#label anon

[my-castles-crumbling]

Anon Advice Asks - January 26th

taco anon - grayromantic anon (new) - no worries anon - 🐝 anon (new) - rambling anon (new) - middle grader anon (new) - label anon (new) - confidante anon (new)

Taco Anon

hey, it's taco anon

this is completely different from my last ask lolll but i wanted to share this bc little things like this help remind me that there is good in the world

im friends with these two boys and they've been best friends for a lot longer than i've known them. one of them is really musically talented - like he can hear a song and then know the keys on the piano and like play it after hearing it once. (i think this is so freaking cool) but i recently learned that when the other boy has a new favorite song, the piano one will learn how to play it for him.

it's honestly so sweet and i love them both so much😭😭😭

hope youre having a great day xoxo

OMG this is so sweet and it made my day 😍 honestly we need more reminders of good things like this

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Grayromantic anon

hi cas, how are you?

i needed to ask you how to get over a crush because i think i have a crush on a friend of mine

i don’t know what to do about it, because i really like him but he’s straight so i know he doesn’t like me back

the thing is, i’m aromantic or grayromantic or something, and i don’t think i would like to date him even

i like being friends with him, and i don’t want to date him. maybe i would like to be a bit closer but it’s not that important to me, you know? i’m just happy as it is now

which is why i have such conflicting feelings, because on one hand i think i do like him in a romantic way, but on the other i wouldn’t want to date him

i wish i could just forget about this and move on as normal

wishing you all the best :))

Hi!

Okay so I think at this point it might be a good idea to like..get some of these feelings out in a healthy way? You said you have conflicting feelings, you know? So I'd suggest maybe writing about it or drawing about it. Try to get those feelings down on paper and seeing if you can make a little more sense of them once they're not just rolling around in your brain. I know it's hard to have a million conflicting thoughts battling in you head to getting them out could really help <3

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No Worries Anon

It has been a while since I sent an ask ig so I’m here for an update

Hello, it’s No Worries Anon

So… me and that friend reallllly haven’t talked at all outside of convos in class

And now that my class has ended, we have had legit no convos

Like… the last genuine convo through text that we had was earlyyyyy December, so it has been about 2 months since that.

They still haven’t called me my name. Still. Which sucks so much for me

Anyways, another person who hasn’t called me my name actually told another person my name, so that is cool

Nonetheless, it’s still rough having no one who respects me

Hi <3 I'm so sorry that things haven't gotten better. I want to remind you that whether or not you're getting respect, you DESERVE respect. Not only do you deserve to be called by the right name, but you deserve to be respected in every other way. Don't forget that <3

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🐝 anon

Hi! I know you said I didn't need to respond but I just wanted to say you are so valid for feeling overwhelmed. Please be gentle with yourself. I'm sending you so much love, and please try to take care of yourself, you deserve it <3

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Rambling Anon

His Cas! First of all, I just want to thank you for being so ridiculously sweet with everyone and always answering these asks. People often message me and leave asks too, but I’m so socially awkward that I never answer, and then I feel bad about it 😭. Like, the kind of bad where you stare at the unanswered messages, pretend they don't exist, and then suddenly remember them at 2 a.m. while eating cereal straight from the box. But I can’t help it. I have too much social anxiety.

Second of all... I've been writing a fic since May of last year, so… a while. I just hit 200k words, which is wild. And honestly? Terrifying. Like, how did I even get here?

The problem is, I have no clue what I’m doing. English isn’t my first language, so half the time, I’m convinced my grammar is out here committing war crimes. I feel like my writing is clunky, my dialogue is awkward, and the whole story feels so dull that I second guess every decision I’ve made.

And what’s worse... I’m nowhere near done. At best, I think I’m halfway through if I stick to my plan. If I want to tell the story the way I imagined, it’s probably going to be 400k words. For my first fic. What was I thinking?! Every time I open my documents, I feel like I’m drowning in timelines and backstories and just everything.

The worst part is, I want so much from this. I want the characters to feel real, the relationships to feel natural, the development to actually make sense. I want everything to matter, you know? But the more I try, the more I feel like I’m losing control.

I know I should probably get a beta reader to help, but that involves, you know, asking someone. And since we’ve already established I’m a socially awkward disaster, and too shy to ask anyone. Like, they're about to spend hours of their time reading it, it's too embarrassing.

This story means so much to me, and I really want to see it through. I want to finish it. I need to at least try. I love what I’ve created, but at the same time, I can’t stop hating it. It’s this weird love-hate relationship where I’m so proud of what it could be, but I’m constantly second guessing if it’s even worth it.

Most days, I come home from work completely drained, and even though I’m exhausted, I feel guilty if I don’t sit down to write immediately. It’s like I owe this story every bit of energy I have left but then I sit there staring at the screen, overwhelmed, and end up doing nothing.

I’m sorry for rambling here. I didn’t mean to unload all of this. But I really wanted to ask... Do you have any advice? Anything that could help me keep going and actually finish this thing? I just want to make it to the end without completely losing my mind in the process. I love your writing and I love your fics. And your work really makes me want to at least try.

Hi!

Okay so first, thank you <3 trust me, I often get overwhelmed by messages, it's just...tumblr is easier for some reason.

As far as your fic.

I think you need to reevaluate the amount of pressure you're putting on yourself. Writing fanfic is supposed to be FUN. If it's not fun, you're doing it wrong. You have no deadline, and have no responsibility to anyone. So a few things:

If you have any comments on your fic, read through the comments. They always make me feel better.

If you have anyone who follows your fic already, maybe that could be a good person to ask to beta? They already are following, you know? It's not hard for them to jump in.

