Apr 3, 2016
It’s so hard to trust people nowadays.
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It’s so hard to trust people nowadays.
HAPPY S.A.D. EVERYONE!
Single Awareness Day
PET PEEVES: One Way Relationships
When you’re giving your all in accommodating the other person, but the other person just give a basic response.
Annoy
Seems like everyone likes to step on my yellow slipper
Lol...
When you find out that you wasted your past three years on something and it didn’t work out the way you wanted.
Post 6 of 52: Dear Girl Who Walked Away,
Dear Girl Who Walked Away,
It’s not like you weren’t aware of what you were getting yourself into. He told you he was nice. He trusted easily and gave you all he could when he could.
The nice guy believes in doing things right. He was there when you needed him to be, and he went out of his way to make sure you knew just how much you could mean to someone.
We live in a generation where we all have to wear masks and play parts to make it through the battlefield of dating in the 21st century. There is no such thing as giving it your all.
We like quotes on Facebook and post things on Instagram stating we want the masochist one day and the romantic the next. We play these games where being available can only happen sometimes, and playing hard-to-get must be our number one priority. Why?
I thought the ultimate goal was to eventually settle down. I mean, what is the point of dating if you have no desire for it to go anywhere? If a one-night stand is what you’re looking for, leave the good guys alone and toy within the levels you lay down.
Save yourself time and energy because the good guy isn’t going to make it easy to just walk away. The good guy cares, so he’ll get his explanation from you even though he knows it’ll be a load of bull.
Every girl says she likes the assh*le because he’s the challenge — the one she must break, train and force to be more than just a douchebag. Have you ever thought, however, maybe you were the girl in need of learning what it means to actually feel again?
You went through something, like we all do, and because of it you changed. It’s normal and heartbreak happens, but the next assh*le didn’t fix what the first one did; he kept it the same or made it worse. His priority was not you and couldn’t be you. So now you’re bitter and closed off from anything remotely more satisfying than a one-night stand.
I won’t deny that the assh*le is fun or that a good time isn’t promised with him, but when it’s all said and done, is it ever more than just a good time? Probably not.
In fact, the assh*le has a charm about him; it’s the charm you justify your pursuit with. You say, “There’s just something about him.” However, it’s probably the same quality that ended up hurting you in the past.
So you tried to push the nice guy away. When he wouldn’t go away, you pushed harder. Still, he didn’t give up and every time you pushed harder, he pulled you in even more.
He ignored your fears and forced you to grow; he fought for your passions when you were too busy writing them off. He forgot your wants and focused on everything you needed. Then you walked away because he was too nice.
He gave you too much of everything you wanted, and life got too easy. You wanted conflict and hardship as if everything else in life did not promise you an endless journey of just that. This is where you failed.
The nice guy has been hurt, too, he just chose to stay nice. He learned that different people were going to provide him different things in life. The nice guy also chose not to let any of it change who he was.
So, he let you walk away and he called it a day. Everyone always says there are plenty of fish in the sea, and he let you go knowing this, even though it hurt.
What you don’t know is that someone else is out there, and she won’t be as foolish you. When you realize all you really want is the nice guy who cares about you too much, it’s going to be too late. Some other girl will be able to see how great he is, and she won’t waste a minute.
So you lost your Ted Mosby and, I promise, to him you were Robin. The nice guys are there to give you a break, a light to something more than the games we identify our generation with.
He may have loved you too soon and it was too crazy and too much, but guys like Mosby don’t happen every day; they happen never. He got you the blue French horn, and he made you feel love when love was no longer a part of your vocabulary. You were now saying “I love you” again and remembering what it felt like.
He was the guy you were supposed to end up with, who makes everything change. I just wish you’d see it before another girl does because at the end of the day, everyone, including the nice guy you don’t deserve, is rooting only for you.
