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Don’t “Should” on Yourself

"With my coaching clients, I listen for the word “should.” It’s a tip-off that something deeper is going on than just feeling that they should do something."

Last week, we talked about how it isn’t nice to should on other people. Telling others how to live their lives usually comes from a place of caring, but it isn’t really helpful. It also doesn’t help us to build positive relationships.

It’s also not nice to should on yourself. With my coaching clients, I listen for the word “should.” It’s a tip-off that something deeper is going on than just…

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Psychological Safety: Final Answer (6 of 6) (Woohoo!)

"Some leaders feel that asking others for their opinions is a sign of weakness. Nothing could be further from the truth."

I have been discussing my leadership list in depth, and we are up to number six, the last one! My list is a response to Google’s research on the qualities of exceptional teams, as described in Project Aristotle. Here is the list with the bullet points that I’ve discussed so far.

Kathy’s Leadership List

Be present, and show that you care.

Focus on keeping your mind present during conversations…

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Positive Effect Leadership: Lead Yourself First! Go further faster with a leadership coach! #EveryoneisaLeader #LeadershipRules #KathySays

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Psychological Safety: Final Answer (5)

"We want to be like Horton the elephant in Horton Hatches the Egg by Dr. Seuss."

I have been discussing my leadership list in depth, and we are up to number five. Only one more to go after this one! My list is a response to Google’s research on the qualities of exceptional teams, as described in Project Aristotle. Here is the list with the bullet points that I’ve discussed so far.

Kathy’s Leadership List

Be present, and show that you care.

Focus on keeping your mind present…

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Psychological Safety: Final Answer (4)

"Leaders can avoid a lot of conflict and create a lot of motivation by ensuring that individual and team goals are clear and linked to organizational goals."

I have been discussing my leadership list in depth, and we are up to number four. My list is a response to Google’s research on the qualities of exceptional teams, as described in Project Aristotle. Here is the list with the bullet points that I’ve discussed so far.

Kathy’s Leadership List

Be present, and show that you care.

Focus on keeping your mind present during conversations and meetings.

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Psychological Safety: Final Answer (3)

"I have been discussing my leadership list in depth, and we are up to number three."

I have been discussing my leadership list in depth, and we are up to number three. My list is a response to Google’s research on the qualities of exceptional teams, as described in Project Aristotle. Here is the list with the bullet points that I’ve discussed so far.

Kathy’s Leadership List

Be present, and show that you care.

Focus on keeping your mind present during conversations and meetings.

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Psychological Safety: Humor vs. Vulnerability

"There cannot be great victories or joy without great risk. We must put our hearts on our sleeves and fully engage in order to achieve the goals in life that matter to us."

As I move through life with my psychological safety-noticing glasses on, I’ve noticed a trend. These behaviors have probably been around forever, but I am looking at them with new eyes. What used to be funny is now a threat to psychological safety and the effectiveness of leaders and groups.

I first noticed in my leadership workshops that a few of the participants weren’t fully engaging in the…

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Psychological Safety: Fact and Feeling Parts

"It can feel scary to voluntarily dive into the ocean of emotions. The water is murky and deep, and you have no idea of what lurks down there. Take heart!"

It’s important to know that every message has a fact and a feeling part. One must identify both parts in order to deal with a conflict effectively or to communicate clearly.

This is a Kathy Observation, not researched fact, but I’m pretty sure that you cannot create psychological safetyand strictly stick to facts all the time. We are humans, and humans have feelings. As leaders, we don’t have…

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