#ladymsinclair

[onceandfuturekiki]

I'm a very proud Italian fan of Tornatore and to see Cinema Paradiso on my desk made me really happy. :) ♥

I love Giuseppe Tornatore films. He's one of my absolute favorite directors. All of his movies are so beautiful.

[onceandfuturekiki]

Again with the "child rapist" bullshit - sorry for the vulgarity - not to say someone can't be triggered by age gaps, but I fail to see how a girl old enough to go in jail and not in reformatory can be considered a child.

Well, I don't think it's wise to base any argument on "she went to jail, not reformatory" because sentences like that will vary from state to state and even judge to judge. 

The fact is, though, that we have no idea what Neal and Emma's exact ages were because of so much conflicting canon evidence. At this point in time we simply cannot know. So we have to use the canon that is certain to judge their relationship and accept all possibilities about their ages until their exact ages are confirmed in canon (that is, if they ever are).

However, some people refuse to accept that fact that there are canon contradictions. They refuse to accept the fact that we simply cannot know these exact ages. They've decided to pick one piece of the conflicting canon and ignore all the rest, and then attack people based on that. The way they see it, they're correct in picking that one piece of conflicting canon and ignoring the rest, but if someone were to pick another piece of conflicting canon and ignore the rest, then that person would be wrong. And since they've decided beyond a shadow of a doubt, despite the fact that there is not more support for their argument than other, that their conflicting canon is correct, they also feel the need to attack people who recognize all of the possibilities.

[onceandfuturekiki]

I'm appalled by the anon hate you're getting by the anti-stalia people. I found you and started following you on the anti-stalia tag, when it was filled with reasonable and well-written critique. If you stop writing there, it's their loss. They aren't acting any better than many stalia stans and I'm tired by this fandom childish issues as much as I'm tired of Jeff's sloppy writing.

Thank you so much for this message.

I have noticed that a lot of the Teen Wolf fandom in general tends toward childishness. There are a lot of really great, smart, thoughtful people, but it does seem like one of the more childish fandoms I've ever taken part in.

[onceandfuturekiki]

Can I just say how funny it is that Neal hiding of having been stuck in a timeless island for centuries is worse than Hook hiding the fact he abandoned him on said island in first place? Or the fact that the age difference between Neal and Emma is gross but not the fact that Hook dated - and ran away with - Henry's grandmother?

There's also the fact that he still allows Emma to think that he found Eric for Ariel and she has no idea that he chose his ship over Eric's life.

But there is no point in bringing Hook into conversations about Neal, or Neal into conversations about Hook, because it doesn't matter. The behavior and mistakes made by one character do not suddenly make another character's actions okay. So man CSers try to bring Neal into the conversation, but if you're doing that then you're pretty much just showing that you don't have much of an argument to defend Hook.

As for the age difference... with a lot of people, I don't think it's the 300 years that bothers them, it's the possible seven years because Emma was 17. And it's understandable if that bothers them or if they're triggered by it. But if they're going to try to argue that the relationship is wrong or unhealthy, they're flat out wrong, because their experience is not everyone's experience, and there is nothing that happened in canon that shows that there was an kind of imbalance of power or maturity. There is no canon evidence that he manipulated her or took advantage of her. 

[onceandfuturekiki]

Hi! Just dropped by to say that you are a sight for sore eyes in the Teen Wolf Fandom lately. I am tired of going through tags and see people acting like we are on a actual war. Everyone has the right to like/dislike whatever they want. I don't know, it shouldn't be that hard to understand, should it? Basically, thank you for being a reasonable person.

Thank you so much! I just hate the way people view it as some kind of a competition, as if their actions can lead to some kind of "win". That's just such a ludicrous idea. People have become so obsessed with the idea of being "right" that they've lost perspective on shipping the things they love and discussing the actual issues they have with other ships. It makes me so sad that the anti stalia group started out as such a reasonable group of people that were generally, for the most part, respectful, and were more interested with discussing the problems with the ship than just spewing hate, but it's definitely shifted toward the latter lately. Which is scary. Because that kind of behavior overshadows the discussion of what are some genuinely serious problems in the writing of the show, and the seriously dangerous ideas that are being endorsed by this show in the for of Stalia.

It's sad, it's upsetting, and it's scary. Because the attitudes and behaviors that have started to become prevalent in the anti stalia group has shifted to the kind of behavior that gets a whole group labeled as whiny, as irrational, as people who are just mad about their ship not being together, as haters. And not just by other fans, but also by the cast and crew. The behavior is doing so much harm and it needs to stop, because Stalia is a really problematic and potentially dangerous ship, and the writers need to be made to understand that. Because yes, the way relationships are portrayed in media has a huge effect on what normalized in society. But the recent behavior is the kind of thing that leads to the writers brushing the issue aside because it just looks like the anti malia crowd are hateful, whiny, and entitled. 

And I know so many of them can be more than that. But a lot of people have become more focused on this competition with Stalia shippers, with the idea of "winning" or being the ones who are "right". They've lost perspective, because it's not about the Stalia shippers. Let them ship their terrible ship if they want to. If some of them are going to intentionally mistag, let them be spiteful little shits. There's no reason to retaliate or pay them any mind, because they aren't the issue. The issue is a poorly written ship that promotes dangerous and unhealthy ideas. Not the people who ship it.