OD: How does getting married get in the way of college, etc.
I don’t think marriage gets in the way of college. But there is more to the story..
I’m sure most people have to pick and choose because it also uproots them. I would have been away from my family and overseas struggling with a lack of college options. If I would have stayed the entire assignment in the mainland, that’s my first 2 years of marriage no where near my husband. And I realized that when I got married, my place would be with my husband. But I wasn’t ready to uproot myself and leave the college I wanted to go to and be back home. It was too much transition for me and I wasn’t ready.
And ah don’t get me started on how I could not afford a wedding with no job. I’m so happy we waited it out and had time to save, I could get my degree, he could get promoted, all before we got married.
The love is there. But go over some of the specifics on why it was better for me to wait it out: I already had coverage and my school paid for because of my parents (CH. 35 stipend from the VA, Tricare for insurance). As a college student, dependents have up to 26 to still be fully covered on their parents’ insurance.
I did not feel ready at 18 to be married. I had zero work experience. No college degree. If I got married, how would I have paid for my college tuition. Or even take care of my husband? Or find a decent job. I’d be forced to get a job and be a student. I am slow to change in general, but I couldn’t imagine being put in a situation where my husband and I suffered financially. My husband’s first duty station was overseas. We would have been 18/19, overseas and nowhere near family, my college options would probably be subjected to online only. I didn’t know all of my resources like I do now. Or that I could find a reputable university and see what their online programs are.
Now that I’m married and want to go for another degree on top of working, I know it’s going to be rough and I am going to have to be organized to the T to make it happen. But I’m happy to have a great support system who believes in me and my own aspirations. But to have at least part of my collegiate education out of the way and I had that time for myself is something I’m happy to have done prior to marriage and children.
This question is for everyone: what is something that your SO does to show that they love you? As in everyday (not special occasions) and it can just be sweet sayings. I ask because my SO believes that since he and I both know that we love each other, then he should not talk or act a special way to express his love. However, I have expressed that there are many days where I am concerned about whether that love is still there but he just jumps back to saying that he is not a lovey-dovey person
Hey anon,
This is something my husband and I constantly talk about. He jokes around too much sometimes and doesn’t show his affection. And I’ll have to confront it that it’s getting old and you need to express yourself better I.E. COME HERE AND LOVE ME…lol And it’s a work in progress. He’s doing better. I’ve learned to watch my tone of voice when I express myself and give him and myself time to learn and improve. I don’t expect things to happen overnight. But it’s taking time and we’re both becoming better people :) so just go ahead and give your SO to express his love but also better himself. I do highly suggest reading THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES, which will help you both realize how you GIVE and RECEIVE love. Most definitely recommend!
-Jocelyn
But to answer your question, how my husband does me he loves me:
helping out and doing some of my chores – I couldn’t tell you how much a clean home makes me happy. This gesture in particular makes me happy and feel loved because we’ve come so far in our communication. Not all of the housework is on me and I work full time if not longer hours than he does. We’ve gone through dividing chores, to picking up after each other, and learning not to get mad but help each other out and upkeep the home. I think this is the biggest thing couples fight about. We’ve been there! And knowing that our sit down talks, exercises to make us better and organized, and him realizing that not all the housework is put on the wife have paid off… and we are in a better place in life. Gosh I remember actual arguments about “why isn’t dinner made?” “can you PLEASE pick up your socks?!” “You seriously put your dish away and saw dishes in the sick and didn’t do dishes?!” and now we just pick up after each other because that’s what couples do: they put 100% into it.
make coffee for me – Whether I am having a hard time waking up in the morning, or craving it with my breakfast over the weekend, I just love when he makes me coffee. It’s that little notion: “I know it’s going to be a long day, wanted to start it off with a fresh cup of coffee!”
My name is Jocelyn and here’s a pic with my husband, Vincent, who helps out on the blog from time to time.
We currently are on a new adventure at Camp Pendleton, CA🌴 I’m 21 and my husband is 22. We’re both military brats and learning how to adult with the Marine Corps lol. We have one small Pomeranian named Zeus that’s a big ball of fluff. I like cooking, lord of the rings, tattoos, and collect coffee cups. ☕️
Right now I’m working in a career toward corporate business management/sales and social media marketing. I’m an aspiring lifestyle and wedding photographer 👰🏻📷. I look forward to going back to school for another degree toward business/marketing. 📚🎓
I am one of the admins that helped start Milsotherapy back in 2013. It’s been a unique journey and can’t wait to see what 2016 holds. 🎉
I look forward to learning more about y'all too! 💚💙
I’m sure most of you are spending time with families and loved ones, but I’ll be on the blog tonight ON A LAPTOP to clear out this inbox.
Vincent and I cleaned the downstairs. We’re hosting our first Thanksgiving as a married couple and having company over! My turkey is brining. Vincent won’t let me play his xbox lol, so I’m here watching him play Deadpool.
I want to thank everybody for being so kind and patient with us. I still have no idea why the app hasn’t been working and I’ve been crazy busy with work with the end of the month approaching and Thanksgiving/Black Friday has been havoc for my clients. But I requested Black Friday off so I have a 4 day weekend with the hubs and more time at home. So hopefully I’ll be on more this weekend.
Sorry everybody I've been on and off the blog lately. My allergies are flaring up so bad and I'm sure I have a cold. Vincent just got his flu shot and is in and out of it. I went to the hospital yesterday and I have been trying to rest up as much as I can. Vincent's ball is next week and I just had leave approved for it *we didn't get priority so it's on a week day vs the weekend* and we are trying to sleep it off as much as we can so we can feel better for next week. Hope all is well on your end! -Joce
We have a lot of new followers now, I’d love to do a Q&A with yall!
idk. I just see everybody here as a family. I’m always down for ladies coming here and introducing themselves and you are always welcomed to ask the admins questions to get to know us better!
I don’t want y’all to see me as just an admin here. But someone you can feel comfortable opening up to and getting to know better. I know this is random but just thought I’d throw it out there!
first off, I just want to say thank you so much everybody for being so understanding with MT right now. That inbox is piling up and unfortunately we’ve all been pretty busy with our work and personal schedules to fully dedicate time.
Thank you all for having a positive attitude, leaving us positive messages and politely letting us know if messages have been received. I am seriously loving all the positive vibes I’m getting after not being able to be on the blog.
Vincent and I attempted to answer questions after we got home from work but we both got home pretty late. He has been hauling ass in his new unit that this week has been super crazy for him before he goes into his field op next week. As for me, I’m still going through training for my new job and attended a company event after work so we didn’t have as much time as we expected before our eyes got droopy.
Besides work, we really just use the weekend to catch up on sleep, dedicate some couple time getting out of the house, and getting ready for another week. We are still testing the waters with both of us working to the point our work out schedules are out of whack, might need to kick our new slow cooker into gear for dinner, and trying to hit the hay earlier.
I guess that’s a little update for the couple on MT.
I’m going to head for bed, just wanting to keep yall in the loop of things!
I have gotten through my first week of work, cherished this weekend to sleep in, run errands, go shopping, and prep for another work week. I'm starting to see fitness progress and my pants fit better! I love prepping meals and making our lunches so Vincent and I are able to eat healthy even at work. I got to spend the weekend meeting Vincent's friends from work and mingling at a party, and catch up on Shameless (on season 3 right now!) I had another photo session this weekend and I think I'm almost ready to show case my work! -Jocelyn
