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when i was younger and stupid and in the (glass) closet i was dating the son of a pharmacologist. this man had made millions developing medications. he was fond of me and privately told me i was too funny and smart to be dating boys.

he also said that it was incredibly unlikely that sexism will ever be resolved in the medical field. that the majority of medications i will ever take - even some of which are "for women" - will not be clinically tested on my body.

the problem, he said, was in getting any human clinical trial approved. to test on a body with a uterus - any body, even elderly patients or those who have been sterilized - was often nigh-impossible, because the concern was that the test patient may, at any point, become pregnant. once/if the patient became pregnant, the study would not be about "the effects of New Medication on the body." instead, the trial would fail - the results would be "the effects of New Medication on a developing fetus/pregnant patient."

it was massively easier, he said, to just test without accounting for a uterus. that's how he phrased it - accounting for a uterus.

at the time, i remember him talking about the ethical implications of testing on a developing fetus; how such testing could theoretically bankrupt a company if a lawsuit was filed. he talked about informed consent and about how long it took for any legislation to be passed about this - that in 1993; the year i was born, it finally became illegal to outright exclude women and minorities from clinical trials.

i remember him shrugging. "that's not to say it doesn't happen," he said. my ears were ringing.

i was thinking about how every time i have been rushed to the ER, the first thing they have asked me is if i am pregnant. when i broke my wrist at 16 years old - despite never having had sex - they made me wait three hours for the test to come back negative before they gave me pain meds. the possibility of a child haunts my health.

how many people have died on the table because they were waiting for the pregnancy test before treatment. how many people have died on the table because they were pregnant, and the only thing we care about is the fetus.

it is hard to explain to other people, but it feels like some kind of strange ghost. our entire lives, we are supposed to "save" our bodies for our future partners. but really we are just saving the body for the future child, aren't we? that hovering future-almost that cartwheels around in a miasma. you can't get your tubes tied, what if you change your mind? think of the child you must have, eventually.

who cares about you and your actual safety. think about what you could be carrying.

#spilled ink #warm up #i think of this moment OFTEN #edit in the tags: op is nonbinary do not be weird on this fucking post i will nuke you from space #medical injustice on the basis of your body is a real thing that harms MANY people across HUGE populations #it is one of the places where intersectionality is SO important #and btw to the haters being like '' this isn't realistic u can just say no to the pregnancy test :)''#girl READ THE NOTES. horrifying #like 8/10 of them are other people being like ''yeah i had this exact thing happen''#so many people being like ''i can't even have kids and they do this''#i am AWARE of the ''oh but'' arguments. how the lawsuits are an issue. and ''what if people lie? or don't know what counts as sex?''#''we HAVE to test!! because what if ur lying to us :)"#.... why did you even ask then lol. they always ask. i always tell them i neither can have kids nor CAN i have kids #bc despite how hard my partners try. scissoring just does not seem to be doing it #. like sir the child would be plastic. don't get me wrong she did try her best despite the circumstances #but alas the strap seems to be shooting blanks here #:( there's always next time i guess #anyway it's wild. it literally just doesn't even matter what you say here they're gonna test. i think maybe 1/10 times have they just #actually taken my word for it #but yeah btw this is incredibly complicated FURTHER by how you are perceived !!!#bc god forbid you be overweight! or have a chronic illness! or GOD FORBID!!! you be a person of color!!!!#one time a doctor said ''oh. i see you checked hispanic.'' then she turned her little stool towards me.#'i need to ask this seriously. will you be sending any of these medications to other people? maybe in another country?''#m'aam i'm here because i have tonsillitis and a fever of 105.

Paying your way through college by selling weed or doing Only Fans or whatever is infinitely more honorable than joining the military to get an education. Never forget community college is an option and you do not have to contribute to American imperialism to attend. I knew a girl who had scholarships but sold her dirty socks and underwear to pervs online for living expenses and she is stronger than any US marine for that.

#a lot of people were like ‘but it is my only chance to go to college’ on my post about the military #no it is not. they’re selling you that lie. it is not worth it #but also you attending college is less important than people in other countries remaining alive

#donald trump #the internet wouldnt lie

shes having a big adventure on my pee wee cause im #HERMAN

#made myself laugh helplessly with this one i can’t lie to you

Shane is like: ok so I haven't slept with anyone since the last time we were together and you haven't slept with anyone since the last time we were together and we're going to spend 2 weeks in my house and I'm making you lunch and we're sleeping in the same bed and you're telling me about your mom and I'm telling you about my parents and you like me and I like you and I don't want you to marry someone else and you wish all the women you slept with were me and you will switch teams and move to my country so we can be closer to eachother and we're starting a charity to make it easier to be together and I already have our future planned because I care about this I care about us and you love me and I love you and you're kissing my ankle and you comfort me and hold me when I panic and you're meeting my parents and supporting me through it and you're drinking my dad's vodka and eating pasta at my family's house and you tell my parents that you would leave Boston for me and that I'm the only person you've ever loved. Ok great 👍

Ilya: ... your boyfr-

Shane: hold your mf horses my whAT!!!!??