First Impressions... It's as Easy as 1, 2, 3.
Count it. 1, 2, 3.
Three seconds is the very small, yet precise time It takes to make a conclusion about fresh acquaintances. Now that you know that, how would you rate yourself when it comes to first impressions? It's something that each and every one of us experience in our day to day lives, whether it's in person or online. The interaction and exchange between two people is a precious and valuable thing.
I like to look at meeting new people and establishing relationships as an investment, something that's tangible, effective, and lasting. In my experience, many of these supposed 'one-off' connections have resulted in long lasting friendships, relationships, and work opportunities, which has ultimately changed the course of my life.
Something that we are collectively starting to struggle with, particularly as digital technology innovates and evolves, is establishing that real human connection. Our ability to create genuine, lasting impressions, and communicating in a meaningful way has become a lesser priority. Now, more than ever, it's imperative that we devote time and energy into the people in our lives.
With our shrinking attention spans, and 24 hour accessibility, Information is coming at us from a million different sources. Also, with the emergence of new social networks, online platforms, and mobile apps, it's a wonder we retain any information at all.
Relationship building is a skill, and sometimes not an easy one to master. It takes time, energy, and a certain attention to detail, in order to really work. Although it'll take time and practise, here are a few things you can do to try to condition yourself to stay present and really create a lasting impression:
Active Listening: This is a big one, and something that I learned in University. While you're in the midst of conversation, re-state or paraphrase in your own words, what has been said to you by the person you're conversing with. It allows you to respond to others, focus, and communicate objectively. It also improves personal relationships and allows you to reinforce information throughout the conversation.
Be Genuine: What better representation of yourself than simply 'being you'. Don't sell people a fake bill of goods, and stay authentic, relaxed, and sincere. Put on your smile and engage people in relevant and interesting conversation. If you're shy, the best approach is an outward focused conversation. You can still make an excellent first impression by focusing the attention on that other person.
Body Language: Focus on your eye contact, posture, and smile. Get in sync with the party you're speaking with by adjusting your posture, voice, and gestures. Sometimes called 'the dance', it allows you to respond and interact at a pace that works for others. A very simple way to establish a simple rapport.