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I (28F) think my friend (27 F) stole from me

My best friend and I have been best friends since elementary school. While in middle school, sometimes I would go to her house and see my perfume (that I didn’t give her) sitting in her room, or a shirt I had been looking for. During high school we visited a mutual friend, and my friend in question went through her parents medicine cabinet and was going to steal her pain meds (the mutual friends mom just finished chemo and was in remission for breast cancer). I told her not to, and that is the last time I have ever experienced her stealing or trying to steal. She has openly talked about how she was a klepto over the years and from my understanding, she deeply regrets it. The other day she and a mutual friend picked me up from my home to go get some drinks. I had just gotten home from a family event so I took my earrings off and left them on the bathroom counter, as I usually do, and changed into some comfier clothes. When she got to my house she asked to use my bathroom really quick. She used the bathroom and left. That night we were having deep convos about our childhood and she brought up how she thinks she was a klepto in the past because she was never shown attention at home. Yesterday I was getting ready to go to another family event and my earrings are nowhere to be found. I’ve looked in every room in my house, in my car, everywhere. I always take them off in the bathroom and it occurred to me that she was the only one besides my husband in my bathroom since I took them off. Now I am just frustrated because although the earrings weren’t expensive (I think they were cheap Amazon/target earrings), they still were my favorite pair that I wore everywhere and now I am having to question whether my friend did it. If you were in my position, is it easier to just move forward and hide things around her from now on or would you confront your friend?

Why would I hide and tiptoe around a friend stealing from me??? That's very weird behavior. Why is not triggering her rightful shame at stealing from me more important than my feelings about a friend I'm trusting around my house stealing from me? I'm just calling the friend up and letting her know I need those earrings back, and if she argues about it, I firmly affirm I'm not attacking her but I we both know she has a stealing problem, and that I want the earrings back. Clearly you value her friendship, so just approach this calmly and directly.

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