Met with our Case Manager Today
I spoke to the twins' Mom this week and she informed me that the social worker told her that it is possible the twins could go to live with their aunt. This is after we were told that we should expect the twins to be with us for six months. I'm telling you what....over the weekend I was shopping out Halloween costumes for them and today I was told they could leave as early as two weeks.
Basically we are in a holding pattern while they check out the aunt. I'm guessing that she's going to pass the background check but it sounds like she does not have vehicle insurance and I'm pretty sure that is necessary, although perhaps an exception would be made because the aunt is kin. I hate this part of foster care--the part that doesn't allow us to plan.
When I brought the twins in for their two month check up the doctor said that he would not clear them for daycare until after their four month check up. I'm a teacher so I'm transitioning from stay-at-home-summer-mom to full-time college instructor next week. However, given the news from the doctor and the fact that our son is beginning 4K in two weeks and has a kind of weird schedule, I approached my boss about being a part-time employee for the fall semester. She agreed to let me go from teaching five classes to three. I think I may have just committed career suicide (given that my department is not all that family friendly), but felt like I was kind of backed into a rough corner: work full-time and sacrifice my kiddo (because he would have had to go to daycare, take the bus from daycare to school, attend school in the afternoon, take the bus from school back to daycare, wait for parent to pick him up) or be home more with my kiddo but give up my full-time job and therefore my salary and being the breadwinner in our family (not like I make a lot of money but my DH works non-profit so he makes less than a teacher). It would have been really great to have known about the relative possibility before I went to a part-time schedule.
This is the point where I attempt to step back and recognize that I don't have control over any of the decisions when it comes to these two babies. My DH and I are caring for them the very best we know how. We are loving them, taking them everywhere we go, feeding them round the clock, and advocating for them nonstop. We are doing our part. Waiting to see how everyone else involved in the case chooses to do theirs.