Remember it does not have to be perfect. This is not published. You can go back and change things a million times! Again, this is supposed to be fun <3 If it's not, try taking a few breaths and doing whatever brought you to fandom in the first place. It's okay to take breaks and take care of yourself <3

I wish you so much luck!

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Middle Grader Anon

Okay so basically this anon asked what zionism is.

And for this, I'm going to say that though I understand what it is in theory...I don't think I'm educated enough to give a properly nuanced answer. I would say the best person to ask would be a history teacher. I'm sorry I couldn't be of more help!

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Label Anon

Hiii, I just had a little question to ask you, there’s nothing bad going on my life or anything, I just wanted tips on how to find my sexuality. I know that this maybe sounds like a stupid question but I really want to come out to my parents and I know that they support but I don’t really know what to say. I would like for me to know what my sexuality is before I try to explain some things to them. I would understand myself better if I had a label so I really wanted to know how to find it, I searched some things online and I think the sexuality I relate to the most is omnisexuality, but sometimes also pansexuality so I don’t really know. Do you have any tips on how to find my label?? Tyy<3

Hi <3

I think this is a hard question because like...labels are very different and personal for each person, and you don't even have to have one. I think if you really feel you need one, maybe see if you can talk to someone with the labels you might relate to and see if you feel similarly to how they feel? But also like...your sexuality is valid whether or not you have a definitive label. It's okay to tell your parents you're queer, and leave it at that. You are still just as part of the community, and your feelings are just as real <3 You don't have to rush yourself or push yourself to find a more detailed label yet, or at all.

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confidante anon

Heyy cas! I messaged a few days ago saying how i loved ur fics nd i cane across how ure constantly helping people you're the most amazing everr. Um im sending this cuz like i rlly need someone to talk to rn theres too much going on and i was wondering if u cold be my, idk, confidante? Lmk wht u think of that!!

Hi!

You're absolutely welcome to vent or ask for advice in my inbox any time, my dear <3

[ticcidrownedceo]

label anon here: i leave for TWO WEEKS and you go and get IMPULSE MARRIED good for you /lh

To be fair, we've been officially engaged since Valentine's Day, and unofficially engaged since September, since we kinda decided when we adopted Charlotte that yeah, if we're ready to be parents together, we're ready to commit fully for the long term and get married one day. So, it wasn't exactly out of nowhere, we just kinda got bored with slowly planning it and decided "fuck it, everyone throw on your best clothes and go outside, we're doing it now"

[be-happier]

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[forzafinally]

Label anon here!! SZA has now spoken up about RCA and how they're hostile and delayed her music like I said they treat their POC artists like shit.

It's really blatant with RCA I think. Yet artists keep signing with them. I wonder why

[forzafinally]

1/? Hi it's the label anon, this is going to be long. First of all Z with RCA was a terrible choice, yes he and to sign with Sony or get sued but with his anxiety and ed, RCA was the worst choice. The label is either go big or go home, the way RCA works is either you go all in full promo or you create scandals to do the promo, look at the other signed artists in RCA. So when Zayn refused to do the first tour and appearances that put them in a spot and it cost them tremendous amount of money.

2/? They also tried to go the scandal route but that backfired as Zs book contradicted the interviews so it just made them all including Z look unprofessional. It also didn't make sense as Z became more reclusive in the public eye. So this caused a bitterness and then they got their chance with IF, accordingly IF was to have a tour and the album itself was pushed back a year. With RCA leaking some of the songs early then pushing the album back because they need the money.

3/? Internationally IF physical copies sent out ranged from 1000-5000, while the others were shelved. They also pushed the zero promo and concept album narrative onto Z and washed their hands clean. The album cover and title was also leaked, and the label did not back it up cause at this point they'd lost a lot of money on Zayn so they just didn't care. Video concepts were also sabotaged as Zs ideas are mostly extraordinary but expensive. They also gave zero zero radio or TV coverage.

4. The songs were not announced to the general public and it became songs by a faceless artist which is very very detrimental to Zs future as an artist. The thing here is he had a face before which sold millions & why this is as bad. Unlike Harry whose name and face is tied together because of SNL and all other talk shows & concerts he did. Unlike RCA Columbia baacks him up a lot with the media in TV and print. He is also tied to fashion brands like Gucci which in all honesty is. more exposure.

5/5 thus for Harry the promo like you said might not be direct but making his name a household one is their marketing strategy and it's working a lot because of Harry's likableness charm and talent. And for Zayn theres also a slight problem of his current image which for A LOT of people is a bitter ex one direction member and asshole, not saying this all the label because Z definitely played a part in his own career suicide. But what I'm saying is purely the way IF was treated is all RCA

Thank you so much for your insight! Yeah I do agree that the main point of conflict seems to be with Zayn refusing to tour and RCA not backing him up. From what you are telling me, RCA doesn't seem to be the most supportive label I guess? It's kind of do it their way or don't do it at all. Which is unfortunate because I think that if Zayn had signed with a more encouraging label he might have been more inclined to meet them atleast half way. I am very interested to see what happens if and when Z3 comes out with regards to chart performance, promo and everything. I hope that Zayn is able to turn things around.

Also, just for my info, did Zayn have any other options after leaving the band apart from RCA? Or was that the only choice he had at the time?

[winchester-with-wings]

Label anon here, not sure if you remeber me... So, I haven't researched labels cause I'm lazy and I'm afraid they might just confuse me more; but for now I've decided I'm straight/mentally bisexual, which might not make sense, but it's the best I got

Hey Label Anon! I do remember you! :) You don’t have to research labels if you don’t want to. So does straight/mentally bisexual mean that you’re straight but on the inside you like both genders? Like you date guys but mentally you’re interested in women too but you don’t outwardly pursue women?

Discovering yourself is a process and it’s okay if you’re still unsure or you haven’t found an exact label yet.