#jensen concern

[the-analytical-bostie]

I think this picture really says it all….

[lightofraye]

I’ve been watching and reading a bit of criticism (not saying it’s wrong or unfair, just stating a fact) toward Jensen regarding Danneel going alone to Meg Donnelly’s Moulin Rouge. About the lack of any public communication from him—a “like”, a comment, a photo, anything. Not to mention, how he’s been behaving lately to boot.

I’d like to posit a different perspective, if I may. As someone who has been in an abusive marriage, who had been trapped.

He’s been abused by his father, has shown signs of perhaps unwilling to admit that kind of treatment (though he has publicly stated he would never spank his children, so in a way he’s acknowledged how he was treated was something he wouldn’t continue). He’s grown up in an industry wildly known for abuse, for crossing boundaries, for inappropriate behavior. Jensen has never stated it, but given how he’s made it clear he’s hated his modeling days, I’d say there’s history he never wants to revisit. Then Hollywood itself—he’s been viewed as the pretty boy so much, it’s all anyone would ever see him as! Imagine that being all you’re ever known for instead of talent!

That’s the stage.

Here’s the decoration, the things he’s been dealing with. A conniving wife who more than likely seeded the reasons why he felt he had to marry her: to end the gay rumors that would never leave him alone. Because it haunted him so hard no matter what he did, no matter who he was with. And she played him like a fiddle. She didn’t care he didn’t love her. She wanted the fame, the money, the attention—she angled it and got what she wanted.

Maybe Danneel didn’t care about the lack of affection at first. Maybe she got what she wanted from Steve (they certainly seemed friendly even before she and Jensen got married, lord…).

Maybe Jensen was okay with that kind of marriage. That he was settling. And that happens All The Time. It does. Men just give up and settle for the one who’d literally check boxes—and she convinced him she’d be the one that fit for him.

They certainly were apart more than together and it was okay.

But resentment grew anyway. Things changed. Maybe she decided she wanted kids for reasons—competition against the Padaleckis. Maybe the loveless marriage look bothered her. Maybe there was something in the prenuptial agreement about kids. Maybe it was a way to force Jensen to stay married to her like the rumors said.

But distance—literal and otherwise—made it tolerable.

Then the show was over and yanked Jensen’s only anchor and it wrecked everything. He lost Jared, he lost Dean, he lost his identity.

I strongly suspect Jensen poured too much into Supernatural to survive.

And Danneel knew it.

COVID made a mess of things.

The Winchesters was borne of a man in crisis. Jensen lost himself a long time during that time. He’s only just starting to find himself and it’s showing, honestly.

He’s grey rocking Danneel and refusing to do what she wants. Refusing to give her control of his social media. Refusing to come on date night like she demanded.

I imagine when that happened he probably told her he couldn’t over the phone. Maybe he had a sole day off and needed rest (he’s been so overworked it’s not even funny). Danneel maybe told him she didn’t care, to come anyway. That he could sleep on the plane.

And he had enough.

He comes to see the kids.

He does not come to see her.

And that’s plain as day, in his stories during conventions.

This is why I say they’re informally separated. Yes, Jensen still alludes to her, because he doesn’t want to make it clear to the General Audience that he and Danneel are all but done. But those who pay attention during panels—which is a small, small percentage of the fandom—can read between the lines and see a lot of indifference towards Danneel nowadays.

Should he end it now? Gods yes.

But divorce is always a hard, scary step. No, it truly is. Even in non-abusive marriages, it is. It’s a big step and not many are willing to.

[ruby-is-a-bad-bitch]

To every girl thinking:

Jensen is in love with you just because you went to a convention and you felt something

please seek help.

Even if that were the case, it wouldn't just be in your head for God's sake! Are you two going on dates? Having an affair? A relationship? Because otherwise, you're just making it up.

Any girl who believes Jensen loves her but doesn’t spend any time with him or hasn't even shared a kiss is living in a delulu world. And honestly, as a psychology student, I highly recommend seeing someone professional.

If Jensen were in love with anyone, that person would know it through fuckin' gestures, not second-guessing...and Jensen’s inner circle would know it too. She would be around him. She wouldn't have to convince herself.

So please, find a real boyfriend. It’s so much more worth it than a delulu narrative.

[celeb-funkytown]

Actually, the more I think about it, I defintiely do think there’s a lot more truth to that one SPN blind item in ‘09 that claimed the cast’s personal lives were arranged for them…

[deanswins]

I tend to stay away from directly talking shit about the wives, but the consistent tiktoks being made about some fans hating on Jensen or Jared's wives simply because people are jealous is just ridiculous.

you danneel fans have 0 critical thinking skills, you do not try to analyze or learn, you simply jump on to the conclusion that we must hate danneel because we are insanely jealous of her, because we want jensen etc, when in truth, you are simply projecting your own feelings. you cover up your guilt of wanting him by putting his wife on a pedestal thinking that will earn you some points from him.

I do not care what danneel does with her private time, or what she gets done on her face or what she dresses like. a person's inner self comes out eventually and so that is just how she is, but I dislike her heavily for what I have seen her do. It is one thing to occasionally joke about say preferring someone (or a chicken tender) over your husband and another to quickly cover it by letting him know that you love him the most. The entire AD house tour video is her bullying him, demeaning him and belittling him. The Wales Con in another example. Several posts on Instagram and you will see how she talks about him.

I don't have much issues with Genevieve simply because we do not see her treating Jared like this. There are many speculations about them as well, but they simply dont make sense. and even if their marriage is what these people say, then they do a better job at putting up a united front compared to the Ackles'.

it doesn't take that much brain power to differentiate between a good humored harmless banter between partners and downright making them feel like shit and abusing them

and you people are not better. I am tired of seeing comments that are obviously forced out like "Jensen who? I love danneel." like sweetheart, there would be no danneel without Jensen. at this point, she would have been only known as the actress who played that one character on One Tree Hill, if people would even remember.

These tiktoks are so goddamn annoying. there are people commenting like "there are people who hate on danneel?" or praising her for doing absolutely nothing. I do not want to get into that, there are many blogs that discuss her lack of working skills and I do not want dip my toe in that right now.

the point of this post is, only a stupid person would be jealous of danneel of all people. we do not like her because she is abusive

jensen deserves so much better

[wrdlbrmpfd]

LOL Jensen really just showed up for a paycheck. That was a boring panel man

No Cockless love fest 🤣 Poor hellers

Give Jensen some slack. He looks like dearh warmed over (yes, he still looks good but the exhaustion is written in his face)

[kiirstt]

Again to those of you that keep wanting to believe that Jensen loves Danneel. He doesn’t! All the evidence is there.

Can you see the difference? Jensen doesn’t initiate any contact with Danneel. Jared and Genevieve are a couple happy in love. When have you ever seen Jensen kiss Danneel in public like Jared does with his wife? Only Danneel tries to initiates any contact she looks desperate for attention.

[not0interested1]

I screenshot this rather than saving via Tumblr because I didn’t want the original blogger to feel like I was yucking her yum. But she and several others who had reblogged had used tags or comments about how good he looks, how handsome he is, that they love him, etc. It’s not from that long ago. While I always feel he’s a handsome man, when I saw this image, my immediate reaction was, “Man, he looks exhausted. His smile doesn’t reach his eyes and it looks like he is really struggling to do this at the moment. When VR is wrapped, I hope he allows himself some kind of break; whatever that looks like to him.