When sun meets the 4H in synastry, these two individuals will have a very emotionally intimate and deeply personal connection. Often, it is asked who feels the connection more, but I don't think that's much of a concern in this synastry, because both people are not only deeply impacted but also deeply changed. In this synastry, the sun person feels more purposeful in this connection, and the house person feels more personally affected. In this post, I will examine how both individuals experience this synastry, covering everything from the good, the murky, and the ugly! Let's jump in, starting with the sun person's perspective.
For The Sun Person
Starting from the very beginning, I typically find that these two people either know each other for a very long time.. like friends-to-lovers, or they somehow grew up together, parents were friends, and then they grew up as friends and fell in love, etc., or it feels like they have known each other for a long time. There is a strong sense of familiarity between them, and I find that the sun person specifically really wants to take care of the house person. They feel very protective over them even if they've just met, or if they've known them for a long time, they could have always felt this way. This is, of course, because the house person pulls out the sun person's vulnerability and indirectly makes them soft, which is why in this specific synastry, the sun person definitely wants to take on more responsibility. Now, depending on what else is going on in the chart, this could also show that the sun person might indirectly or unintentionally assume the house person's burdens and stressors.
I'd say that this is another synastry connection that really isn't casual even from the beginning and it's different because these are the people who like to bring their families together very early on, or family is a point of contention in the connection somehow, which causes serious reactions from the house person. So you get a lot of tension, especially when it comes to outsiders, because I typically find that the Sun comes from a family that could be polar opposite of the house person. Regardless, these two aren't only super serious pretty early on, but they spend A LOT of time together! They could really enjoy being in each other's company; they can enjoy being couch potatoes, or going on a little getaway trip together and escaping the world together. In a way, it is very cute because I feel like, out of all of the synastry, 4H Sun Synastry feels the most comfortable with one another, and feels deeply accepted and seen by each other. So naturally, the same person wants to be around the house person way more than not!
The Sun person might also like directly impact how the house person feels around them. For instance, if the house person is having a hard time, they could feel very appreciated and loved by the sun person very easily. They could essentially get out of the negative mood they were in very quickly. The sun person could also sometimes feel emotionally responsible for the house person for this reason, so it really is like a double-edged sword.
In this dynamic, it is pretty natural and kind of expected for the sun person to generally take on the more ‘masculine’ role. And if they are not masculine or do not identify as such, it's kind of expected for the sun person to be the one to essentially take care of things or handle business or make decisions in the dynamic. This could be because the sun person actually wants to be the one in charge, but it's also be that the house person kind of relies on the sun person to get things done. There could be some codependency, and I have found that it's usually the house person being codependent on the sun person; however, this could be flipped if that applies.
Either way, I do feel like the sun person carries the power in the dynamic, or it could definitely feel that way, and that's because the house person tends to put them on a pedestal. The sun person will recognize that the house person trusts them right away. They will see how the house person puts a lot of faith in them, relies on them, sees them as a protector, etc and the sun person will either love to fulfill that role or could build up resentment over time because sometimes, the sun person feels like they don't have it all together and they need the house person to step up.
The sun person can be very vulnerable to the house person because in a way, they never really let somebody else get as close to them as the house person gets. Overall, the sun wants to take care of the house person because they feel a sense of familiarity, deep love, and even a soul bond with the house person. But I do think it is worth it for the sun person to remember that mutual effort is also important. Sometimes it could feel like the sun attributes more to family dynamics, quality time, comfort, etc., than the house person.
I would be wary of feelings of emotional debt with one another. What I mean by this is the sun person could definitely feel indebted to the house person because maybe the house person was there for them during a really difficult transition in their life or during a major loss. I've seen this dynamic play out where two people stay in a relationship that's not working for longer than they should, because the foundation started in trauma, tragedy, etc, and the two people trauma-bonded together. This couple could be very loyal, but I do think that loyalty has an expiration date if there's a lot of pain and trouble in the relationship.
What I typically find is that the sun person can be burnt out from the connection very quickly but not always know how to express that to the house person because of how long the dynamic has been, where the sun person really doesn't have any burdens to bear, but the house person does. Now obviously this will not apply to everybody with this synastry, but sometimes the Sun person might feel like the house person is reacting poorly to their needs or maybe shocked that they have certain needs because of the dynamic I mentioned. Or sometimes the sun person just doesn't know how to emotionally express themselves due to their own need to show up as the one who has it together, the strong one, the one who “wears the pants” in the dynamic, so to speak. In some ways, resentment could build because the sun person doesn't know how to break that barrier and just tell their partner what they're thinking or feeling.
Lastly, I just want to reinforce this idea that if there is not an equal balance, or at the very least, if the sun person feels like the house person is not emotionally nourishing them the same way or providing for them the same way, things can turn toxic really quickly. The trouble with this synastry is that the same sense of familiarity that attracted these two people tends to be very similar to family structures or maybe even toxic family structures that both people are familiar with from their own childhoods. So, for instance, if the Sun person is very used to a toxic household where people are fighting and screaming at each other and have general discourse more than love, then these two people can certainly mirror that energy in their own relationship or perhaps the Sun person does this subconsciously. It's because even if it's toxic, it provides a sense of comfort and predictability. Both people should really be careful staying in a situation like this for that reason, but definitely the sun because the Sun is searching to complete something in their life regarding their family and their lineage, and they project that onto the house person. And as a side note, obviously this is very toxic, but I've had clients who have literally claimed to be with their twin flame who have had so many horrible experiences together and have done horrible things to each other that have shared this overlay. It's just a simple observation that I've noticed in my studies. Does not necessarily mean that this is how this will always play out.
For the house person
The house person immediately feels an attraction towards the sun person because they feel familiar to them in a way that they often can't explain, or the sun person reminds them of the kind of person that they would like to have a deeply intimate connection with. The house person could even experience deja vu or feel like they've known the sun person before but can't place their finger on how! Nonetheless, for the house person, they often feel very emotionally exposed around the Sun person.
The sun person can definitely see past the public mask that the house person puts on, and they sort of slowly break down their hard exterior and get to the root of everything that the house person is trying to keep together or bury. Out of the two I definitely feel like the house person has a harder grip on their thoughts and feelings surrounding family, home life, childhood, their relationship with their mother, issues with their father, etc. The house person definitely tries to come off as the one who might have been extremely afflicted by these things in life, but ultimately doesn't let that affect how they are representing themselves out into the world.
The house person tends to receive a lot of attention from the Sun person and this attention is typically pretty new for them, so it does feel very exciting and promising, but over time it could definitely feel a little invasive. This is because the house person will feel like the Sun is essentially trying to push them or influence them into a certain direction. Imagine someone insistently barges into your home, rearranges your furniture, takes all of your photos off the walls or replaces them with other things, and rearranges the feng shui of the entire place. It can totally be daunting for the house person when the sun person pretty much not only provides them with emotional support, but then also tries to pick apart or change up their routine and their domestic lifestyle. Now this isn't always a bad thing; I find that often the sun person is doing these things to help better the house person's perspective on life or situations. But sometimes, it comes off as very overbearing and something that the house person is not always ready for.
Nonetheless, the house person feels very emotionally safe with the sun person and maybe even younger or more alive when they are together. This is because the sun really brings them a level of comfort that's not only familiar but also gives them the feeling that it's okay to take breaks and have a little fun. This synastry can definitely be fun because both people could literally find ways to have a good time by doing nothing and all. Oftentimes, this couple definitely enjoys being couch potatoes and watching/binging their favorite Netflix shows. But this feeling of comfort is very new for the house person, so again there will be a level of wanting more of that emotional security but also a level of fear because they're being so emotionally vulnerable with the sun person.
I feel like in this specific synastry, both parties really want the same thing but are sort of going about it in opposite ways. I would be wary of projection, as it seems like both people can project their desires of intimacy, family life, and wholeness onto each other, but in ways that feel insecure, not reassuring, or not positive. So, for example, the house person might crave the sun person's energy and might want them around and might want to get more serious with them, but when there are spats and issues, the house person could definitely emotionally withdraw and become very cold with the sun person. Suddenly, all of those desires of closeness go out the window because there's an issue.
For the Sun person, I feel like they could definitely overperform, or I guess do too much to maintain this image of strength and authority and ultimately to keep the peace in the relationship even if they feel like things are rocky or aren't necessarily fair. If anything, it seems like the sun person wants to be vulnerable, maybe wants to have a little emotional leg room to have a moment to be the one in need or in crisis. However, the issue was that the sun person could also be very prideful and come off like they don't need the house person. They would rather assume responsibility or feel they are strong enough to carry the weight of the relationship, rather than just approaching the house person out their concerns.
The Bad
Now, we must talk about the inevitable. The bad. Now I don't want to fear-monger, and I feel like I always have to preface that, but it's important to know that there's not a single synastry pairing that doesn't have toxic aspects, just like there's not one that could be totally healthy and perfect. There's a lot of gray area in life, including our relationships, so let's talk about how this synastry can actually be pretty detrimental to both people. The first thing that I think is what's most obvious is that these two can have a really hard time with projecting, specifically projecting failure and disappointment on one another. It really doesn't matter who is doing this because both people tend to do this at some point in the relationship. But, if one person feels unhappy with how things are going or it feels like they're giving more than they are receiving, they can become very passive-aggressive and project these negative feelings instead of just expressing them healthily. This could be through making passive-aggressive comments about not sharing the responsibility around the home, making sarcastic jokes about something that you once loved about the person, just generally creating tension in the space, etc. On a minuscule level, these two people definitely have an issue with pettiness and passive aggression rather than full-on aggression and anger.
I've also seen this play out where unhealed people come together, sort of looking for healing and putting all of that pressure on the other person, even if they aren't responsible for causing the pain in the first place. This is definitely projecting mommy issues or daddy issues onto your partner and hoping that they will somehow fix them? Both people are guilty of this at some point in the relationship if things aren't going great. But that could build a lot of pressure between both people; both people might feel like they have to perform in order to not be like their partner's parental figure, which is really odd of an expectation, but that's just what happens. If you have mommy or daddy issues, it's obviously always important to work on them if you ever want to have a healthy relationship. But mommy/daddy issues are like a fly to a Venus flytrap. I'm not saying that you can't have a successful relationship if you do struggle with these things, but I do feel that you will have a more likely possibility of taking those hurt feelings out on somebody innocent and genuinely trying to be there for you.
Now, of course, there's also the other side of things, where you do just end up being with somebody who is abusive, or like the authority or parental figure in your life that hurt you in some way. You could end up with a partner who is emotionally neglectful or distant or avoidant, and that reminds you of your father or your mother; you see what I'm saying. The issue, if it wasn't obvious enough, is that you can get stuck into a cycle with these people. Because you've built foundations with them (even on Rocky ground) you might prefer to stay in that situation, rather than seeing what else is out there, because you feel like the time you put into the relationship outweighs the desire for something different. Don't get stuck in a toxic relationship just because you've invested a lot of emotional time and energy into it. In a very harsh manifestation and not the likely one, I do see people even staying in unhappy marriages for decades for this reason. Family, like I mentioned, is a major theme here, but it's not always a good thing. Sometimes people stay in situations they should in for the sake of family. I also just think that an unbalanced level of give and take can cause a lot of resentment within these two people, and it could cause them to project those dissatisfactory feelings instead of just the two of them talking them out and figuring things out together. This is definitely like a pride / ego thing, but it creates a lot of unnecessary tension.
