#leave him

[disgruntled-rat]

hi so what if I started crying forever

ohhhhh anya you deserve so much better than your loser fiance who sucks

[louisplumpyass]

oh..........

[thatbadadvice]

Help! I'm A Private Person!

Neil Gaiman, Journal.NeilGaiman.com, 14 January 2025:

Over the past many months, I have watched the stories circulating the internet about me with horror and dismay. I’ve stayed quiet until now, both out of respect for the people who were sharing their stories and out of a desire not to draw even more attention to a lot of misinformation. I've always tried to be a private person, and felt increasingly that social media was the wrong place to talk about important personal matters. I've now reached the point where I feel that I should say something. As I read through this latest collection of accounts, there are moments I half-recognise and moments I don’t, descriptions of things that happened sitting beside things that emphatically did not happen. I’m far from a perfect person, but I have never engaged in non-consensual sexual activity with anyone. Ever.  I went back to read the messages I exchanged with the women around and following the occasions that have subsequently been reported as being abusive. These messages read now as they did when I received them – of two people enjoying entirely consensual sexual relationships and wanting to see one another again. At the time I was in those relationships, they seemed positive and happy on both sides. And I also realise, looking through them, years later, that I could have and should have done so much better. I was emotionally unavailable while being sexually available, self-focused and not as thoughtful as I could or should have been. I was obviously careless with people's hearts and feelings, and that's something that I really, deeply regret. It was selfish of me. I was caught up in my own story and I ignored other people's. I’ve spent some months now taking a long, hard look at who I have been and how I have made people feel.  Like most of us, I’m learning, and I'm trying to do the work needed, and I know that that's not an overnight process. I hope that with the help of good people, I'll continue to grow. I understand that not everyone will believe me or even care what I say but I’ll be doing the work anyway, for myself, my family and the people I love. I will be doing my very best to deserve their trust, as well as the trust of my readers. At the same time, as I reflect on my past – and as I re-review everything that actually happened as opposed to what is being alleged – I don't accept there was any abuse. To repeat, I have never engaged in non-consensual sexual activity with anyone. Some of the horrible stories now being told simply never happened, while others have been so distorted from what actually took place that they bear no relationship to reality. I am prepared to take responsibility for any missteps I made. I’m not willing to turn my back on the truth, and I can't accept being described as someone I am not, and cannot and will not admit to doing things I didn't do.

Dear Neil,

You, sir, are nothing other than fundamentally misunderstood — indicated in every sense by this, a smart and good post that you published on the whole-ass internet for literally the entire world to read.

The important thing is that you're learning! And you deserve infinite credit for that. Not nearly enough people appreciate how much you've learned about yourself in the course of ~ allegedly ~ committing sexual assault against multiple, probably crazy, women and the aftermath thereof. Less enlightened men would disregard the experiences of women who have highly specific and detailed accounts of being sexually abused, but you are open to the idea that the women who foolishly believe you assaulted them were simply mislead by your interminable charm! For which you cannot be held responsible! What a gift you are, friend; your generosity and open-mindedness are unparalleled.

Truly, whomst among us has not been where you find yourself now? Come, enjoy the company of friends who understand the brutal loneliness that results from being misunderstood by hysterical bitches who fail to appreciate the privilege of having your masterful fingers shoved up their asses without notice!

Again and again, women love men like you too much. They want you to be emotionally and sexually available! And that is just so, so much to ask. You have a lot going on! It's not a ding on them — of course they find you irresistible, being as you are an intellectual titan — and they may find themselves confused and intimidated by your sexual prowess, unaware that you exist in a world beyond pedestrian notions of consent. That is what makes your work so particularly meaningful and powerful.

You write about a man who does a bad thing, but you do the other good thing! You do a good thing, but in your work, a man does a bad thing! This is the stuff of sheer brilliance, capturing the sturm unt drang of the human condition — or, at least, of the humans whose conditions matter most, which is to say, men of your creative stature.

The sorry truth is that despite your best efforts, no one understands you, the author of 40-plus years of written work in which you had every fucking opportunity to emulate literally any character of your design who was not an unrepentant rapist. Whomst among us has not struggled with such quandaries? Whomst among us has not wondered: Should I rape women in the presence of my child, or should I just the fuck wait a minute and destroy my marriage by other means? Should I order a cinnamon bagel, or an egg sandwich? These are the questions men such as us must grapple with in a world where cancel culture has run rampant, and where people are liable to believe anything they hear from over half a dozen unbridled harpies (story idea! make sure Katee Robert doesn't see this, she seems like a bitch with designs) whose indeterminate fantasies have been aggressively fact-checked by risk-averse media legal departments.

You're right and everyone else is wrong, and that's exactly the take-away that everyone will have from reading this thing that you posted! Great work, great instincts, great writing. It's like Stardust, but hotter. You know what I mean.

A+ all around, no notes other than: you should share this with more people directly so they have the clearest possible idea of where you're coming from. Don't hold back, bud!

[heterorealism]

[frog-on-top-of-a-log]

Nothing makes me more thankful to be aroace than talking to a friend in a toxic relationship with a 4/10 manchild

[stoneasher]

who: @harrietmclaughlin where: the orchard

asher could believe it that britney or anyone in this town with too much time and too sharp an eye absolutely could have sat on that photo until opening week of his shop, waiting for the exact right moment to toss it into the middle of everything and watch what caught fire, but that wasn’t the part that bothered him most. asher wasn’t ashamed of kissing ezra in public. he wasn’t ashamed of ezra at all. people kept acting like the scandal was the kiss itself, like asher should feel exposed or embarrassed, when he didn’t. what worried him was everything around it.

his mother’s surprise. the concerned looks. the people asking if he was okay with the photo getting out. the others laughing it off like, of course, classic asher stone kissing whoever happened to be available, turning his life into one more charming little story for the town to pass around. he was used to that. what he could not handle was the thought of hurting harriet. that was the piece sitting heavy in his chest as he grabbed his keys. weeks ago, under the trees, with cider on her mouth and her legs around him and every reasonable thought in his head gone useless, he had promised her he would ask her out again. not like the first time. not hungover after a hurricane with debris everywhere. he had wanted to do it right and plan something special. wanted to give her a moment that belonged only to them. and then there had been the shop with the opening. claude's confession. rowan’s song with fitz. ezra with his chickens. everything stacking up until days slipped by faster than he could hold them. he had told himself there would be time. now it felt like he had run out of it.

the ride to the orchard blurred beneath him as his motorcycle ate up the road. by the time he pulled up outside hattie’s house, his hands were tight around the handlebars and his heart was beating too hard. he killed the engine, but the silence afterward felt worse. for a second, asher just sat there, helmet still on, staring at the house like it might answer the question for him. like it might tell him if he was already too late. if she hated him. if she had decided the promise meant nothing because he had taken too long to keep it. then he got off the bike. he took off his helmet, pushed a hand through his hair, and walked up to the door before he could lose his nerve. his stomach twisted with every step. he knocked. once. then again. “hattie?” his voice came out softer than he expected, rough around the edges. “can we talk, please?”

[lizablackthorn]

a little reminder for everyone Charles is definitely NOT helping anyone in the championship. He’s racing and going for that podium for HIMSELF. Do not make this about your fight and try to blame charles when your driver loses