judyflopps replied to your post “�� shake ��♀️ off �� that ��♀️ portrayal �� insecurity ��♀️”
wow this is a Mood; but, blows kissus-- i Stan for ur jessica
allow my preachy butt to step on a soap box for a moment. maybe this’ll comfort ppl who have mad insecurity like me or maybe not, but here’s hopin bc I think it’d make me feel better to write:
I think it’s a common emotion for us to feel super insecure about our roleplay because this is like a small-time taste into what it’d be like to release our writing into the world via books - novels - etc, except we can See and Acknowledge people are looking at what we’re writing instead of just being left in the dark. The thought is both pretty thrilling but boy does it rev up your anxiety; do they like it?
If someone doesn’t like an ask we answered, a headcanon we post, a theory, we get insecure and think, “oh god -- I’m the worst. This is it. This is what kills any positive thing someone’s thought about my character. This is what kicks in anything I’ve built up in people’s eyes. I suck. I suck so bad. My portrayal is the worst” -- but that’s just not the truth lmao. Just because someone doesn’t like a post or comment on it doesn’t mean they don’t appreciate the effort you’re putting into your character. You have your followers for a reason. It doesn’t matter if that number is small or big. It’s a solid evidence that folk love what you’re doing and they want to stick around to interact with your babe.
It’s not healthy or effective to rely on what other people have to say about your portrayal, and sadly a lot of people do that. It feels good to get compliments, hell yes!! It’s so encouraging!! But living off feedback is no way to keep up your writing spirit. Recall the feeling of wanting to play your muse and focus on that. think on that. start putting it first before the need of validation of others. It’s difficult, oh absolutely -- but when you start weaning yourself off that and start going, “hey if someone don’t like what I write, that’s their problem. I worked hard for this character and put my heart into what I write, my mental energy into their development. My time in my life went to this character, my time. If someone’s gonna look at what I made with my time and scoff it off, what use do I have hurting for them and crying over spilt milk? Who cares, I shouldn’t. This is what I made and I’m content with it. If someone don’t like a post of mine or I go by with zero notes or likes on my starter calls, that don’t mean shit and it doesn’t reflect on me or my followers. People still stick around. If I go days without interaction, it doesn’t mean people don’t like me or hate me; it means they have lives outside their computer and want to spend their time how they desire.”
My portrayal makes me happy. I write things into my characters that make me happy, laugh and sad. I love these details. This is my character. This is what I’m creating and instead of focusing on what negativity people might think about what I’ve put out here for people to interact with, I need to focus on why I made my blog. To roleplay. To share my character with the world. To share what is in my brain that concerns this beautiful babe of mine. If I start relying off the feedback of others then I’m gonna get nowhere fast and feel absolutely unmotivated when that positivity stops rolling in.
Appreciate it if it comes your way, definitely take it as a compliment and love it, save it!! That stuff feels GOOD. But don’t rely on it. Continue sharing what you got; people are quietly enjoying what you got and want to roleplay with your version. That’s a fact.
It’s normal to be nervous and scared about people not liking what we do, but we gotta stop immediately giving in to that feeling of “oh god I suck and my writing is bad and my character is bad” --- that’s gonna get you nowhere. It’s hard to work on, but it’s a hill you gotta climb and I promise you’ll start feeling better when you do.
I’m aware my Jessica isn’t the favorite of many people and I’m sure a lot roll their eyes at her and don’t like what I’m doing, but that’s not important to me. I try not to care because there’s no reason to, and it’s not my place to put on a show and dance for them to enjoy her. I like her and what I made of her. She’s what I got to offer and there’s people who do like her, and that’s pretty awesome. It doesn’t matter if it’s just one person out of 300, someone still likes her and that’s pretty cool and I am super grateful. I for a fact love your Judy and am glad you have a blog for her. :’)
Just put your main focus on yourself and your character and how you feel about them, and how you approach them. It isn’t selfish. It’s a first instinct to go “oh -- putting me first?? selfish ---” but it really, really isn’t.
