Nonsexual gender assessment I notice more and more as I keep living
So like, we’re aware of the fact that gender is fake and identity is a matter of self assessment and general vibes, right? But we’re also aware that masculine and feminine are pivotal parts of what define our gender at times, and help us to meet a definition of those vague vibes, right?
But we also know that feminine and masculine is also fake and made up and doesn’t always mean the same thing from person to person, culture to culture, they’re like language, made up and utilized to the point that we can’t really function without them without literally ripping gender identity apart, right?
I’ve been on about this for years, even before realizing I’m “nonbinary*”, that this whole perception of what is feminine and what is masculine is weaponized by other people to make us very, very insecure of who we are as people. No matter if you’re born with gynecological genitalia or androcological genitalia, you have a certain set of expectations, ones that haunt you for the rest of your existence, and a lot of us feel really, really fucking bad about that, cue, gender questioning and dysphoria, maybe.
I know a lot of trans folks who despise the parts of them that other people scrutinized and ruined that oftentimes cause them to more heavily appreciate the “opposite” of whatever was deemed correct for them, masculine or feminine, and while some trans folks come to terms with those bits and love their tendencies, bodies, identities with these things because they’re natural to them, I think as a whole, our insecurity actually ends up forming a massive part of our shining new gender identities to try and make sense of ourselves, and end up becoming a bigger part of us than we probably can casually just carry around.
Why does feminine and masculine bother us so much, can we (hypothetically) as a whole move past it? What would our gender identities be without these things?
Personally, I identify as an autistic crow, I don’t think I’ll miss gender with all the fancy add-ons like masculine and feminine. We could supplement those things with soft, hard, rigorous, intellectual, creative, emotional, protective, quiet, reserved, delicate, filthy, cruel, seductive, inanimate, active, you know????? Anyway. I’m done, thanks for reading
(*nonbinary, in quotations because while I identify as nonbinary, I likely wouldn’t if femininity and masculinity wasn’t so heavily at play)
