Love and sex in lockdown
Everyone is yearning for love and sex. The internet is abuzz with people flooding dating sites looking for suitable matches, flirtation or simply window shopping. Online sex, dirty talk and sexting is rife. Jokes abound as to how now removing a mask for a kiss is going to elicit as much excitement and take as much effort as once removing a bra for sex did. Going by the flood of messages I receive on various issues, it’s very interesting to note how many people are now refocusing on getting their love and sex lives back in shape. Some are determined to leave loveless, sexless marriages, some are repentant over an ex they drove away, some are simply desperate to have a good sex life back in place, while some deeply yearn for love and companionship, and have now made that a priority in their lives.
Whatever your emotional state, what’s important is that you are aware of what is much needed and what you’re now ready for. The entire lockdown has been a huge learning curve in human relationships for everyone. It’s given people an assessment of their personal misery and happiness levels, and made them incredibly aware of how much love, sex and great companionship matter. Love, sex and happiness are inextricably linked. The oxytocin and endorphins released during physical and emotional intimacy are incredibly powerful happy hormones that keep you cheery, joyful and contented.
Given how people’s energy levels, happiness levels and income levels are steadily dropping through the lockdown, it’s no surprise that people are now reaching out on various mediums to others for love and sex. It’s important to recognise that a drowning man grasps at straws and that much like a ravenously hungry person will not be discerning about quality of choices, but more the need to feed the hunger.
Pay close attention to this, because this will cause much more anger and pain at a later stage. Bad choices lead to unpleasant consequences and you need to take your life from strength to strength, not into a spiralling abyss of wrong options. The best way to keep a grasp on things is to look at yourself in the mirror every single day, look deep into your eyes and be truthful with yourself as to whether it’s a compromise, a time filler or the real deal. Utter honesty is your best friend and guiding light in these suffocating times when all your heart and body yearn for, is what’s not in your bedroom every night.
