So feline side of Tumblr, I could use some advice.
My Mallow is a 1yr old short-haired calico who has grown up knowing only Belle, the 6yr old long-haired tabby. The girls get along fairly well and they're indoors.
Introduce Shadow, a now 3 month old male black tabby with his mother's friendly disposition. Mostly an outdoor baby who was supposed to go to a new home by now, he is the only survivor of his litter. His moms, the one who gave birth to him and the one who took him in when he was rejected, are both gone. One is dead and the other is missing, presumed dead. His half-sister from the other mom was struck by a car a few weeks ago
He is utterly alone outside. Naturally, I feel sorry for the little guy. He's only not in a new home now because my brother wanted to keep him after losing all the others, and he and Dad live with us at the moment. The house isn't mine; it's grandma's and she doesn't want anymore indoor animals.
I'm worried about nocturnal predators however and have started sneaking him inside around midnight each night (cause she doesn't go to bed until 11) to spend the night.
Mallow already knew about him before all this. I started introducing them in supervised meetings over a month ago to get him socialized for his new home. It was only 5-10 minutes at a time, 2-3 times a week, and the rest of the time, both Mallow and Shadow were content to play with each other through the gap at the bottom of the glass front door.
So note, they are and have been familiar with each other. Their introduction was slow, supervised, and their early playtimes were through at least some kind of barrier.
Three weeks ago is when I started bringing him in at night. That was two weeks after his sister and birth-mother died. His adoptive mother was pregnant again but still let him cuddle and such so I only brought him two nights that week. Then she started rejecting him two weeks ago, and even then I waited a few nights before I started bringing him in. Now, she's been missing for over a week, and he's been in every night since.
He was sleeping under my bed at first but the last three nights he's decided to start cuddling up to me through the night. Mallow is not happy with this, but I can't help it. He's not there when I go to sleep, and I sleep pretty deep so I don't know he's there.
Keep in mind, my attention to Mallow hasn't changed. She grew up knowing I had a busy schedule, first with school and work, then just work and that schedule is awful. She had actually attached herself to grandma before all this because grandma is home more than I am which just makes sense. Still, because of my hectic schedule, my evenings and sometimes days if I work at night, are dedicated solely to Mallow. I talk to her, play with her, and I started doing that WhatTheFluff Challenge cause it's a great game of hide n seek for us. And ever since I started bringing Shadow in, that hasn't changed. I just make a little extra time each morning before work and night before bed to talk to her in her little cat castle to let her know I still love her. Shadow is only temporary until my dad and brother move back into their house which is being fixed, but dad's schedule and his physical disability means that won't be for awhile since he's doing most of the fixing up himself.
So again, Mallow was aware of Shadow before any of this, and was even ok after I started sneaking him in cause they played and played for hours, even while I was trying to sleep, for at least a week. Then he started sneaking into my bed and now Mallow is jealous, won't play with him at night anymore but will when he barges in during the day, and this morning didn't want a thing to do with me.
I don't want a jealous cat and did everything I could to avoid it. So now that it's an issue, I decided to put Shadow up with my brother for the next two nights while there is a free room to hide him in, and today I'm buying 2 cases of Mallow's favorite wetfood, goats milk cause she's not had it awhile and I'm gonna get back on that routine, and a bag of her favorite toy, pompoms, cause hers are all lost. I'm also gonna get a special toy just for her that neither Shadow or Belle is allowed to mess with.
I think this will help, especially if she gets just 2 nights without Shadow, but I was wondering if there's anything else I can do? I know it won't be an overnight fix, but it's a start.