Sincerely,
The Nice Guy
Source: http://elitedaily.com/dating/an-open-letter-to-the-girl-who-let-the-nice-guy-go/589089/
Post 5 of 52: I Remember (Once a Cheerful Person)
Back in high school my life has its ups and downs. But at the end of the day, I was an opportunistic person. I remember I was a happy person. I remember I had a lot of people who would talk to me constantly, hang out with me, or support me whenever I needed them. I remember if I mess up things, I still got second chances. I remember when I talk to people, I will reply ASAP and usually it's a two-way chat. We would have funny inside chats, the conversation just doesn't stop. The good morning/nights texts that I used to get every morning/night, during that time I thought it was sort of annoying. I would write "LOL" or "LMAO" because it was actually funny. I used to have at least 5 people to talk to throughout the day. The conversation always have funny moments, smiley faces, and it gives a sense of who the person was.
Now? I guess my mind set is all about me. I've been becoming more independent. I barely talk to people anymore during my free time. I'm constantly pessimistic about this and that and I'm always worrying about the littlest things for no apparent reason. I have more responsibilities now. There's hardly anymore second chances; once I screw up, I screw up entirely. I don't know how to enjoy life anymore. The only time when people talk to me now is when they need something from me. When people do talk, there's always a reason behind why the other person started the conversation. People nowadays doesn't hit me up just to catch up to see how I'm doing. I miss the feeling where people will just hit me up just because they were still thinking about me to hang out and have happy moments; not because they needed more people so it will cost cheaper, not because they needed me for something, not because they were pitying me. My conversations are like talking to a wall with no response back. I no longer receive those good morning/night texts something I can look forward to during the day. Now I barely have anyone to talk to. Even if I did, it would die out sooner or later. Now I would write "LOL" or "LMAO" just because I don't know what else to write not because it was actually funny. I write smiley faces just to make sure the other person doesn't interpret that I was mean or being serious. Most of the times, I would just look at my texts and just tell myself that I will reply later, which I would sometimes forget to reply. When I do reply, I sound like a talking robot with a monotone voice, with one word replies. Replies that doesn't give the other person a chance on what to say next. Replies that is like a dead end for the conversation to end.
I guess growing up sucks.
Dear Future Love of My Life:
I know. I should have written before. Forgive me. But I got the feeling that you were beginning to think I didn’t exist. But I do. And I wanted to let you know that while I might be as elusive as a unicorn grazing in a field of four-leaf clovers, I’m close.
I’m around the corner, down the street, on Facebook, in your office, at our local coffee shop, a complete stranger. I made eyes at you once on the subway. I saw you across the room at a party. I swiped you right on Tinder. But it’s not our time yet. And I know you’re wondering why.
It’s really not fair that you’ve had to wait this long, or go on blind dates, endure bad sex, settle for “meh” relationships, feel misunderstood, cry from loneliness, wrap your arms around a pillow as you fall asleep at night. I’m so sorry, my love. You deserve an explanation. So, here it goes. It’s taken me a long time to even admit this to myself, much less to you, so please know that everything I’ve written here is true.
The reasons we haven’t met yet, in no particular order:
1. I haven’t thrown out the list of things I think you should be.
2. I’m with the wrong person right now.
3. I’m not ready to be loved unconditionally.
4. Since my life isn’t together, I think you’ll reject me.
5. I still believe that drama is a show of love.
6. I’ve been intentionally keeping my head too busy to think with my heart.
7. I need to date more to understand what I do and don’t like.
8. I won’t be able to appreciate you until life has kicked my ass.
9. I’m too focused on my own needs.
10. I don’t know how to create the feeling of home that lives in my heart.
Clearly, I’m not my best self yet. Or even myself — I’m still figuring out who that is. I’m pretty sure even if we did meet, you wouldn’t like me all that much right now. It’s entirely possible that we did hit it off once, and I left without getting your information; or maybe I did get your number and never called because of any one of the above reasons.
Be patient with me, darling heart. Know that I’m working my way toward you. So don’t spend any more time thinking about where I am or am not. Just keep making your life exciting and full, so when we do finally come together, we can bring each other joy, because we are already happy.
I know it’s taking longer than you’d like. It’s a hell of a lot slower than I could have ever imagined. But I’m here. This is me talking to you. And I’m not going anywhere.
Don’t give up on me.
Yours, in perpetuity,
The Love You Haven’t Met Yet
Source: http://elitedaily.com/dating/a-letter-from-the-love-you-havent-met-yet/