The Good
In a positive manifestation, these two almost always have a family together. Obviously, it's not going to be a perfect pattern, but it is a common one. If you don't have children with them, you might have lots of pets together, or you could flip homes together, etc. I feel that the home, domestic life/living, and family life will play a very major role for this relationship. In the best way, this couple can create the kind of life that the two of them never had, with one another. I've seen this in several charts of two people who have had childhood trauma that have come together and healed, and live a seemingly healthy life together. This synastry is definitely very healing when it is good, and both people love and respect each other and feel like they know each other better than anyone else in the world. Like I mentioned, the fun is kind of endless. They could read them an encyclopedia together and still have fun. They share inside jokes, they spend time cooking together, playing games, joking around, watching movies, etc. They are very like-minded as a couple, and this is the kind of couple that definitely sets goals for the future, goals for the family, etc. I have noticed that family might be either very important or a big point of contention, but in a good and healthy connection with this synastry, the couple comes together and decides what is best for the relationship over what is best for the family ultimately. On that subject, the two people teach each other a lot about boundaries and about growth and change. One person might have had very poor boundaries with their family at the beginning of the relationship, and the other person helps them establish those boundaries. Emotional maturity is very big with this kind of synastry, so if two people aren't very emotionally mature when they get together, they will definitely get to that point at some stage in their relationship.
What I personally love about this synastry is that it creates the kind of bond that doesn't require a lot of excitement, and I'm not saying that the relationship isn't exciting, but these two people don't require dramatics to enjoy each other. They don't require chaos or toxicity or anything like that just to feel like the connection is alive. I've noticed in very healthy relationships with this synastry, two people don't like fighting, actually. If there are arguments, they work towards solutions, or they give each other space so that it doesn't escalate. I feel like this is a great pairing for two people who are very good communicators.
These people also just feel very emotionally safe with each other and able to be vulnerable with one another, which could be hard to find. They could have also seen each other at their lowest and loved each other regardless. These two people are very devoted to one another even in the ugliest of times. And I do feel that this is why loyalty is so important for the two people because they were there for each other through thick and thin. When things are good, they just feel like there's less pressure to perform and be somebody that they're not. They truly see each other as home to one another, which is very special. They are comfortable with bringing each other around their families or combining families; they work in sync to create the family life they both have always wanted. They work in tandem to tackle life's tragedies and heal all the emotional wounds that they've been holding on to for a long time. This could be such a beautiful relationship, especially while aspected and was good and honest intentions from both people because the goal is always to build with one another. I don't think that they ever lose sight of that, especially when things are good.
The 12H can show where people unconsciously escape themselves and evaluating these mechanisms is not always pretty for the person. It can take a lot of courage to come to grips with the fact that our coping mechanisms are not always the healthiest and can have consequences 😬 what do you have in your 12th house? If your 12th house is empty, what is the ruling planet? Does this post relate to you at all? Let me know! 💫
🌟 Leo in the 12H copes by pretending they’re fine longer than they actually are. Their pride can make vulnerability feel very difficult so instead they would rather pretend that everything is okay, continuously show up for people, and wait until the feelings fade.
🧿 12H Sun people can disappear from others when they’re struggling and isolate while secretly questioning their entire identity or purpose. These people like to disappear to reinvent themselves and come back an entirely new person.
🌟 Cancer in the 12H copes by emotionally pulling away and trying to hide their pain from everyone. They absorb the emotions around them so deeply that they can struggle telling which feelings are actually theirs. A lot of their breakdowns happen privately.
🧿 12H Moon people absorb everybody’s emotions until they hit emotional overload and shut down completely. The problem is that they never know when the shutdown is going to happen so we could be in the middle of a conversation, at 3 am, or WHENEVER.
🌟 Gemini in the 12H copes by mentally escaping their reality. They overthink, distract themselves, doomscroll, daydream, or keep talking just to avoid sitting with what they actually feel. Their mind rarely shuts off, especially during stressful periods. But it's also kind of scary when they have nothing to say as well.
🌟 Virgo in the 12H copes by trying to “fix” everything internally. They analyze their emotions to death instead of actually feeling them, and stress can easily manifest physically in the body. They often become their own worst critic during hard periods. They do all this and let nobody know about it. Do they like suffering in silence? The world may never know.
🧿 12H Mercury people tend to spiral internally, overthink everything in silence, and keep their real thoughts hidden. The problem is that they can overthink themselves into having a problem with somebody that they otherwise did not have an issue with. I think too much time overthinking can lead to unnecessary paranoia sometimes.
🌟 Libra in the 12H copes by avoiding emotional conflict whenever possible. They could suppress their real feelings to keep the peace, even when it slowly drains them mentally. They'd rather swallow the resentment feel for the situation/person instead of addressing the elephant in the room.
🌟 Taurus in the 12H copes through comfort, avoidance, and emotionally numbing themselves through material things. They’ll cling to routines, food, sleep, music, or familiar spaces when life feels too heavy because stability becomes survival mode for them. They often struggle admitting when they’re emotionally exhausted.
🧿 12H Venus people romanticize the past, avoid rejection, or cope through fantasy, longing, relationships, or escapism. They would rather think about what could have been instead of dealing with what is and move forward, let's just be honest. Bad coping mechanisms for sure.
🌟 Aries in the 12H copes by disappearing before anyone realizes they’re struggling. They tend to isolate when overwhelmed because they hate feeling vulnerable or emotionally “weak” in front of other people. A lot of their anger gets buried deep until it randomly explodes later.
🧿 12H Mars people suppress anger until it leaks out sideways through passive aggression, resentment, avoidance, or random emotional explosions. You are the kind of person who could very easily take your problems out on somebody else when they aren't even the cause of them.
🌟 Sagittarius in the 12H copes by mentally escaping reality when life gets too heavy. They may throw themselves into spirituality, fantasy, travel plans, beliefs, humor, or “everything happens for a reason” thinking to avoid emotional heaviness for a while. Toxic positivity and false optimism are a constant challenge.
🧿 12H Jupiter people cope by excessive optimism, spiritual bypassing, or convincing themselves everything is “fine” while avoiding reality. I've also noticed that they can totally obsess and overuse divination tools to get answers in a very invasive way.
🌟 Capricorn in the 12H copes by emotionally shutting down and focusing on responsibilities instead. They often feel like they have to keep functioning no matter how exhausted they are internally. A lot of their sadness gets buried underneath productivity.
🧿 12H Saturn people cope by emotionally isolating, suppressing vulnerability, overworking, or feeling like they have to suffer alone. Even if they have a support system, these people really struggling with using those resources as they often feel like a burden to everybody because they often assume that people feel the same way that they feel about themselves.
🌟 Aquarius in the 12H copes by detaching from their emotions completely. They intellectualize their pain, isolate themselves, or act emotionally unaffected while quietly struggling in private. Feeling too emotionally dependent on others can make them uncomfortable and this is probably because they feel like they can't ever fully trust somebody else.
🧿 12H Uranus people detach suddenly, disappear unpredictably, or self sabotage when emotions start feeling too intense or consuming. They don't even realize that their actions end up making their situation worse. They do a lot of things first before processing if it's the right thing to do.
🌟 Pisces in the 12H copes by escaping into another world entirely. Sleep, fantasy, spirituality, music, dissociation, maladaptive daydreaming, or isolation can become emotional survival tools for them when reality feels too harsh to process.
🧿 12H Neptune people cope through sleep, fantasy, avoidance, maladaptive daydreaming, substances, spirituality, or dissociation. They're coping mechanisms just add on to the pain that they already face. These people have a hard time really doing anything to get out of the state of mind. Dissociation can feel involuntary.
🌟 Scorpio in the 12H copes by hiding everything until it becomes unbearable. They tend to process pain alone because trusting others with vulnerability can feel terrifying or unsafe. Their emotions run incredibly deep even when nobody notices externally.
🧿 12H Pluto people cope by trying to maintain control internally while hiding obsessive thoughts, paranoia, resentment, or emotional intensity. What ends up happening is, they become the person that they often times try to avoid becoming and they can do things to others in order to mask their own feelings of intensity. This could be a toxic placement for the individual and for the people who try to get close to them.
Hello there…what are the placements in the birth chart of someone who would do great in counselling/psychology field?
Hi there!!
Here is a list of different placements and aspects that I personally think would make counselors:
Most obvious would be strong scorpio placements -- especially moon, mercury, Pluto, scorpio ruled 8H, or 12H. These people are not only super comfortable diving in deep or going beneath the surface-level, they also very comfortable holding space for others and can be very psychologically perceptive.
Virgo placements -- specifically mercury or Virgo dominant people (stelliums / 6H stellium) and this is because these individuals pay close attention to detail and genuinely feel fulfilled helping others. They are very good at recognizing patterns as well, which is useful for this practice as they can help people find practical solutions to concerns and they notice subtle behavioral shifts in others that people could miss. Who doesn't love an attentive therapist?
People with heavy chiron influence in their chart. This one could be a little controversial, but I find these people to have a very natural healing ability. They know how to heal and hold space for others because this is like, a life long practice for them, unfortunately. The positive is that a lot of these people can really transmute their pain into power and then help others in return.
Strong pisces or 12H placements -- i think, for obvious reasons. They have a high level of empathy and emotional/spiritual understanding.They can make great therapists or even grief counselors, spiritual counselors or healers. But, they have to make sure they have boundaries.
Saturn in 6H/8H/10H or their saturn aspecting mercury/moon. They can be very emotionally mature, and can be very patient , professional, and serious when it comes to other people's time, trauma, and pain. They are very reliable counselors.
water sign moons or moons in water houses (4H/8H/12h) simply for emotional intelligence and understanding. Being able to read people as deeply as you do is a gift in and of itself, but its vital for counseling.
strong 8H placements would make great trauma therapists, social workers, rejuvenational counselors, exposure therapists, criminal psychologists, or crisis intervention specialists. They get emotional intensity because they are the definition of emotional intensity.
Virgo & pisces dominant just gives this perfect balance of attention to detail, routine & consistency along side deep healing work, subtle mind shifts and embracing change in more ways than one. These people know how to connection to everyone thus making them great therapists.
water or air moons (specifically cancer & gemini moons) making hard aspects to saturn. I find that these peopel were "destined" to heal others through communication, intimate settings, soul searching, etc.
I know I am missing a lot probably, but these are what come to mind right away! Do you have any of these placements? or any to add?
Angel often can symbolize our connection with spirit guides, Guardian angels, and even your ancestors. It's placements and aspects to your natal chart can offer insights on how you connect with the spiritual realm, spiritual beings, and higher realms of consciousness, and how these beings might be helping you on your path.
In Astrology
In Astrology, the angel asteroid plays a specific role and it can help us examine the luck on our shoulders, the guardian angel always watching after us, etc. In astrology, an angel shows us where protection and assistance come when we really need them. This asteroid also shows our healing path and how we transform ourselves through spiritual guidance. Aspects to consider are tight contacts, conjunctions, trines, and squares. When asteroid angel is aspecting Saturn or Chiron, even in the 6th house, this can show you being blessed with support in the toughest situations. Contacts with Mercury or Venus can show how you connect with Spirit as a means of artistic expression. Contacts with the moon can show how you feel to your guides, or angels, and feel like they are always with you.
