Answer all the questions in the pride questionnaire 💕
what is your sexuality?I am proudly bisexual
what do gender do you identify as?female
how long have you been aware of your sexuality/gender?I’d say I’ve always been pretty comfortable in my gender, just not in the norms but my sexuality was something I stumbled into around 7th grade.
do you have any preferences?Not really. As cliche as it sounds, I’m a personality person. Nothing is more attractive to me than a great sense of humor and pretty smile.
share a positive memory about coming out!I have a cousin who is struggle with his gender and sexuality and I just told him that he will always be safe with me and told him that I understood him about sexuality because of my bisexuality and he was thrilled to be less alone in discovering who he was.
how do you feel about pride month?I think it’s beautiful especially since it comes right after mental health awareness month.
do you participate in pride related events? any other events?I’d love to but they’re usually schedule around my god daughters birthday so If I want to go to one I have to go out of town. I’d love to go to NY for one.
how do you feel about lgbtq roles in media?Some are kind of a joke and I hate it but I love my positive role models who don’t care what the media says and just keeps doing their thing. It’s not a joke. It’s not something that they’re “going through” It’s life. Suck it the fuck up, media.
do you feel pride in who you are?I do most days. As far as my sexuality goes I feel pride that my mom knows who I am but because my dad is who he is, I couldn’t be truly out and proud while living here. He says he’d be cool with it but he’s also said “There has to be a man and a woman in a female relationship” so….
who has been your supportive idols in your self discovery?Drew Barrymore, Evan Rachel Wood, Tyler Posey, Harry Shum Jr, Gina Rodriguez
tell us about your first crush?My first crush was Belle from Beauty and the Beast because she was super smart and her dad looked like my grandpa so I thought it would be cool that we both take care of our parents…yeah I was that little weirdo. Also Eric from The Little Mermaid because I’ve got a thing for dark hair and blue eyes.
what sort of advice do have you lgbtq teens? The world is a dangerous place when it comes to things they don’t know. Different is unheard of or unnatural but there’s nothing wrong with you. You are who you are and you love who you love because that’s how you’re put together. It’s science. It’s biology. No one has to live in your body except you so live every single second you have on this earth as the best version of yourself. People say it gets better but better doesn’t mean easier. As long as you surround yourself with people who love YOU than every one else who dares look at you sideways won’t be able to get through that wall of love.
have you come out to friends and family? The people I’m closest with in my life know me through and through.
how do you feel about the term “coming out” ?For me, I feel like coming out is something you either consider a big deal or not. I’m a very private person to begin with so unless I’m dating you or sleeping with you, I don’t need to tell anyone what my sexuality is. If it comes up in conversation, I won’t ever deny it or hide from it and if the person is surprised I’ll be like “well you don’t know lots of things about me, this is just another thing on the list.”
do you believe there is a “closet” to come out of?I suppose? I mean I like to think of it as a mask. You have to be a certain person for whatever your reasons or fear, you don’t want people to see the real you.
any tips on coming out?Everyone’s situation is different. If you’re in a violent home, you do whatever you think is your safest option and the moment you’re able, you get out of there and find your freedom. You get one life. Just one. Don’t let yourself be trapped forever because a waste of life is tragic.
what’s your biggest pet peeve when it comes to lgbtq characterization in media?That bisexuals are greedy cheaters who either don’t exist or are going through a phase. It’s just fucking stupid.
what’s your favorite parts of lgbtq characterization in media?That when people come out as bisexual they’re usually like “yeah um...guess I didn’t think to make a billboard because you know, not your business?” I just like that no matter what we have a community with one another. We all know what it’s like not to be accepted but some people but no matter what we have the community.
what did your teachers say about the lgbtqa community in school?They didn’t. There was no talk about it. Hell I didn’t even know we had a GSA until my senior year and only 5 people were apart of it because they weren’t allowed to post flyers.
do you practice safe sex with the same gender?Of course.
what’s an absolute turn off for you in the opposite/same gender?Someone who thinks you aren’t “enough” of a “Whatever” sexual. There’s no check list of TO DO’s or sign up sheet. I do what I want, you can’t tell me who or what I am.
what’s an absolute turn on for you in the opposite/same gender?Someone who’s understanding and doesn’t get upset about my past abusive relationships. They don’t treat me like shit.
how do you feel about lgbtq clubs/apps/websites?I think any way to communicate with the community is a plus.
how do you feel about the term “queer” ?I feel like it can be harmfully used or embraced. Sadly I live in a place it’s mostly used as an insult and that sucks.
how does you country view the lgbtq community?Depends on who you ask. My gov is run by a fuckass garbage fire with a toupee and cheeto skin soooooo
favorite lgbtq actor/actress?Laverne Cox & Evan Rachel Wood
any tips for heterosexual and/or cisgender people on how to handle lgbtq events/news?A true Ally doesn’t stand up and scream above our voices. You stand besides us, hear us, fight against hate but overshadowing is not support. People are people. We all bleed the same. Love is love. My love is no better or worse than yours. An attack on our community is still innocent lives lost.
what’s the most annoying question you have ever gotten?Wanna be in a three way? Who’s the “guy” in your relationship? “Who hurt you?”
how do you feel about receiving questions about your sexuality/gender?I don’t really mind but if someone is asking like they’re trying to make an example out of me or prove a point, then honestly they can get fucked because it’s not their business. If I’m not going down on you, you gotta get up out of my business.
