#lagbat

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So, being demiromantic (or something like that) sucks, and here's why.

I don't like approaching people with the intent of a romantic relationship, so I approach them as friends. This way I can get to know them and figure out if a romantic relationship could maybe work. Sometimes it wouldn't, but they're still a great friend, and sometimes even the friendship doesn't work out.

But then there's the problem of when I do catch feelings for them. Now I'm in a pickle. We're already good friends, and if I suggest feelings, what happens if they aren't mutual? Will it mess up the friendship? What if they never thought of me that way (somewhat likely) and would find it weird? What if they think I'm only friends with them because I like them (not true)?

Why can't I just be normal sometimes?

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Brain: I think you might be asexual

Person: Fuck!

Brain: [Extremely Loud Incorrect Buzzer]

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I just realized. In fiction, it’s a lot harder to establish someone as pan than it is to establish them as bi without just explicitly saying it. For a bi person, you just have to show them being attracted to two genders. But convince the audience that they’re pan, you have to show them being attracted to at least two other genders just to get people to consider they might be pan. And even then people may just default to them being bi. There’d be tons of discourse about it until either the show or the creator explicitly states it (kinda like Luz’s coming out video in the last season, but, you know, pan)

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My dad: I like your face shaved.

Me: 😊

My dad: It really makes you look more masculine.

Me: 🙂

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You know what I'm noticing since realizing I'm trans? I actually care about how my body looks. And I don't mean, "oh, I don't have tits, boo hoo," (although that thought is quite prevalent), I mean like I care about doing my hair. I care about making it look nice. And I don't care how much maintenance that takes (to an extent). Before, I literally just got it cut every couple of months, and however it looked when I woke up is how it was. And while I still kinda have that habit (I also keep forgetting to shave and regretting it once I'm out and about), I'm actually paying attention to hair advice and trying to get into a routine. I'm also in an awkward phase of trying to grow my hair out, so that's been... a journey, to say the least. Beanie's help. I should probably get a trim soon, though, and get some advice from a barber on how to transition to longer hair.

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"God made humans male and female!"

That He did. And then we evolved into a vast multitude of different body types and personalities. The most obvious ones to break this binary are intersex people.

You know those Coca-Cola freestyle machines? The system that allows them to put all the soda through the one nozzle was originally invented to deliver precise doses of drugs in hospitals. I don't think the way something was "originally made" should dictate how we see what it has become.

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If I came out as trans (which I'm not, this is a hypothetical), I would drive my parents mad from the technicalities during the adjustment period.

"We have no son."

"Correct."

"Wait, no-"

"And also incorrect, because I have brothers."

"No, that's not what we meant."

(I don't think they'd actually say that, to be fair to them, but these kinds of exchanges happen all the time in my house. Just not this queer.)

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It is better for 1 person to be tolerant than 100 people to be hateful.