Angel in Aries / 1st House / 1°, 13°, 25°
You're given with really strong instincts, and some may have even told you that you have a guardian angel protecting you a lot because of how strong your intuition is. Unfortunately, you might have been born into circumstances where you had to be in survival mode very early on. There's like a common theme of betrayal or conflict in your life that has made you stronger as a person. It might not have always felt like you had a guardian angel, but it is your core courageousness, confidence, and speed that have protected you. I see situations where divine intervention happens a lot, or you could be divine intervention for somebody else. You could have avoided things like car accidents, head-on injuries, or destructive situations at bizarre timing, or put out a superpower like “instinct”. You have a protective presence about you as well, which is what really entices people to your energy. Your body itself could feel very spiritually protected or you just have an inner knowing that spirit guides are always somebody on your side in this life and in the next. You have, or you will also be a beacon of protection and hope for somebody throughout your life at least once. This placement often suggests somebody being a catalyst for growth, protection, and change for somebody else. On the subject of change, angel in Aries people are not meant to stay passive, you are meant to be bold. Your path may require you to be regularly courageous & flexible.
Angel in Taurus / 2nd House / 2°, 14°, 26°
You have a naturally protected aura when it comes to your survival, money, stability, and your body. You might have noticed a weird pattern where you can somehow always land on your feet, even if you are going through some kind of hardship. A lot of you were born into environments where security did not come easily, which forced you to become emotionally resilient very early on. This does give you a natural essence to you that others see as a strength. Your guardian angel energy works through endurance and tenacity rather than speed. You survive because you keep going after situations that should have broken you. There’s also something spiritually protected about your appearance, voice, body, or overall presence. People tend to feel calmer around you without understanding why. Spirit may protect you through material means too, so this could look like random financial help, gifts, opportunities, safe housing, or support appearing right before rock bottom. Your intuition usually speaks through your body more than loud spiritual signs. Tightness, exhaustion, appetite changes, comfort/discomfort — your nervous system is basically your spiritual warning system. A lot of you are naturally gifted at helping others feel emotionally or materially safe, and you may unknowingly become the reason somebody else survives a difficult chapter in their life. Angel in Taurus also carries major lessons around self-worth, especially in love, finances, and stability. Your blessings may arrive slower than others, but once they do, they tend to last.
Angel in Gemini / 3rd House / 3°, 15°, 27°
In this lifetime, it seems you are blessed with an extremely active mind and a strong spiritual awareness that you feel mostly connected to through communication, observation, and your impeccable instinctive pattern recognition. You may have been put in situations as a child where you had to learn quickly, which in turn made you grow up quickly. You had to adapt quickly, or you had to emotionally mature faster than the people around you to survive your conditions. Either way, these experiences have shaped the strength of your voice, and so the use of your words is a major theme in your life most of the time. Words can either save you, hurt you, expose you, or change the direction of your path entirely. Your guardian angels’ energy works heavily through information, timing, conversations, and intuition that comes in flashes. You may randomly think of somebody before they call, you can sense danger before it happens, or receive warnings through dreams, music, social media, or repeated phrases. Spirit tends to communicate with you constantly, but because your mind moves so fast, you may accidentally brush off divine messages as “overthinking.” A lot of you have also avoided dangerous situations through quick thinking, instinct, or pure luck involving timing and communication. You’re meant to use your voice somehow in this lifetime, whether that’s writing, teaching, storytelling, content creation, speaking, counseling, or simply being the person who says what everybody else is too afraid to admit. Your energy can genuinely shift people’s perspectives and alter their path through conversation alone. Your path may regularly require flexibility, reinvention, and trusting your intuition even when you cannot logically think your way out of things.
Angel in Cancer / 4th House / 4°, 16°, 28°
You have angels in your heart and in your home. With Angel being in cancer, you guys can come from a very loving family, one that moves more like a single soul. You may find that your home life and living conditions in childhood could have somehow protected you, or were highly protected in situations that otherwise would have turned out differently. For instance, your home could have been protected from a violent situation happening or an accident happening and it could feel like there was to find protection and intervention that “saved” you are protected you and your family. You may also find that you have just been blessed with great matriarchs in your life, a wonderful mother, a generous and loving grandmother, etc. They are not just the matriarchs of the family; they feel like angels on earth. They have always been there for you in a timely manner. If this is not family, you might find that the women in your life are very impactful and help aid you to success. You might find that you are also extremely spiritually sensitive and can easily pick up on spirits in the home, you might feel like you have a home Spirit as well, and you likely do. I will say, you might still have been born into an emotionally intense environment, and this placement has really given you the endurance to become nurturing, intuitive, and hyper-aware of your environment very early on. If you don't feel you've had a stable life, you might feel like there was still always an invisible layer of protection on your side that kept you from danger. Your spirits, angels, or ancestors communicate to you through your dreams, nostalgia, feelings, music, water, and even food. You will likely feel deeply connected to your ancestors at some point in your life, and you might even decide to partake in ancestral work or you might honor your ancestors through things like celebrating Dia de Los Muertos, Samhain, All Souls Day, etc.
Angel in Leo / 4th House / 5°, 17°, 29°
You are blessed with an extremely radiant and spiritually noticeable presence, whether you realize it or not. A lot of people born with this placement were born into environments where they really had to fight to be seen or felt like they had to work twice as hard for attention. You might have felt overlooked, both emotionally and physically.. or learned very early on that your confidence could definitely trigger jealousy or projection, or even competition from other people around you. Even from grown adults! This is because of the light in you that is so definitely gifted to you. People can see your soul as you always have it on display if that makes sense. Because of this, you might have spent part of your life shrinking yourself or unintentionally dimming your light to fit into spaces that you were meant to outgrow in the first place. Your guardian angel energy seems to work heavily through your creativity, how you show yourself, your expression, and your passion. You are the kind of person to channel through art, or receive intuitive downloads when you are creating something you're proud of. There's usually something very magnetic about your energy where people naturally like to watch you or admire you, especially long after meeting you. You will feel spiritually protected through the opportunities you receive, lucky timing, recognition, and you will feel like your children are heavily protected, your romantic life is protected, etc. You might feel like there have been a lot of situations in your life where others could have destroyed you, or fear/self-doubt could have ended you, and you would suddenly show up with confidence. This was your angels boosting your already vital energy and helping you. A lot of you are also protected from complete emotional distraction because you can reinvent yourself after every heartbreak or humiliation, or loss. You are an inspiration, and you inspire people by simply living authentically. You become the catalyst for confidence and healing, and others, and people really enjoy being around you because you're fun and you're passionate and you know how to make people feel important.
Angel in Virgo / 6th House / 6°, 18°
You're an angel yourself. An embodiment of good nature. You received a lot of protective energy surrounding your healing journey, service, your daily life, and the way that you have survived through discipline. You might find that you were born into an environment where you had to become responsible, observant, or even emotionally mature at a very young age. You might have had to pick your family up when they were down, even if you were a little child. Family entanglement can occur, which could really have made it hard for you to pull away from the dynamic and take care of yourself. People with Angel in Virgo grow up feeling like they have to hold everything together for everybody else, and your guardian angels have been helping you heavily through your intuition, but they made you feel like it was logical. You might think that you're just being analytical or detail-oriented when in reality it's your Spirit guides that are constantly warning you through patterns, routines, physical symptoms, gut feelings, or subtle shifts in other people's behavior. You can read people very well. Many of you are also strangely protected through preparation and timing. Missing a bus, changing a routine at the last minute, forgetting something, or being “late” can genuinely end up protecting you from destructive situations without you realizing it until later. There’s also a strong connection here between your spiritual energy and your physical body. Your nervous system, digestion, sleep, and stress levels often act as direct messengers from spirit. You’re meant to help, heal, organize, guide, or improve things in some way throughout your life, but one of your biggest lessons is learning that your worth is not tied to how useful you are to other people. You may become the emotional backbone in people’s lives while quietly neglecting yourself in the process. There’s usually a repeating life lesson surrounding burnout, perfectionism, hyper-independence, or feeling responsible for fixing everybody else’s problems. You may unknowingly become somebody’s saving grace during periods of chaos simply because your energy feels grounding, safe, and stabilizing. Your path may regularly require balance between service and self-preservation because you were never meant to pour endlessly from an empty cup.
Angel in Libra / 7th House / 7°, 19°
You are blessed with the angel of Justice on your side. Not only are you graced with charm and can literally move as Harmony like your ancestors, but you are always at the right place at the right time. You might find that you are very lucky and in very detrimental situations where you would otherwise not be. Your angels protect you from great harm, specifically legal harm, lawsuits, lies, charges, and relational matters. You might have grown up in an environment where you have to read people's emotions and really read the energy shifts in the room in order to adapt. Because of this, you have a strong intuitive knowing of how to connect with anybody you meet. You are definitely a social chameleon, and this is a spiritual gift of yours that you might even be unaware of possessing. You do have to be mindful, though, because you could be overly accommodating at times and a little too passive. At which point, you would be ignoring your intuition. Having Angel in Libra also means that your relationships are protected, or that you are blessed with a loyal, loving, handsome/beautiful, diplomatic spouse. This might not have always been the case; you might have experienced harsher relationships, but your angels will ultimately protect your union. You learn more and more about yourself through others in this lifetime, so even if you have been in difficult relationships, you have still been protected from things, I suppose, getting much worse. I feel that you have strengthened your intuition through looking in the eyes of people who were everything that you were not, or you looked in the eyes of people who were mirroring your energy completely, and you learned immensely from those experiences. You're also just extremely protected when it comes to having good life experiences. You might find that you do get to enjoy things more than others in your life! You do find the time to romanticize the little things in life that others would otherwise overlook, and this is a spiritual gift and good karma for you because life doesn't always have to be so chaotic. You can find the beauty in pretty much anything, and you very much enjoy bringing in a beautiful environment because this does make you feel connected to spirit. It is a good idea to decorate or rearrange your spaces to match your aura because this is another way that you enhance the energy that angel in Libra brings to you.
Angel in Scorpio / 8th House / 8°, 20°
Your angels could have saved your life, directly or indirectly. With Angel in Scorpio, you might find that life has been very intense for you from day one. You did not have an easy upbringing; in fact it was very emotionally intense. You might have felt like you had to walk on eggshells around emotionally unstable parents, your parents might have kept a lot of secrets from you, or there could have been a lot of harm going on in the home that had to be kept secret. Your angels have literally protected you from a lot of things that could have gone wrong in your upbringing and intimate situations. You have strong spiritual protection surrounding intimacy in general, loss, and change. You might feel like when you decide to walk away from a detrimental situation, life just becomes easier. This is your angels reinforcing the idea of separating yourself from the pain. On the subject of pain, this gives you an extreme level of emotional resilience and emotional healing abilities that you can then pass on to others. You might find that what you have been through has shaped you into the person that you are now, and while you might not forgive the things that have happened, you could also recognize that they've made you somebody who is emotionally indestructible. Angel in Scorpio also gives you protective energy through moments of crisis, so you might find that you have just barely escaped a situation that you could have lost your life in, in the blink of an eye. You could have avoided a pile-up car crash on the highway for instance, because you left a little later than usual. You could really avoid a situation that could alter your life because your angels are always protecting you. Of course it doesn't always have to be so dramatic; you're not living one big crisis after another! But in the moments that you were really struggling, your angels have always found a way to get you out of the pits of hell. Because you have been through a very intense life, your angels bless you with strong intuition, and you can spot out manipulation, lies, betrayal, and deceit usually before it happens. You also know what it's like because this is something you've been through quite a lot, but again, your experiences just make you stronger. You can sense things before they happen, you can sense danger, and you know when something is spiritually off before anybody else.
