sisters rhetoric especially when it harms other sisters and siblings especially when they use language that erases our history or even uses terms like transfem for purposes of exclusion something that is in direct opposition of how the transfem that coined the term wanted it to be used

jane nance explicitly created the term transfeminine in order to have a more expansive label for people like her who felt she was being gatekept out of community terms and labels

in order to show my love and affection for my transfem sisters and siblings in fact it is my duty to defend them ALL transfems including afab transfems and it is my duty to fight against rhetoric that defines us by our suffering or our sex takes that are both transphobic and actively harmful ideologies not just to others but to those that hold them

if you truly love someone you support and accept them even if you may not understand them if you truly support and accept someone you listen to what they have to say (always not just when its convenient) and you care about their well being

no group is a monolith and people in groups have opposing views and beliefs and stances and ultimately at the end of the day you have to make an informed choice and form your own conclusions based on what helps the most people in the affected group

it is harmful for transfems to feel as if their only friends are other transfems it is harmful to transfems (ESPECIALLY intersex and nonbinary transfems) to act as if any other kind of trans person is inherently much different from transfems in fact its oppositional sexism and transmisogyny to act as if transfems are in direct opposition with transmascs

OR that in order to BE transfem that they must have an oppositional relationship with their agab

transfems deserve community amongst our fellow siblings and brothers transfems deserve support from anyone and everyone willing to give it and actions and rhetoric that intentionally isolate us from the broader trans and queer communtiy should be taken as they are threats to the support systems of vulnerable trans women and femmes

honestly fam i think youve picked the wrong girl ALL of my activism and advocacy is clearly and blatantly repeatedly FOR my fellow transfems my biggest sin in the eye of trfs in fact the reason im red on shinigami eyes is because i ardently and repeatedly support afab transfems who are LITERALLY transfem theres no wrong way to be a trans woman and ill kill on this hill

i do not approach discourse with hate or anger except very rarely (i am only human after all) but rather patience and good faith my most popular posts are positivity posts i do think that if you only see me and my actions as rage and my hatred and do not see me for my love and acceptance and support then i would question why you consider a trans woman on the internet speaking passionately and patiently to be violent and angry especially since on the internet tone is something thats almost entirely inferred by the reader

isfm2 i come with a humble request for advice..... we r bodily transmasc but our cohost is like. somewhat fem somewhat agender but originally technically masc? and simultaneously into forcemasc AND forcefem. in the way that it is big on empty spaces and dollblr stuff but doesnt want to disrespect the transfem roots of that space, but also wants to get a little moe with it and wear a maid dress if it is so inclined. how does one non-transmysoginistically forcefem and forcemasc a thing at the same time without implying that aforementioned thing is human because it is most definitely very far from human. im in a predicament here <////3

i am going to give advice here that not many transfems would agree with i think but it is something i feel deeply about and have textual evidence from the person who coined the term to support my belief historically but there isnt actually a requirement of agab or "positionality" in order to be transfem

jane nance the person who first coined the term (as far as anyone knows) made the label for herself and others because she was gatekept from other community terms at the time she very openly offered up her label to the world as an attempt to solve a lack of expansive terminology in the community for people like her who didnt feel they had a space to describe themselves in our community she actually believes the one thing the term in fact strictly requires is an undefined relationship to sex reassignment the term necessitates a level of fluidity and vagueness

i think it might not exactly explicitly fit the letter of her word (largely because the language we use today to talk about sex and gender is wildly different than back then) but rather i think it does fit the spirit of her word to say that transfem is a word that fits you to the extent you define it if you are trans and feminine i believe nance would support you calling yourself transfem no matter your agab whether that means your gender identity is femme or your gender expression is femme

(in fact as someone heavily involved in the transvestite community in the 70s i think nance would be more accepting in those regards than many trans people today in that she was in the community at a time in which there was no assumed hierarchy of validity between feminine men and amab women)

all that to say if your cohost is trans and fem and feels the term transfem fits it then it is not in any way intruding on transfem spaces rather it is the spaces that need to be able to make room for it if those spaces are unwelcoming to it and i believe we all need to do that work to create this future

it is not transmisogyny to express your gender in the way that feels right ever in fact and it would be transphobia to suggest otherwise tell it to get that maid dress im sure itd be super cute in it!!!