I’ve been stalking you and some other pages I never knew Jensen was even married with kids until a few weeks ago after I started supernatural. But damn seeing the posts and things about his wife these two are definitely separated, who shouts out their best friend and not the woman he’s been married to for 15 years WITH kids,he’s still young hope the dude gets out of those shackles and finds happiness, the lady is a damn mess he definitely seems like one of those guys who lets his gf/wife walk all over him….but at first I won’t lie thought his and a few other accounts were REACHING but he doesn’t even look really happy, he’s not perfect no one is but damn.
I think Jensen is good at coming off as a guy that lets a woman walk all over him but I think the reality is a little different, I think he is the one in control and he sets Elta up to believe she is. I could be wrong though.
Yep, he's very much in control. At first I thought the opposite, too. But after observing his behaviours? Yeah, he has 💯 control.
She is his scapegoat 100%
Yep she is definitely his scapegoat. I agree he likes to pretend like he's the victim to big mean Danneel but in reality not only is he the one that's actually in control he doesn't actually let Elta believe she is, either. Not really. I think she 100% knows and lashes out in frustration regularly when she gets the chance in public, which just reinforces the "poor abused Jensen" image he's wanting.
Such good points by all the other reblogs and the original answer by @hologramcowboy to the anon. I have often interpreted their dynamic as full of codependency and toxicity, in such that it’s challenging to determine who’s the victim and who’s the problem in many interactions.
Before I started my own mental health journey, and my husband and I started couples therapy, we both saw ourselves as the victim. Meanwhile, we each did some pretty shitty things and received some shitty things from one another.
Jensen loves to paint Danneel as the queen B (your choice of b) and there is likely truth to much of what he says. But I have always thought perhaps it comes from a bit of indifference and laziness in investing in the marriage. He said something in a panel once of coming home to her rules and routines, not disrupting them, since she’s the one home most of the time. While that sounds like he’s acknowledging her dominion at home, it is also the easy way out of real responsibility and leaving the workload and heavy lifting to the wife as many men do.
Likewise, it is evident he has more say and dominance than he portrays, particularly in recent years. Either he’s reached a precipice of intolerance and isn’t playing the game by her rules anymore or he’s reached a level of arrogance(maybe overly confident??) and is wielding it.