Angel in Sagittarius / 9th House / 9°, 21°
Your freedom is protected by your angels. You might have felt very restricted in life, or like you were mentally trapped in childhood. You could have felt misunderstood, outspoken, limited or restricted to growth, so as you get older, you strive for free experiences, and you might find your journeys are very protected. Angel in Sagittarius brings protection surrounding travel in general, but it also brings protection regarding if you are getting a higher education, so this could be making sure that your travels to and from university are safe. You could feel safe at school as well. You also experience a lot of protection regarding your psyche, your mentality/your beliefs. You are not easily one to be swayed, and this is a spiritual gift of yours. Your discernment is very strong, likely due to your limited upbringing and having to fend for yourself. Because you might have felt restricted, you might have spent a lot of time thinking and questioning life. A major theme of your life is to search for meaning or find a deeper truth in your toughest questions. Your guardian angels will work heavily in your favor to answer these questions by guiding you in the right direction, putting you in “perfect timing” situations that could save your life, and literally removing you from environments that are weighing you down. What I've noticed that is unique to this placement is that if you do happen to relocate or get yourself out of a situation, this was very spiritually guided to you, or you could feel like a higher power has pulled you out of that situation because of the mysterious circumstances surrounding it. You might have experienced a lot of detours in life that might have been very painful to deal with in the moment, but later have realized that it was a blessing that those things did not work out. You are very lucky in the sense that you avoid detrimental situations in the right time. Your spiritual team tends to communicate with you through signs, synchronicities, symbolism, and through occult practices like divination tools: tarot cards, pendulums, Ouija boards, runes, bone readings, scrying, etc. Life could genuinely just feel very chaotic for you, but you are encouraged by your angels to be courageous and trust in the unknown.
Angel in Capricorn / 10th House / 10°, 22°
Your angels are protecting you from utter failure. With Angel in Capricorn, your angels are protecting your future, your motivations, your longevity, and your success. Early in life, you might have had a really hard time setting roots for yourself or feeling like you could establish yourself because the conditions were very unstable. You not only had to be the stable one in your household, but you also had to be extremely resilient and extremely resourceful, which you have become. But later in life, you are rewarded for the things that you've gone through and the foundations you build are highly, highly protective. Karmically protected if you will. You might put a lot of pressure on yourself and feel like you have to hold everything together or always be the strong one, and in ways, Angel in Capricorn is trying to elevate that tension in your life in small, secure gestures. Your angels will give you the energy of endurance, which will help you achieve your goals. On the subject of goals, I do feel that this placement garnishes a lot of spiritual protection surrounding there biggest desires. Having this placement means you are really meant to build something consistent and serious in this lifetime, and your angels will ensure this by protecting you along the way. You will be blessed with clair-insight on situations and they usually work in your favor. One of your biggest lessons is understanding that your worth is not solely tied to productivity, achievement, or how much you can deal with silently. You may also often experience situations where you narrowly avoid complete downfalls professionally, financially, or socially because something always seems to intervene right before things get really bad. You might also find that your life path requires major maturity and spiritual growth through challenges. Your blessings may arrive slower than other people’s, but they are usually built to withstand time.
Angel in Aquarius / 11th House / 11°, 23°
Your influence, ideas, and philanthropic nature is heavily spiritually protective. In early life, you might have been ostracized by your inner circle or your family. You might have been seen as outspoken, outlandish, and different, and this made you feel very alienated. What you might not have known was that this alienation was spiritual protection in and of itself. You have also been surrounded by people who have only projected on you and a repeated life pattern for you could be that you have to learn that rejection can sometimes be spiritual protection. That being said, Angel in Aquarius works in mysterious ways for the person who has this placement and sometimes, this person will not get what they want but it would be for the greater good. This is how an angel in Aquarius manifests — I always get what you want but get something better. You are the kind of person who is always looking to grow, expand, and change, and you might feel very lucky when it comes to reinventing yourself, coming up with creative ideas or trends, etc. This is you channeling your inner angel, and you connect with a higher power when you are being innovative and stepping out of the box. You will feel disconnected when you are trying to blend in and do what everyone else is doing, and you will feel the most connected to Spirit when you are venturing off in the wilderness and doing what feels right to you. I have also noticed that you all are very spiritually protected online lol. If people are trying to target or bully you on social media, it rarely (if ever) affects you or reaches you.
Angel in Pisces / 12th House / 12°, 24°
You are so extremely spiritually sensitive and otherworldly, and your intuition is your strongest gift. You might have been born into an emotionally complicated or spiritually heavy environment that forced you to become deeply intuitive very early on, even if you didn’t fully understand what they were sensing at the time. There’s usually a recurring life theme of feeling emotionally overwhelmed, misunderstood, spiritually “open,” or like you absorb the emotions and energy of the people around you without trying to. Angel in Pisces works heavily through dreams, intuition, ancestors, spirit guides, synchronicities, divine timing, isolation, and invisible protection operating behind the scenes. Angel in Pisces people often avoid destructive situations without realizing how close they actually came to danger because spirit tends to redirect them quietly. Many of you may also experience prophetic dreams, strong gut feelings, spiritual encounters, déjà vu, heightened empathy, or moments where you just “know” something before there’s logical proof. There’s something very spiritually protected about your inner world, even during periods where your external life feels chaotic or uncertain. You are meant to help people heal, emotionally transcend, or reconnect with their spirituality in some way throughout your life, whether intentionally or unintentionally. Angel in Pisces people often become emotional safe spaces for others because your energy feels compassionate, understanding, and spiritually comforting. One of your biggest lessons is learning boundaries because there can be a tendency to over-sacrifice, romanticize pain, emotionally escape, or lose yourself trying to save people who are unwilling to save themselves. Your path may regularly require solitude, surrender, forgiveness, and trusting your intuition even when nothing around you makes sense yet. Spirit often protects you quietly rather than loudly, which is why some of your biggest blessings may initially look like delays, endings, isolation, or redirection before revealing themselves as divine intervention later.
Persona synastry is an (experimental) form of synastry that compares two persona charts to study how specific psychological or archetypal aspects of two people interact. This is different from natal synastry because we are not comparing two entire birth charts; we are looking at a specific, concentrated part of two charts and how they interact with one another. Persona charts isolate the particular planetary or asteroid functions, such as love, desire, emotional needs, downfalls, etc., and study the compatibility, activation, or tension within those energies.
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For example, Venus persona synastry is going to heavily focus on how two people's expressions of love, attraction, creativity, desire, etc interact with one another. A mars persona synastry will focus on physical chemistry, sexual dynamics, sexual preferences, who is dominant / who is submissive, conflicts and arguments etc.
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This form of synastry study is really useful to get to the nitty and gritty of certain connections. I find it valuable to understand the psychological perspectives from both ends, and persona synastry can also reveal projection, hidden intentions, attraction levels, emotional entanglements, and most importantly — psychological resonance that might not otherwise be seen more visible in traditional natal synastry.
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How to calculate:
go to astro.com
select charts and calculations
extended chart selection
under chart type, click persona chart
click "show chart"
make sure your chart is selected
under where it says "Horoscope for" should be another drop box with the first planet being listed as the moon, click this box and select the planet or asteroid you are drawing a chart for.
Draw the chart and click "add to my astro" to save the info
repeat these steps, just switching out the other person's name under the horoscope tab.
take both persona charts and draw a synastry chart - this is the info we are looking at.
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NOTE: Persona synastry is STILL considered an experimental technique, NOT universally accepted or established as a branch of astrology. I have to emphasize that there really is little literature surrounding the use of this synastry even if many have found it to be accurate. Applying this method would and SHOULD be purely for entertainment purposes only and not applied in practice professionally.
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That being said -- here's some of my own persona synastry observations! I am sure I will be doing more of these as time goes on, as well as other persona synastry posts, so stay tuned!
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Mars persona synastry can sometimes show who sexualizes who, or is sexually attracted to whom first, especially when there is a tight Mars/Venus contact (specifically conjunctions/squares / trines). This can show the nature of the "chase" between two people. Mars/Lilith can show the raw sexual desire between people and can sometimes even show how the two people sexualize each other, sexually fixate or obsess with each other, and even the dark/taboo thoughts they have about each other. Of course, tight squares/oppositions cause more tension in these areas, or even more aggression. Conjunctions add emphasis to this energy in the connection over all.
Harsh Saturn persona contacts can create this feeling of someone owning you, emotionally. One person might feel unconsciously responsible for regulating, containing, or controlling the other in some way.
If you are wondering why you feel insecure in certain areas around them, but confident in others, it's a good idea to pay attention to 12th house overlays. Here is where you will find how this person makes you feel unsure of what's really going on. If its a moon persona synastry chart and there's a heavy 12H emphasis, this could mean that parts of how the other person expresses their emotions are hidden, and the aspects/planets/asteroids will tell you if it's intentional or not, and what kind of emotions they are hiding. This can also just show that major parts of the person's emotional world are just hidden and suppressed.
Check your mercury persona synastry charts to get more insight on how the two of you communicate, what specifically you discuss a lot about, the tension that you face in specific conversations, and if you are clear communicators or struggle. If there's a lot of 4H overlays in this chart, that shows that the two of you focus a lot of mental energy on your family, discussing familial wounds, childhood trauma, matters of the heart etc. 3H emphasis shows the kind of connection were you both can just piggy back on with each other naturally, and feel like you never want everybody to talk to. With this overlay, you could feel like you have a strong friendship alongside love with this person. 8H overlays care show that they possibly come into your life during a period of necessary healing, or change. They might see the psychological framework that you tried to hide very well also. It's also a good idea to take note of any conjunctions or hard aspects because that could show the natural flow/date of conversation between you and this person. It could also show if you have aggressive communication especially if there is a heavy Mars / uranus / Pluto energy in this chart.
Make sure you are checking out your venus persona synastry with a lot of pluto contacts if you are wondering why someone is very emotionally intense with you. This can create intense emotional fixation, because attraction here feels very consuming, psychologically invasive, and really difficult to understand.
Creating a persona chart between a person's venus persona chart and another person's saturn persona can show how easy/hard it is for someone to let go or move on. Even after separation, this kind of chart can show how emotionally attached two people are, or how emotionally/psychologically "cemented" they are in each other's psyche and lives.
Someone's lilth persona chart (lilith or personal placements), conjunct another person's ASC in synastry can create a serious hyperawareness between both people. These people can become unsually fixated on each other, or how each other experiences one another. They might become very concerned with how the other person perceives them physically, sexually, and just in general. It's like both people seek the approval of another, while subtly rejecting it in a push/pull dynamic.
Pluto persona overlays in the other person's 1H can show where one of you unintentionally creates or causes a transformative period in one's life, or where the person unintentionally helps the other person transform their self-image, confidence or self-expression. Now, this can be a good or bad thing.
Having chiron in 3H/9H/11H in moon/moon persona synastry with someone can create the kind of friendship or connection that feels safe enough to discuss anything with this person. Healing could be done through late night conversations, drives, texts/phone calls, letters, etc. Communication between the two seep into one another's subconscious and words stick like honey to the soul, forever.
