#just be nice.

[voidoffline]

You don’t need to know every inch of a strangers mind and body to treat them kindly

(This post is directed at my fellow queer people who judge strangers who ‘look cis and straight’. Because not every queer person looks queer.)

[swan2swan]

YES.

JUST EAT THE SHAVED ICE AND BECOME FRIENDS.

THAT’S ALL WE NEED.

NO ONE NEEDS TO APOCALYPSE.

[unluckyhoneybee]

hiiii! i just wanted to know your opinion on relationships with big age gaps and stuff like that (6+ years maybe)

Well, I consider this a kind of sensitive content for some people so the answer is under the cut.

First thing. I'm going to talk always about +18 relationship. If you are an adult and go for minors when there is an age gap, you are shit. I say the age gap thing because if you are 18-19 dating someone who is maybe 17 you are basically the same.

I think that it depends on the age. I don't think it's the same with 20-30 relationships than with 30-40 for example.

When you are in your early 20s, you still have so much to learn and experience. If you are dating someone in their 30s (or even late twenties), that person has probably already lived it all and has gone through it and it's looking for other stuff. I don't really know what people on their 30s want, I'm not even 22 (I'll be in a month and a half), but you know, settle and stuff like that. You want to have fun, experiment, discover new things, and even though people older want that two because I don't think we loose that, it's different. You are discovering things for the first time, you are naive and I think it's easy to be tricked. If you are 30 dating someone who is 40, you maybe want more similar things so it may be easier.

Then there is this stuff about people who seeks dating people younger, considerably younger. Why do I think this happens? Because that people is probably shitty. Experience wins. Always. If you date someone younger, who hasn't gone through certain situations, I think it's easier to trick them. Naive people is easier to manipulate.

For me there must be maturity in both sides. Both sides must know their part. I see myself now, and I know that I couldn't be with someone older. I fear to be with someone with more experience in life. It makes me feel anxious. I know it won't work for me. Maturity is essential in every relationship, yes. But in this case even more. You need to know where the limits are, why your partner likes certain things and not others. And for the older, to not pressure stuff.

For me it gets less problematic as the younger person is older.

In conclusion, it's not necessarily a bad thing (for me). As I said, both parts need to know your position. Obviously, you can't force things, you can't force the other to do things that they have already done or to force things your partner is not ready for.

For the young one, think about what your partner really wants, about how it would shape your life, about the stuff that you would need to do or stop doing for the shake of the relationship.

For the old one, think about how your partner maybe it's not ready for what you want, don't rush things. And the most important things, don't take advantage of the inexperienced person.

I don't know if it makes much sense, it cost me a bit to express everything in English, I can solve any doubt you have about this and I obviously accept other opinions (If you are going to be rude save it and go and fuck yourself)

[xehanortsreport]

One of the worst things that happens when people request pictures from me is being too vague so

Whenever I commission someone, I tend to throw in a lot of reference pictures. probably too many reference pictures.

BUT YES if you are commissioning an artist, please be as specific as possible without completely overwhelming them --especially if you’re requesting something from a series that they have little-to-no experience on (and honestly, I’d try to commission an artist that has at least a good level of familiarity with the series you’re requesting. It makes it easier (and more fun) for them, and will probably guarantee a more accurate product for you).

This goes double if you’re asking for a picture of an original character--the artist is not going to know all the ins and outs of your design. If you can’t draw too well, at least be super descriptive in that regard--and hey, even a little sketch’ll work even if it’s not the best thing in the world!

Every bit of help counts.

[alypic]

Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.

[middleofinsanity]

I was chatting with a mate, and she asked me if I would really talk to someone if they weren't attractive.

I was like 'Um.. Hell yeah, it shouldn't matter what the person looks like, if they have a good personality, like, if they're really fucking nice, and they're truly genuinely who they put themselves out to be, yes I would still talk to them.' 

And then we got into ultimate depth about truly liking someone purely for their personality, and good looks was just a plus, AND then i said something along the lines of  'Face it, you know damn straight half the guys I have been attracted wasn't honestly for their looks.' and she was like 'yeah, you're right.' lol. 

and then I went on into if she would be with someone, that was mean to everyone, but her. And she was like 'yeah.' and I agree. So i said something along the lines of 'I know some dickheads, that aren't really dick heads, they're the sweetest guys ever.' I wouldn't even hesitate to date someone that was nice to me. Because it just means they trust me, and they really honestly wanna make an effort. 

[wishanaghawud]

tbh some people on tumblr are complete assholes.

They're the epitome of wannabe hipster, we all know you have opinions and all that shit, don't get all mad and all up in your followers faces about it because really, no one cares.