❤️🔥 Lilith 1H Synastry ❤️🔥
For this post I am going to use she/her pronouns for Lilith, and speak from Lilith's perspective and from the house person's perspective. This is a requested post
TW: sexual abuse, exploitation, fetishism
Lilith 1H Synastry can be really intense and for both parties. I feel in the first house, Lilith is establishing her most primal raw sexual desires, and it shows through the dynamic between both people.
The first house is all about your body, your essence, your identity, how you present yourself to the world, etc. Lilith represents the taboo that we carry with it ourselves, she represents our shadow, and our most raw energy. Someone has their Lilith in your 1st house (or vice versa) they can see you in a way that could leave you feeling naked.
For the 1H Person
They could feel heavily watched by them. Typically when the two of them meet, it is usually the Lilith person that makes the first moves because they are more of the bold character out of the two of them. When they first meet though, it kind of feels like the Lilith person can't keep their eyes off of them. It feels like they are magnetized by house person's beauty or their physical appearance and to house person, that could feel a little daunting and a little exposing. It's because Lilith is not only watching them, she's studying them, observing their patterns, desiring them from afar. I feel like in a lot of ways, the house person becomes a conquest for Lilith at some point, usually in the beginning of the relationship.
I find that the house person can be subjected to a lot of Lilith's freaky, taboo, and weird desires. I think that if badly aspected and there are no boundaries in the connection, the house person can be subjected to sexual exploitation or abuse but that is not likely the case. Lilith is so sexually drawn to the house person that it could feel like a compulsion to want to be with one another. The house person could feel the same way but I do feel that most of the time, it's the house person trying to develop a deeper connection while the littlest person is trying to focus on the sexual connection and pretty much use the house person to fulfill their sexual desires and needs.
Not only does the house person start feeling overly sexualized by lilith, but they also feel like they're put on a weird pedestal by Lilith. They could feel mythologized by Lilith, and while this could have been appealing to them in the beginning, to be worshiped, observed, desired etc…it starts to slowly tear at the house person's self-esteem and confidence. The house person goes from feeling very desired and very confident and very feminine/masculine around Lilith, to eventually feeling dirty and used and like a second choice and like a dirty little secret. I think that the things that the house person essentially really enjoyed and desired from the Lilith person eventually morphes into their worst nightmare.
Another thing about Lilith is that wherever she touches, she tends to hide from the world. So when she is in somebody's first house in synastry, she wants to hide the house person. This is why the house person eventually feels like a secret. Lilith wants to tuck house person away from the rest of the world and keep them for herself, or keep them away from other people. In a lot of ways this could make the house person feel like they have to surrender to Lilith or like they don't have the freedom to be with who they want to be with, but feel like Lilith has that freedom.
The house person could feel like Lilith is projecting a sexual fantasy on them all the time, and it could make them sort of feel like a sex object. Now, sometimes the house person finds this very empowering. They definitely enjoy the attention that Lilith gives them so naturally and they might have a kink for being praised lol. But this is the synastry that can take a turn. I feel that sometimes the intentions of Lilith aren't so genuine and the attraction that they feel towards the house person could be more about pleasing a kink that they have.
This is where the house person could step into dangerous territory with lilith. Not only does Lilith have a sexual fixation on the house person, but Lilith could be fetishizing the house person. I feel that this is more serious in this synastry because the first house rules the self and your essence so when Lilith fetishizes the house person, its usually over things like their physical appearance. Or over their body parts.
In a bad scenario, Lilith could fetishize the house person for being a different race. This could be like one of the main reasons why Lilith wants the house person. Race play could be thing in this relationship. Lilith person might get more turned on or "hot" with raceplay, roleplay, bdsm, or other sexual/taboo things when it comes to the house person. It can be uncomfortable because Lilith could really fetishize the house person's body or features based on these racial sexual preferences that the Lilith person has and it's kind of gross imo.