A synastry chart between your neptune persona and someone's mars persona chart will show you how the two of you fantasize about one another, how you desire one another, seduce each other, escapism between the both of you, lust, and how the attraction between you two can turn toxic. Having a lot of jupiter activation/aspects within this synastry can suggest amplified desire between the both of you, or it can make the connection feel like it's meant to be, even if things between you two are not grounded in reality. This is also a good chart to study where possible addictions/fixations happen between you two, and where they are or are not grounded in reality in general. For instance, if there's jupiter in the 12H in this chart, or there's just a lot of 12H emphasis, this could mean that the fantasy created between the two people itself becomes emotionally addictive. This could even make the fantasy element of the connection more enticing than the connection itself.
Hi! What are the indicators in the birth chart that shows someone is good at gaming and what types of games? Would a ♋️ rising, ♊️ sun be good at gaming?
Hi!
So yes, a cancer rising and Gemini Sun would make a great gamer! With your son being ruled by mercury, you are able to communicate new information very quickly, you would be great at sharing details about new games out, doing reviews, doing live streams etc. You have a natural ability to attract attention that way. Your MC is also ruled by Aries so you might feel very compelled to go in this direction because you got to take charge, you get to assert some form of aggression in your professional life which would be the active gaming lol.
Here's some other placement / aspects that would be good gamers:
° having a strong mercury influence on your chart. This is really good if you are into chaotic gaming, action-oriented gaming, roleplay games, shooting games etc. games that require you'd have a high level of adaptability would be very good for you.
° ♍ Mercury
This is a great placement for strategy and for planning. You would be the kind of gamer that would host events, schedule groups or certain strategic games, or create your own forums.
° ♒ Mercury
You would be an unconventional gamer and people would love you for that. You would be the kind of gamer that not only games but also provides commentary, reads Reddit stories, shares gossip or political opinions, etc. You're not just gaming, you're the kind of gamer that adds your own unique twist to it even if that's like inserting your own interest in your gaming. You might have an audience that's super large, but maybe half of them watch you for your gaming and the other half of them watch you for your commentary.
° Mercury - Mars contacts
These aspects make you very competitive and two way certain degree, a little ruthless. I think this is necessary in the gaming industry, you are the kind of person that will definitely go after your goals. You might even treat life as one big ass game that you are determined to play and win. But, you're good for gaming because you are fast-fitted, you make decisions quickly, your aggressive, and you can stick to your goals once they are set.
° Air Sign Mars ♂️
In my opinion if you guys are probably the better gamers out there because you are fast with your hands. If you are into fighting games, people love watching you because you pretty much kick ass in this area. But nonetheless, if you're not using the controller super fast, your wit and the way that you entertain your audience is very captivating. People are not just watching you for the game, it's like you provide the whole experience.
° Strong Neptunian / Piscean Energy
Having strong neptunian / piscian energy in your chart can indicate somebody who brings excitement to the gaming world because they see it as a means of escape. These are like the simmers of the universe lol I imagine a lot of simmers on YouTube or other world simulation gamers have strong Pisces energy because of the level of creativity these games require. You are the world builder kind of gamer, you know how to bring your imagination to life, you might create storylines with your games, you might assign emotional meaning to certain games. Hell, you might even be a gamer for a little while, retire from gaming, and then become a gaming commenter. People enjoy the way that you show a natural curiosity in gaming as well.
° Having strong 3H, 5H, 11H Energy
The 3H is associated with quick learning, mental processing, hands/hand coordination etc. With a strong 3H presence, a person could be an excellent competitive gamer.
The 5H is all about your hobbies, fun entertainment etc. These gamers game recreationally, and they do so until they have perfected it like a craft! These people can make careers out of their gaming as well.
The 11H focuses on online gaming. If you have a strong 11H influence, you could then also have a strong online presence associated to your gaming, you can create role-play game groups, you could live stream your gaming as well. What specific placements here, you can even be a founder of a sub-category of gaming. I feel like 11H impact is specifically strong in this regard.
Specific placements I've noticed a lot of in gamers:
there’s this guy i can’t stop thinking about, who’s just all scorpio/libra in the inner planets. please tell my taurus stellium how to stop being so down bad for him sksksks 🫶🏻
That's hilarious
You think you're going to stop being down bad for someone you share sister sign AND Venusian energy with🤭
Girly
Cut your losses, let them go, understand that they are probably always going to be on the back of your mind and vice versa, but keep living your life.
I really would need to know more from your chart, but this is not a personal reading just a general observation. Whenever you are dealing with your sister sign or you share similar energy axis like Venusian (Taurus/Libra) mars (Aries/Scorpio) etc they will always somehow get under your skin. This is not to say that you will not ever move on but this is to say that whenever you even hear their name or think about them, you will probably always internally cringe or have some sort of visceral reaction if it's not love. They will always get under your skin.
Not necessarily because you’re soulmates or destined to be together forever, but because your soul recognizes them and that feeling is really hard to shake. These signs operate through the same planetary energy, just expressed differently. One person embodies the traits the other suppresses, avoids, envies, romanticizes, or secretly understands too well.
But this kind of connection will feel more difficult to let go of because they really did see your truth that you tried to hide, your naked soul, your purest energy. That's why it's really hard to let go and it's ultimately why you might not ever be able to fully detach yourself from that person.
Nymphe is an asteroid named after the nymphs of greek mythology which were young and youthful beings often connected to the wild and wilderness. Some themes that are often associated with this asteroid involves inner child exploration and how one likes to connect with eternal youth. Nymphe represents pure fun, one that pulls us away from the mundane and sweeps us into a world of artistic expression, romantic ideals, and capacity for joy.
In Astrology
Nymphe can take on different meanings here, but it can represent themes of intense and pure sexual attraction, youthfulness and natural beauty. In some situations, it is associated with nymphomania or a very high and/or uncontrollable sex drive, as well as “nymph-like beauty that make others crave them. Nymphe also represents sexual freedom and power, and can even signify one’s own sexual liberation or sexually desirable/insatiable they are to others.
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Nymphe is Aries / 1st House / 1°, 13°, 25°
Nymphe in this placement is genuinely like the living archetype of other people's projections or fantasies. This one is a tough placement because people really don't see you for who you are, but rather for who they think you are. People may think you are rambunctious or untamed. People could have very visceral reactions to you, or they could act very intensely towards you because they feel like you are an intense person. The truth is that you could definitely give off the vibe that you don't care or that you are bold and proud, but these things about you are actually naturally enchanting, and as much as people are sort of afraid of you, they are just as deeply attracted to you. This can feel like an unsettling attraction to be honest with you. It's not that people don't want to be attracted to you but it does feel a little dangerous. This placement might also suggest that there is a strong link between your self-expression and your sensuality and you might find that your confidence grows when other people desire you. This could be more of a shadow feature; you could rely on the reassurance, attention, affection, and even infatuation of others just to feel worthy, though this is not always the case. I find that you can definitely struggle with distinguishing who your authentic self is versus who others want you to be. Nonetheless, I find that this is a very youthful placement but not only just an appearance but in behavioral energy as well. You enjoy having a good time, you might realize that life is short and it's worth living so that might be your philosophy. You are curious, impulsive, fun-loving and bold. You can also unintentionally provoke obsession from others just by existing or by being your outgoing self.
Nymphe is Taurus / 2nd House / 2°, 14°, 26°
This is a placement that knows how to monetize off their beauty or off their charm or off their voice or on something that they have that they know is beautiful. When I see somebody with this placement, I assume that they have multiple streams of income because they are very talented at anchoring money from all corners of life. They find pleasures through their senses, so you could be very into different textures, senses, physical comfort, etc. These things can be gifted to you because you use your sensuality as a means of gain. I find that people will see you as soft and want to take care of you. People will see you as a luxury and want to shower you in gold lol. On the subject of monetizing your beauty, you might be able to find a career in unconventional ways using your sensual or sexual appeal. Think…a certain kind of phone operator, a sensual ASMR content creator, a literotica reader lol. The list goes on, and it's not always tied to using the physical body as a means of financial gain, and is sometimes tied to your voice, the sensuality in your voice, or in your energy, etc., people are going to feel like you are effortlessly desirable even if you aren't necessarily doing anything to invite that attention in. People will just want you. You might find that others associate you with comfort, or others might project possessiveness onto you, so you might feel like they want to “have” you, keep you close to them, or claim you in some way. Be careful with how others might equate your worth with desirability as well. Some might reduce you to what you can provide or how you make them feel, rather than considering your feelings sometimes. I also noticed that your presence can stir up a lot of comparison, and people don't always feel like they measure up to you and will try to tear you down to feel validated.
Nymphe is Gemini / 3rd House / 3°, 15°, 27°
You are like a natural-born seductress. You're like naturally flirty no matter what you do, it's something about your voice or the language you use or the subtle word play that you like that makes you so attractive to people. It's not just that you are a seductive communicator though, it's that you can also mentally stimulate others. You know how to be provocative in the best way possible, and you find joy in curiosity and in asking the taboo questions or telling funny or risque stories etc. you might feel the need to step out of your comfort zone or put yourself in the spotlight due to your early environment. Your siblings or your childhood could have influenced your views on how you feel about your own beauty, or how you feel about attention. You might feel like you get more attention when being provocative as well. You are definitely somebody who is drawn to more taboo topics but you know how to word them innocently or connect them to very mundane matters. You know how to bring light into dark situations essentially. One thing about you though is that you know when to leave a party and exit a room when it is time to go and others who deal with you, do not. Meaning: when something is dead and done for you, you lose attraction and you can move on quickly, but people tend to get emotionally stuck on you. Your words tend to linger with people for a long time and people tend to replay conversations they had with you. You even turn people on with the sound of your voice. The trouble with this placement is that I find that a lot of people mistake your friendliness as flirtation because you do have a gift of Gab and you know how to make people feel good about themselves. People can really become mentally fixated on you and the interactions they had with you. I find that people can obsess over the things you say so much to the point where they make false judgements about you. For instance, if you are free spirited and enjoy being single, and maybe express that, these people will twist your words and make you look like you're easy. Their opinions of you are frequently skewed because their thoughts of you are always changing.
Nymphe is Cancer / 4th House / 4°, 16°, 28°
Others find the way that you show up in the world very sexy. You are the kind of person who will definitely grab attention because you are truly an empathetic individual, and I feel like people can tend to sexualize this part of you. Your energy feels erotic and emotional to people. You can create a safety that makes people's hearts flutter, lol. There is something about your softness and kindness that other people just want to have offered to themselves. In ways, you can definitely see that this is a good thing, especially because you might really enjoy the emotional bonds that you create with other people; however, you can still be over giving an under receiving with this placement. Emotional sabotage and manipulation are common occurrences in this placement. It is important to make sure you have boundaries with people and that you feel emotionally safe before you fully open up to somebody. Also, be careful with your home life and projections from your family members. I find that these projections can be particularly nasty, specifically regarding your upbringing and the kind of child you were, etc. I feel like you do with a lot of slanderous gossip and people just making up lies about you for no reason. There's also kind of a lot of darkness regarding your past and childhood, too, and I find that those who contributed to that pain will often project their own hurt, fantasies, or angst onto you. Be careful with emotional entanglements because they could be really hard to break, especially because boundaries can blur very quickly in romantic relationships or intimate situations. You are a soft soul, and a lot of people want to project their lack of family, sense of home, or permanence onto you, which will be very confusing if you don't have boundaries. Others could expect you to fulfill their emotional needs.
