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Stills from my classic music video KINGS OF MEN, full of amazing talented people from 2012... Click here to watch it and here for behind the scenes!

Can you believe this is the only place online where you can still hear this absolute banger of a track??

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I cant stand up for Alex Day ANYMORE

I’ll start off by saying I know this is very late to drama that unfolded a long time ago, but I think it’s important to still talk about since Alex is still on youtube and still has many viewers. This is not an apology or an “I was wrong” post, it’s simply admitting defeat on something I had no reason to stand up for in the first place.

I was a Nerimon fan back in the day, but like many others, I saw his arrogance and I saw that he wasn’t the best friend/boyfriend. A few times spring to mind like when he talked about moving out of the house he shared with Charlie, I remember him saying he’d found “the dream flat” and he said something like “I had to tell Charlie I wanted out of the house, it wasn’t my fault I found my dream flat when we had a mortgage” and I remember being rather pissed off with him. He shunned the responsibility of entering a contractual obligation and he ignored his duty as a friend to make sure it’s what Charlie wanted too, but the way he described it was that he told Charlie he was leaving and their agreed arrangement was over and it wasn’t Alex’s fault.

Then of course I think most of us felt angry when he finally revealed the girl he’d been in a relationship with was Carrie. Most Nerimon fans were also Carrie fans too because generally one was found through the other. And we pretty much all knew they were together. Then he admitted they’d been together, he broke up with her because she was holding him back and distracting him, then when his friends all told him he was a crappy person with women, he claimed he realised how terrible he had been and fought to get her back. They got back together, he bragged about how romantic he had been and he said he was the one who made Carrie keep it a secret.

So obviously when everything came out about Alex, I dare say that many of his fans could say genuinely say they were honestly shocked. I’m not saying we all thought he was manipulative and a cheat, but I don’t think it took people too long to accept it. But people stood up for him because what came out about him didn’t seem to be anything too life-changing. He cheated on Carrie and we were all angry at him, he pressured girls into doing things, but there were so many of his supporters saying this wasn’t too bad that at the time it was easy to stand up for him. We all try to look past the bad things our idols do, we stand up for people we have a connection to, that’s what many of us did with Alex.

I realised a long time ago that I was wrong to hope he came back and I was wrong for watching his videos when he did return to youtube. I got older and realised that manipulative behavior is so much more damaging than I ever thought back then and pressuring someone into doing something you know they don’t want to do is just outright disgusting.

But I thought Alex had grown, he’d started becoming more self-aware and admitted to being a bad person and wanting to change things. I wasn’t a fan anymore but I would watch his videos when I saw them in my youtube recommended. Not so long ago he tried to blame the friends in his life who fell out with him when it came out the things he’d done, saying they were psychologically torturing him by cutting him off. I felt angry he’d done that.

But the main thing that made me feel personally angry that Alex Day was a recent video he made about how he got a boat. He said he was moving in with his girlfriend when he decided to buy a boat without consulting her. He simply bought one, called her up and said “Sorry if you don’t wanna live on a boat because that’s my plan now”

This is extremely angering to me because all the times he’s promised he’s changed and asked his supporters to forgive him have continued to be broken. All those years ago when he claimed he was sorry he had broken up with Carrie because he didn’t want to compromise his future for her, and he’s still doing it and bragging about it. He had arranged to move in with his girlfriend and impulsively bought a boat without asking her if she would be ok with the possibility of living on it, he shunned his duty as a partner in that relationship to consider how she would feel if she didn’t want to live on a boat, it’s what he wanted and she either had to go along with it or get herself out of his plan.

So, this is directly to Alex Day, should he ever read this post.

I bought your music and I bought your book, I watched your videos without fail when you used to post them, I did all I could to try and get my friends to buy Forever Yours, I continued to watch you when other viewers dropped out because you did indeed become increasingly arrogant. I put my support into you when you admitted to doing terrible things, I stood up for you and argued for you when things came out about you because I honestly believed you’d changed when you’d said you had. And now this. You don’t have to conform to what people expect of you, but I’ve seen you like comments on youtube from people bringing up that they’ve supported you since the Nerimon days and you did have a duty to those people to stop lying.

We paid our money to support your music career and gave you our time on videos. Many of us were attacked for continuing to support you but we stood firm that we wanted to keep it up. There aren’t many supporters left for you, but I’m sad to say I hoped you would be able to get a career on youtube back, that you’d become a musician again, that I could support your future again. I cannot do that when you are still bragging about the things you claimed you’d changed years ago.

I will no longer be watching your videos or standing up for you, and I doubt any future apologies or claims to change will mean much to your fans because even before you boat video, I didn’t believe you were a good person. But bragging on camera that you’re still selfish with your girlfriend despite you saying years ago you had learned is damaging and it’s a mockery to those of us who were insulted constantly for supporting you.

To Anyone else who might read this, I ask you reach out to those you might dislike because they support someone you think is terrible, and you talk to them. I was younger at the time of the Alex Day stuff coming out and I was naive, getting older and being in my own relationship made me see that manipulation and pressuring behavior is much more serious than I thought at the time. Alex did manage to promise his audience a lot of change to come and many of us fell for it. Rather than holding it against those who still might be his fans, perhaps we could try and have a conversation with them instead.

I would like to offer a personal apology to Lex. Obviously I was only ever a viewer and I don’t know her, but I dismissed her fans at the time who said he would not change and his apologies meant nothing. You might never see this but I sincerely say I’m sorry for what happened to you and the part I played in the negativity caused by Alex Day fans ignoring what he did because we believed he would change.

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