The house person could be younger than Lilith and so there's a taboo element to the connection. But honestly, it doesn't feel great for the house person over time. Maybe the house person isn't fully aware that Lilith is likely with them because they're of a different race, ethnic background, age, cultural/social background etc. But over time, patterns of the Lilith person will expose the true nature of their feelings for the house person.
There is also a strong sexual chemistry between the two people and it is very addictive, but I think that if and when there are problems it is because the Lilith person takes things too far sexually. Or, they are too intense and if it is something that the house person is attracted to in the beginning, it'll be something that they hate over time because eventually it's just cringy lmao. In the best manifestation there are boundaries, respect, and a high sex drive between two people. In the worst, there is boundary violation, there's disrespect, there is exploitation, and there just might be lackluster intimacy.
For the Lilith Person
When I say that Lilith falls for the house person the second they lay eyes on them, I mean it. It is an immediate attraction that feels so overwhelming, they could feel a serious rush of energy when they first meet. It's like they have to get to know the house person, they have to be around them, be in their world, etc. This really reminds me of like every moment that Joe from You meet his next victim lmao.
It's intense for both people but I definitely feel like Lilith feels it a lot more than the house person because when Lilith sees the house person, it is an overwhelming feeling of wanting to get to know the house person and wanting to cater to the house person.
I don't think that this is like Lilith's natural inclination to want to be submissive to anybody, but I do feel that when they meet the house person they either want to submit to them in terms of providing, giving them their all, etc. Or, they want to conquer the house person. Either way, it feels like Lilith wants to merge with the house person but they come off very aggressively and it's almost awkward for both parties but specially for Lilith because again this is not what they do with people.
I think with this specific synastry, Lilith is not used to chasing so maybe this is a dynamic where they have to. The trouble is that Lilith develops complicated feelings for the house person almost right away and it's not always a good thing. I don't think that Lilith is just willing to give over their energy to the house person so they do it sort of reluctantly and while trying to hold on to their own independence and their own intensity.
Lilith will learn right away that the house person is perceiving them as too aggressive and instead of reeling it in a little bit, they take it very personally. Lilith needs to learn that to get the house person to open up to them and be vulnerable, they have to have a gentler approach. Will this could be very demanding and very aggressive and with the wrong aspects, this could be seriously troublesome for the house person.
The Lilith person could hate how attracted they are to the house person because it feels unexplainable unavoidable, and all consuming. I also feel that the house person awakens something that's been hidden within the Lilith person and it's sort of causes a ripple effect with how the Lilith person acts towards the house person. For instance, the Lilith person can have an insatiable sexual desire for the house person based on their preferences that they don't just openly talk about our share, or based on fantasy that they have had but have never felt comfortable playing out with others.
Lilith feels comfortable exploring these dynamics with the house person because the house person lets them be who they are. But I do feel that there is a serious lack of control that the Lilith person feels around the house person and because the house person can lack boundaries, I definitely feel that Lilith can get what they want from the house person in almost a manipulative way. Both people can definitely be manipulative towards one another, especially Lilith if they feel like the house person is pulling away from them.
In a lot of ways, Lilith unintentionally triggers the house person's insecurities because Lilith herself embodies those things very naturally. I don't think that Lilith has the need to filter themselves in the real world, while the house person might feel like they have to.
I feel that self-esteem plays a major role in how Lilith perceives the house person and vice versa. If the house person is a confident person, then Lilith could either worship the very ground that they walk on or try to destabilize them and tear at their confidence. Unfortunately Lilith can try to humble the house person. That would more so depend on what is going on in the chart, though.
This synastry could manifest into a beautiful relationship if there is mutual respect, strong self-esteem on both ends, confidence, and healthy boundaries. But it will always be intense because that's the nature of lilith. There is high chemistry here but there is also high projection, and the relationship could feel highly triggering as well. This is a good aspect for high eroticism between two people, but if poorly aspected, could lead to a very jealous, obsessive, and toxic dynamic really quickly.