Nymphe is Leo / 5th House / 5°, 17°, 29°
You are extremely charismatic, magnetic, and memorable. People won't forget you because you make them feel alive or inspired in some way. I'm not trying to guess you up, but you might have been the Muse for somebody else's creative endeavors, or you've inspired people to actually take control of their lives in some way. You have a very strong romantic, playful, and creative Energy about you that sparks admiration in others. In ways, you know how to uplift people without trying. And this is very attractive for people because you tend to bring the light into a lot of dark situations, which is healing for those who get to know you. You naturally attract attention, of course, opportunities, and admiration, etc. But you're not cocky about this; there is a strong level of humility that you have, and that is something that people both love about you and kind of hate about you. If you have people who don't like you, they don't like the fact that you are genuine and authentic and that you show up for the ones you love, etc. They don't like that you don't do things solely to please your ego. But on the bad end, you might have at some point needed external validation and would do things for attention. People could definitely fall in love with the idea of you, but not the real you. This could lead you to feeling like people don't know who you really are, and instead of removing yourself from those people, you might feel the pressure to perform or maintain an image that satisfies those people. When people like you, it's an intense attraction, but it's not stable sometimes. This can make people act or rationally with you. Others might compete for your attention or might just compete with you because they feel insecure around you. Unfortunately, you might also attract people who want validation more than they want a real relationship. If you are somebody who needs reassurance, you might struggle with finding other people who need more reassurance from you but will not give you that in return. Try to avoid being objectified as a fantasy for some people because people tend to not see the real you, but rather just your sensual or sexual side. You might experience rivalry, jealousy, even love triangles, or like friendship drama that comes out of the blue. People get very entitled and obsessed with you or very emotionally reactive with you when they feel like you aren't performing the way that they want you to. Ugh. You have a heart of gold, but you might attract people who want to “win” you or use you, but not really cherish you.
Nymphe is Virgo / 6th House / 6°, 18°
People definitely put you or your beauty on a pedestal, and this is because, to them, you might have the purest kind of attraction or the purest heart. I don't feel like people immediately sexualize you; however, when they notice you, it tends to really stick with them that they are deeply attracted to you. It's kind of like they see you as a hidden gem in a way. This has a lot to do with the fact that you tend to like to keep to yourself, and you are looking for a real connection, not something that is surface-level. This definitely manifests in your reality, and you can expect less projection from people because you do tend to have strong boundaries and are very discerning with your partners. You are selective, you protect your own energy, and you don't let yourself get burned twice. But when you do open up to somebody, or to people in general, you can create a type of chemistry that feels like a slow burn, but is really long-lasting. People feel very valued and validated by you and who you are, and it's not just about your appearance. You show up for people in a very self-sacrificing way. You are attentive, and your personality shows that. You have a fun way with words, you can almost talk in a flirty or playful manner that makes people fall in love with you even harder. But nonetheless, this is a placement that really is valued for being themselves. Issues arise when they feel like they only attract people who rely on them emotionally or for practical purposes. If they feel like they're overgiving or showing more love to somebody else than they're receiving, they will definitely feel uncomfortable and maybe pull away from the connection. What they are really afraid of is being taken for granted, being expected to totally take over someone else's burdens, and not being appreciated for it. You don't mean it, but you might attract people who need help rather than actual connection, and in doing so, you are suppressing your own desires, which is only going to lead to resentment. Be mindful of power and balances, and how much you give and how much others take. I also see that there are some messy hidden dynamics when it comes to love affairs and attraction. Watch out for work romances, work crushes, coworkers with hidden feelings, etc.
Nymphe is Libra / 7th House / 7°, 19°
You are giving “It” girl/boy, and you don't even try. You are definitely projecting the idea of the perfect person onto any potential romantic partners or people in your life. You physically have it together, or you have a nice aesthetic, or you're very generous, etc. Nonetheless, you definitely have an aura about you that attracts people who want to take care of you, give you things, buy you things, treat you like a princess or queen etc. As appealing as this might be in the beginning, you might notice that these things come with a price, and that price is usually your autonomy or freedom in some way. You tend to attract people who want to take care of you, but you also attract people who become too codependent on you and project their relationship expectations onto you. You might not always feel satisfied in love, or you might not always feel like your partner or person of interest is invested in you, or interested in you for the right reasons. This could lead you to wanting to become who they want (or you feel pressured to become who they want) to keep the peace, but it's at the cost of your own peace. Sometimes, you can attract wolf in sheep’s clothing archetypes, which is really hard for you to deal with in the beginning, because you want to give everyone a chance. But these people — they act like they love you immediately, they love bomb you, they want to be your knight in shining armor, etc. But once they have you, it’s like they conquered you. You become their most prized possession, like a trophy. Be careful when dealing with people who think that they know what is best for you, better than you do. There’s a natural energy about you that draws out people in the shadows, looking for a little light. You could deal with a lot of triangulation, romantic jealousy, or jealous partners, envy from friends, etc. A lot of people try to tear you down to get a reaction out of you so that they can then say that you were not that great in the first place. Attempted character assassination happens a lot with this placement, and in an unevolved state, this could be you doing this to other people, but people definitely do it to you, too. Lots of rumors about your love and sex life, how you can’t “keep a man/woman”, " talk about you being a hoe or being promiscuous, etc. It’s important to not feed into the negativity because any negativity you get is tailored to get you to react and look bad to other people.
Nymphe is Scorpio / 8th House / 8°, 20°
This placement, but honestly look like a more intense manifestation of this energy. Because Scorpio already rules obsession and intimacy, Nymphe here just amplifies that energy, making you more magnetic and irresistible to other people. People could become fixated on wanting to know the “real” you to be because of that magnetic attraction I mentioned, or it could be because they don't believe that you are genuinely being yourself around them. I've noticed that a lot of people project onto you and assume things about you that are simply not true, and when you prove them to be wrong, they have a really hard time accepting reality. Nymphe here is very intense, so I feel like you haven't even had casual relationships, or if you have, they ultimately ended up being very intense. This is because, like I mentioned, romantic partners can fixate on the feeling of being with you, the vulnerability of being with you, and just the way that you make them feel in general. You have a tendency to bring a lot of their own personal darkness to light, but in a way that feels safe and transforming, rather than judgmental. Having this placement could even mean that people feel very comfortable confessing things to you or sharing their secrets with you, even if they have just met you. You might be carrying secrets of strangers that you only met once in your life, and never again. You might also deal with situations where people become obsessive or obsessed with you after sleeping with you. Sex with you could be very addictive and intoxicating for the other person, but be mindful of the fact that the desire from these people usually comes from wanting to control you. This is in the sign of Scorpio, so this will involve scorpionic themes. This also suggests that you use your sex appeal to sway things in your favor, to make money, to gain attention, to have people sweet on you or do favors for you etc etc. But as much as that might feed the ego, you might also find that people feel entitled to you and infatuated with you. In my opinion, this placement should be careful and should definitely be more discerning.
Nymphe is Sagittarius / 9th House / 9°, 21°
You're free, funny, and fine. This is what people love about you: you're always on the go, you are a free soul, and people are really attracted to this about you. You make people want to know more about you because you are not somebody that can be pinned down. You might have lived multiple lives and are very young, or you could be considered somebody who has been through a lot and still persevered. People find your charm intoxicating and seductive, and fun. I would say that this is a bit of an easier manifestation of this energy because while people definitely get attached to you, they know that you are not somebody that could be tied down, so it's not over-attachment or negative attachment most of the time. People know how to appreciate you when they are in your presence because sometimes it's the last time they get to see you. Sometimes they don't see you again for many years. You are always on the go, but you always make people feel special. People feel lucky to know you or have you. You might have been somebody's good luck charm during a particularly difficult time in their life. You have to be careful with people idolizing you, though. People will get attached to you and fixated on how you think and specifically what you believe in. You might be somebody who has very strong morals or beliefs, and others will start projecting guru-like fantasies onto you. They will put you on an unbelievable pedestal and turn you into oh God in their minds. Maybe the ego might like this for a little bit, but over time, constantly feeling like you have to have all the answers and solutions and feeling like you don't have room to grow is exhausting. Ultimately, though, this is an excellent placement for somebody who isn't afraid to dive deeper into esoteric work, occult curiosities, magical happenings, etc. I love this placement personally!
Nymphe is Capricorn / 10th House / 10°, 22°
You are intimidating, but in the best way possible. Others are typically drawn to you because you come off as very professional, or a clean cut, maybe even straightforward to the point that others admire your candor, rather than ridicule it. People tend to gravitate towards you for advice, guidance, structure, or because they feel like you are a true leader. In some cases, people do become addicted to the ways that you help them or to the power that you carry. But people mostly get fixated on your confidence, your discipline, and your public image. This can get messy only because you might feel like people only care about the way that things look or about how you present yourself, but people don't take time to really get to know you, and that might be true with this placement. I also noticed that you might attract a lot of eyes from afar. Or, the people who admire you, admire you in secret, and this is usually because people are often intimidated by you or intimidated to approach you. People definitely put you on a pedestal and create fantasies about you and their minds that make you almost unattainable. A lot of people like to think that you are somebody that you are not, and unfortunately, this manifests in over sexualization or sexualizing you in sometimes distasteful ways. But, this could also look like people assuming that you are aggressive, angry, rude, etc., just because you have strong boundaries. People project a lot of their lack of discipline onto you, and it comes out as them making insecure comments about the things that you have or the role that you play at your job, etc. If you have trouble or difficulty knowing who genuinely likes you for you, try to learn how to separate attention from genuine intimacy. Anybody could give you a compliment and pay extra close attention to you and do things with ulterior motives. It's the ones that show up for you without expecting things in return that truly care. It's the people who want to take care of you, get to know you, and be there for you because they genuinely care about you. Do not show up as who you think people want you to be; show up as who you actually are. People will love you for that.
Nymphe in Aquarius / 11H / 11°, 23°
This placement gives off a very different kind of magnetism. You come across as somebody people can’t fully pin down, and that alone becomes addictive to others. There’s something about your mind, your individuality, your weirdness, or the way you detach emotionally that keeps people obsessively curious about you. And what is particularly interesting in my opinion, is that these people fixate on the things that you don't even like about yourself. Others may project really weird fantasies onto you. They are usually of a sexual nature, and it's kind of around the idea of you being “different,” liberated, or rebellious in bed. People also find you intelligent, or emotionally untouchable, of cases, they idolize you for this. In many cases, people become fascinated with your opinions, your online presence, your friend groups, your aesthetics, or the way you seem emotionally above social expectations. Things get a little wild because people start to feel entitled to you because of how open you are as a person. In a way, you are the kind of person who should be careful with giving people a chance and looking out for the “underdog” as sometimes, these certain individuals are socially isolated for a good reason. And in some ways similar to nymphe in Leo, people get fascinated with the idea of being chosen by you. The difference is that it's not because you're showy or because of how you outwardly present into the world, it's because you display such a curious level of detachment that others do not understand, but are stuck on. It's like, you can meet somebody and say something or do something that might be small to you, but ultimately changes their perspective on life or inspires them or motivates them, etc. That could be a small interaction to you, and you could walk away from that appreciating it for what it was, but ultimately moving on with your life, but these individuals get stuck on that feeling that you left them with. That's another thing, people never forget how you make them feel. They don't always understand why you don't feel the same way and this is where a lot of projection comes out. People might admire your freedom and your ability to detach while simultaneously wanting to control you in subtle ways. Be careful with your energy and be okay with setting boundaries and sticking to them. You don't owe anything to anyone!
Nymphe is Pisces / 12th House / 12°, 24°
This placement tends to carry an almost intoxicating energy that people struggle to explain logically. The Neptunian influence with this placement is strong and attracts individuals who can get obsessed very easily. Others are usually drawn to you because you come off soft, elusive, emotionally deep, spiritually open, or strangely familiar to them. There is just something about your presence that feels healing, dreamy, elusive, and definitely emotionally consuming without you even trying. People project fantasies onto you very easily with this placement. In some cases, others can become obsessed with the version of you they created in their own mind rather than the real person standing in front of them. This gets a little dangerous because not only do people get fixated on the versions of you that they've created in their minds, but they can't sometimes reject the reality about who you are entirely. You attract a lot of secret admirers, people with serious hidden attraction towards you, people who like to emotionally project onto you or people who like to watch you from a distance. People have a hard time approaching you because they admire you so much. You might notice that people tend to confess serious or intense feelings for you at super random times or they overshare what they're thinking with you, and they just get emotionally attached to you very quickly. The difficult part of this placement is that others tend to view them as an emotional escape rather than a person. This could feel very lonely for you because while you are looking for genuine intimacy and connection, this other person is looking to run away from something when they are with you. You are never on the same page; you can definitely feel like you're being taken advantage of. People may become addicted to the comfort, softness, mystery, or emotional safety they think you provide, while completely overlooking your boundaries, exhaustion, or limits. It's not a bad thing to provide a sense of comfort to people who are lost or to people who need it, but it's always important to respect your boundaries and to uphold them. There's a lot of energetic vampirism involvement with this placement, and people struggle with having limits with you or respecting your boundaries.
To me, women who have Venus in Pisces, Scorpio, aspecting Neptune or Pluto, or in the 12th or 8th house need to be careful who they choose as lovers. People can behave oddly towards them. Believing they need to conquer them even.
The Internet's Current 8th House Obsession with 8H Healers ❤️🩹
I've gotten so many asks wanting my opinion about the controversy going around TikTok regarding whether 8th house placements should be healers or pursue a healer’s path. I think enough astrologers have already shared opinions that I mostly agree with. I also think the original creator of that TikTok makes great content, but clearly projected a lot of her own insecurities and discomfort with darkness onto her audience.
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Now, I am not well versed in Vedic astrology, so my perspective here is strictly from a Western astrology lens. In Western astrology, there is a heavy focus on the 8th houser being a healer, but what she was implying was that the 8th houser seeks out this role as a form of spiritually bypassing their own karma, and that honestly just does not make sense.
The 8th house is NOT about spirituality. Traditionally, the 8th house rules vulnerability, loss, entanglements, pain, hidden power dynamics, fear, shared resources, etc. It is only in modern astrology that you really start seeing the 8th house interpreted more psychologically. Modern astrology turned it into occultism, shadow work, emotional alchemy, trauma work, and transformation.
But nonetheless, to imply that an 8th houser becomes a healer by choice is wrong and a serious misunderstanding of the 8th house.
And to say that an 8th houser would automatically cause harm to others because of their own pain honestly felt like a wild projection to make so confidently.
What I got from her post was the idea that the 8th houser is trying to bypass their own “junk” and trauma in order to get to the gifts of the 9th house — the house of God, wisdom, higher understanding, spirituality, etc. But again, I personally do not think that is true. While some amazing healers absolutely have strong 9th house placements, I do think the 8th house gives some of the strongest healing abilities in Western astrology. And that is because many 8th house people have survived deeply psychologically warping and life-changing experiences. Because they have gone through these things, they naturally become guides for people experiencing similar pain.
The healing path is not something the 8th house usually seeks out from a place of ego or moral high ground. In a lot of cases, the 8th house is focused on survival first. The 8th house is not always trying to save others, but end up doing just that while trying to save themselves. In my opinion, other people project onto the 8th houser and expect them to either become the perfect healed spiritual guide… or become completely consumed by darkness. There is rarely any middle ground given to them. To me, that's just illogical.
Another thing: the 8th house is not soft, and it never was. Healing is not soft either. I do not understand why so many people are uncomfortable with the idea of facing fear, grief, pain, shadow, or darkness as if darkness itself is inherently evil. It is not.
Healing is not just giving advice, meditating, journaling, drinking tea, and pretending everything is love and light. Healing is also sitting with uncomfortable emotions instead of running from them. Healing is confronting what hurts. Healing is learning how to survive what changed you. I guess, my question is, why wouldn't you want advice or guidance from someone who has walked in your shoes? Been consumed by that darkness, and over came it? It simply doesn't make sense.
I also think it is very ironic how people do not hold others to the same standards they hold 8th house people to. It is almost as if 8th housers are expected to quietly endure slander, mistreatment, projections, betrayal, and emotional intensity without reacting to it. But the second they alchemize that pain into wisdom, guidance, power, discernment, or healing, suddenly they are “dangerous.”
My real issue with her stance was not even the astrology itself. My issue was how deeply victim-blaming it came across.
To suggest that an 8th house person is somehow spiritually “bad” because of a past life, and therefore should not help others because they will automatically harm them, is a very dangerous mindset. Because what you are ultimately implying is that 8th house people ARE their trauma, ARE the terrible things that happened to them, and therefore cannot evolve beyond it. And I do not think anyone should assume that about another human being.
Sure, there are manipulative 8th house people who weaponize emotional intelligence, pain, psychology, sexuality, or vulnerability against others. But that is true of people in general. That is not exclusive to the 8th house, and that is a much broader conversation to have.
But to say that an 8th houser has “too much shit to fix” and therefore cannot become a beacon of light for someone else is wrong, deeply victim-blaming, and honestly disgraceful.
I am all for decolonizing astrology and exploring different traditions and perspectives. But I do not support perspectives that shame people for surviving trauma or imply they are permanently tainted by it.
I think this discourse also just proves how much 8th house people really do stay on others’ minds 🤷🏽♀️
“Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.”— Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
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Venus in the 7H synastry is a love that feels fated and written in the ethers long before you met. It’s the kind of connection that doesn’t leave you guessing, questioning, or wondering what your person is thinking or feeling. It’s the kind of love that takes you over and consumes you in the best and most loving way possible. Mutual attraction and appreciation for one another are what make this connection so strong. Venus adores the house person, and the house person sees Venus as their ideal. Like two peas in a pod… until there’s an imbalance. What happens when the house person thinks Venus is “too perfect”? Or when Venus becomes performative for the sake of keeping the peace? And when does something that feels this right… stop being real?
Upon first glance, Venus in the 7H synastry is sort of like the textbook standard of what society would consider a healthy and beautiful love, and usually, it is. Venus, being the literal embodiment of love entering the house of partnership and contractual obligations, creates a dynamic of longing, with the intention of it being forever. To say that Venus in 7H synastry is not subtle would be an understatement. In a lot of ways, it is even more intense than 8H synastry can be, just in the sense that Venus in 7H is set, committed, and serious about being together in union. This is the synastry that you see of two people who just feel like they were meant to be together upon first sight.
Typically, they meet in social settings, or in relationship-oriented spaces. This could be places like engagement parties, weddings, anniversaries, housewarming parties, etc. It is not uncommon, nor is it atypical, for the two to be introduced through mutual friends or through one of their family members. There could also be some kind of partnership going on, so they can meet at work, or it could also suggest that they meet through one of their fathers or father figures. This could just look like either the house person or Venus working for the other person’s father and then being introduced to the person that way.
Nonetheless, the meeting does feel fated and pretty immediate. As I always mention, both the house person and the planet person can feel the energy equally as intense, but there are some overlays where that doesn’t always seem to be the case. In this situation (and again, not ALWAYS), the house person seems to feel very strongly for Venus, very quickly. Venus also feels very strongly for the house person; it just seems to be for a different reason.
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When Venus meets the house person, I like to describe it as sort of a shock to the system. Venus first and foremost feels very drawn to the idea of having a relationship with the house person. This is because the relationship itself is activating their desire for partnership, not just a hookup or a fling. Venus feels very drawn to the house person, but also very serious about the house person, and being “with” them tends to feel very natural and meaningful for Venus. Venus can really worship the ground that the house person walks on, honestly, and this is because they feel like the house person is their ideal partner and who they have been waiting for their whole life. They’re someone who fits their romantic type or mold, or, in some cases, the house person could be very attractive and Venus could just put the house person on a bit of a pedestal and want to keep the house person there forever lol.
Venus feels so passionately because of the love and admiration they’re receiving from the house person, too. To Venus, the house person is so sweet and can make them feel like a million dollars, and it’s such a massive ego boost for them. In Venus’ eyes, the house person is literally the whole package: aesthetically pleasing-looking, charming, considerate, balanced, very affectionate, and does nice things for Venus. On the surface, it kind of makes sense as to why Venus naturally wants to dive in deep with the house person. The house person makes Venus feel like they’re mutually invested in them, and that all of the love, attention, and affection Venus is receiving is genuine. This kind of energy that the Venus person is receiving makes them feel wanted, desired, and chosen. Chosen like they’re being picked out in a crowded bleacher by the star football player. Venus enjoys returning the love to the house person because it feels natural, not forced.
Feeling seen and appreciated is so major for Venus, because it makes them realize that this is what love is supposed to feel like, and it’s really validating for them. If Venus has had relationships in the past that were unfulfilling, Venus can sometimes romanticize the house person’s efforts and actions unintentionally, even if it is bare-minimum effort. That last bit really depends on the aspects and rest of the synastry between the two, but this is where idealism/idolization of the house person happens and can become an issue.
If Venus is not fully grounded in reality when it comes to the nature of the dynamic with the house person, this leads to things like Venus projecting onto the house person. Sometimes, Venus will project their own ideals onto them. This could look like Venus overlooking flaws in the house person, or Venus filling in gaps with what they want the house person to be. This is because, while they are still very attached to the house person, they could just be blinded by their charm, attractiveness, or love so much that they completely ignore reality. This is especially painful because eventually that bubble of a fantasy that Venus has created will be popped at one point or another.
This isn’t to say Venus can’t accept the house person for who they are, but they don’t fully see them right away. This is the kind of placement that gets tested over time, because either Venus or the house person isn’t completely showing up as their true self in the beginning of the relationship, and over time, the true nature of both individuals is revealed to one another. Because this is a very strong indicator of long-term connections and marriage, I feel that this aspect suggests that the couple can typically overlook each other’s differences and move forward.
Nonetheless, Venus can become very emotionally dependent on the house person, or on being in a relationship with the house person. A balanced connection between both people will definitely create a sense of harmony in the relationship, because both people will put the relationship at the forefront while also maintaining independence and self-agency. When things are not balanced and are not super healthy, Venus might feel very personally attacked, rejected, or unsettled by the house person because they have assigned so much significant emotional weight to the relationship or to the house person. This is where things get really messy for both Venus and the house person. Venus gets frustrated with not feeling good enough based on projected ideals not being met by the house person, and in a lot of ways, the house person is just overwhelmed by Venus.
Venus can definitely become a little performative and over-giving in this relationship, especially when they are feeling insecure or feeling like they are losing their “grip” on the house person. They can literally become who the house person wants instead of just embracing who Venus is naturally, but this is only if Venus is being rejected by the house person. I want to stress that in positive synastry, Venus does not have to do this because the house person does not make Venus feel insecure!! However, this dynamic will play out differently for everybody! In a bad situation, Venus will keep the peace rather than speaking their mind, and in a good situation, Venus debates the house person and has a voice, and their voice is strong!
On the subject of esteem, while this placement does not directly affect Venus’ (or the house person’s) esteem, it is worth noting that the 7H can influence both of their esteems based on how the relationship is going. Feeling chosen, feeling loved, or rejected by each other can definitely affect how they feel about themselves, more so Venus. This is because, in practice, the 1H–7H axis is all about confronting who you are on your own versus who you are when you're with somebody else. In synastry, when you have your Venus in the 7H, both can end up activating each other’s sense of relational identity and how they define themselves through partnership.
For the house person
Just like Venus, the house person feels like Venus is their ideal partner and relationship material. I feel what really defines the difference between how the house person is feeling about this energy versus the Venus person is how they are internalizing things. For the house person, they are more focused on how they are changing in this connection. For instance, I find that the house person has not experienced such a desire for a close relationship or a partner that wants to give them such commitment, so when they get with Venus, it is like a whole new experience for them! It's kind of like feeling what genuine love is for the first time ever and having to not sacrifice one bit for it. In a way, the house person typically reaps the benefits in terms of love, affection, and time from Venus first and only then shares that energy when they feel comfortable enough.
What the house person does not share with Venus is that they feel just as intensely, but it is because they are learning more about themselves while being with the Venus person. Prior to Venus, they didn't care to settle down or to take things seriously with another person or to combine finances with somebody else or even put trust into anybody else. Things are different with the Venus person—the house person sees a bright future, not only with Venus, but they see a whole new future for themselves. And in a lot of ways, the house person’s identity is very tied to their relationship with Venus. Just like how Venus can sometimes overwork themselves or become the person that they think the house person wants, the house person can internalize a lot of what Venus says or does to them, which can, in a way, make them also become who Venus wants them to be. Do you understand how this is sort of like a cycle between both people? This is why it's always important to show up as your true, authentic self upon meeting somebody you have 7th house synastry with.
Something interesting that I have noticed with this synastry is the fact that the house person seems to mature very quickly when in this relationship. They might want to take on more responsibility than they haven't wanted to before, like putting a down payment on a house together right away, making important business deals together, or investing in each other in ways that seem a bit scary on the surface. For the house person, it genuinely feels like they are ready to risk it all for the Venus person.
In a way, I think the house person should be cautious about how they are extending themselves and the resources they’re extending to Venus, and just make sure that they are not giving more than they have or more than they're getting as well. Sometimes there’s an imbalance of energy exchange between both people, but not always. Either way, the house person feels a strong desire to keep the Venus person in their life, and it’s sort of out of a fear of losing them because they've idolized the Venus person to sometimes an unhealthy degree. Just like Venus puts them on a pedestal, the house person does the same thing, but sometimes out of desperation to keep the Venus person.
Just like Venus tends to project too much, the house person tends to idealize too much. Sometimes, the house person can totally ignore the incompatibilities between them and the Venus person entirely. Sometimes, they don't realize that they are incompatible with this person until it is too late and they have invested too much time, effort, and money into the relationship. In a way, the house person is wanting to believe the image or illusion that the Venus person is selling them, and to a degree, they will accept what Venus shows them and ignore the sometimes very obvious red flags.
Depending on the house person’s natal aspects to their Venus & 7H, and even their Moon, the house person can really struggle with love and what love is supposed to be versus what love has been molded into for them. I like to think of the house person as somebody who is just wanting to feel complete or even just seen in a relationship to the point where they will do whatever they have to do to prove themselves to the other person. Check the natal chart for Venus-Pluto or Mars-Venus/Pluto placements, because I think that just further emphasizes how far the person will go to prove their love to their lovers. Nonetheless, the house person can also give more than they will ever receive from the Venus person, but this looks more like the house person giving Venus security, stability, loyalty, etc., but not feeling like the Venus person is giving that in return, or feeling like there is an imbalance in this factor.
The house person can really struggle with what their heart wants versus what their logical mind is telling them. This is because the house person is trying to hold on to the image that Venus sold them so much to the point where they gaslight themselves into seeing Venus as this all-perfect person when they are not. On a smaller scale, this looks like not letting Venus just be normal and have flaws. This could be like the house person feeling a shock to the system when Venus does something, to their standards, that would be “out of character,” when really it’s just Venus being themselves. On a grander scale, this could be thinking that Venus is loyal to you, committed to you, and serious about you, but then the actions of the Venus person do not match their words. Maybe they are actually really flaky, and maybe they are selling you a story. These things can happen with Venus 7H synastry.
I also have noticed that the house person can definitely feel like the Venus person has to complete them, and this can form a certain level of codependency on the Venus person, or definitely put pressure on them to perform a certain way or be a certain way to keep the balance in the connection. This is obviously not always the case, but I do find that the house person really does feel the absence of the Venus person in a way that they don't feel complete when they are not around them. This is definitely a soul tie, but you have to remember that soul ties are not always good, nor are they always bad, and a certain level of discernment is necessary with this connection as well. The house person has to remember that nobody is responsible for completing them. They have to find a way to maintain independence in this relationship, because it could feel like they are losing themselves to Venus, especially when the relationship is not healthy.
Bitterness happens when the house person feels like Venus is taking advantage of them, or is not serious about them, or not dedicated to them, etc. I think that the house person struggles with Venus’s expansive nature and desire to really experience the finer things in life, including the attention of others sometimes. Now, this is certainly not to say that Venus sees other people, but Venus does like attention, and I feel like the house person can sometimes become jealous of the attention that Venus gets, which causes its own issues.
If I could really emphasize one pitfall for this connection, it would be that they really do tend to lose their own identities when they get serious in a relationship and It's also important not to avoid conflict for the same reason, and to always show up authentic, because if you want somebody to love you, then you must show them who you truly are, inside and out, and this synastry can definitely make you or break you depending on how both people are showing up in the connection.
This connection THRIVES when there is the RIGHT balance between two people, and this looks like pouring into each other’s interests equally, doing romantic gestures for each other randomly, showing mutual support, etc. One person cannot carry more of the weight than the other all of the time. If the love is strong between both people, this could be a connection that lasts a lifetime. This is marriage that is long-term; this is a marriage that doubles as a business partnership. A strong team that sticks together. The love will be unmatched, but only if the effort, love, and acceptance are equal.
Do you have this synastry with anyone? Are you Venus, or are you the 7H? How did this dynamic play out for you?
“Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.”— Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
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Venus in the 7H synastry is a love that feels fated and written in the ethers long before you met. It’s the kind of connection that doesn’t leave you guessing, questioning, or wondering what your person is thinking or feeling. It’s the kind of love that takes you over and consumes you in the best and most loving way possible. Mutual attraction and appreciation for one another are what make this connection so strong. Venus adores the house person, and the house person sees Venus as their ideal. Like two peas in a pod… until there’s an imbalance. What happens when the house person thinks Venus is “too perfect”? Or when Venus becomes performative for the sake of keeping the peace? And when does something that feels this right… stop being real?
Upon first glance, Venus in the 7H synastry is sort of like the textbook standard of what society would consider a healthy and beautiful love, and usually, it is. Venus, being the literal embodiment of love entering the house of partnership and contractual obligations, creates a dynamic of longing, with the intention of it being forever. To say that Venus in 7H synastry is not subtle would be an understatement. In a lot of ways, it is even more intense than 8H synastry can be, just in the sense that Venus in 7H is set, committed, and serious about being together in union. This is the synastry that you see of two people who just feel like they were meant to be together upon first sight.
Typically, they meet in social settings, or in relationship-oriented spaces. This could be places like engagement parties, weddings, anniversaries, housewarming parties, etc. It is not uncommon, nor is it atypical, for the two to be introduced through mutual friends or through one of their family members. There could also be some kind of partnership going on, so they can meet at work, or it could also suggest that they meet through one of their fathers or father figures. This could just look like either the house person or Venus working for the other person’s father and then being introduced to the person that way.
Nonetheless, the meeting does feel fated and pretty immediate. As I always mention, both the house person and the planet person can feel the energy equally as intense, but there are some overlays where that doesn’t always seem to be the case. In this situation (and again, not ALWAYS), the house person seems to feel very strongly for Venus, very quickly. Venus also feels very strongly for the house person; it just seems to be for a different reason.
For the Venus person
When Venus meets the house person, I like to describe it as sort of a shock to the system. Venus first and foremost feels very drawn to the idea of having a relationship with the house person. This is because the relationship itself is activating their desire for partnership, not just a hookup or a fling. Venus feels very drawn to the house person, but also very serious about the house person, and being “with” them tends to feel very natural and meaningful for Venus. Venus can really worship the ground that the house person walks on, honestly, and this is because they feel like the house person is their ideal partner and who they have been waiting for their whole life. They’re someone who fits their romantic type or mold, or, in some cases, the house person could be very attractive and Venus could just put the house person on a bit of a pedestal and want to keep the house person there forever lol.
Venus feels so passionately because of the love and admiration they’re receiving from the house person, too. To Venus, the house person is so sweet and can make them feel like a million dollars, and it’s such a massive ego boost for them. In Venus’ eyes, the house person is literally the whole package: aesthetically pleasing-looking, charming, considerate, balanced, very affectionate, and does nice things for Venus. On the surface, it kind of makes sense as to why Venus naturally wants to dive in deep with the house person. The house person makes Venus feel like they’re mutually invested in them, and that all of the love, attention, and affection Venus is receiving is genuine. This kind of energy that the Venus person is receiving makes them feel wanted, desired, and chosen. Chosen like they’re being picked out in a crowded bleacher by the star football player. Venus enjoys returning the love to the house person because it feels natural, not forced.
Feeling seen and appreciated is so major for Venus, because it makes them realize that this is what love is supposed to feel like, and it’s really validating for them. If Venus has had relationships in the past that were unfulfilling, Venus can sometimes romanticize the house person’s efforts and actions unintentionally, even if it is bare-minimum effort. That last bit really depends on the aspects and rest of the synastry between the two, but this is where idealism/idolization of the house person happens and can become an issue.
If Venus is not fully grounded in reality when it comes to the nature of the dynamic with the house person, this leads to things like Venus projecting onto the house person. Sometimes, Venus will project their own ideals onto them. This could look like Venus overlooking flaws in the house person, or Venus filling in gaps with what they want the house person to be. This is because, while they are still very attached to the house person, they could just be blinded by their charm, attractiveness, or love so much that they completely ignore reality. This is especially painful because eventually that bubble of a fantasy that Venus has created will be popped at one point or another.
This isn’t to say Venus can’t accept the house person for who they are, but they don’t fully see them right away. This is the kind of placement that gets tested over time, because either Venus or the house person isn’t completely showing up as their true self in the beginning of the relationship, and over time, the true nature of both individuals is revealed to one another. Because this is a very strong indicator of long-term connections and marriage, I feel that this aspect suggests that the couple can typically overlook each other’s differences and move forward.
Nonetheless, Venus can become very emotionally dependent on the house person, or on being in a relationship with the house person. A balanced connection between both people will definitely create a sense of harmony in the relationship, because both people will put the relationship at the forefront while also maintaining independence and self-agency. When things are not balanced and are not super healthy, Venus might feel very personally attacked, rejected, or unsettled by the house person because they have assigned so much significant emotional weight to the relationship or to the house person. This is where things get really messy for both Venus and the house person. Venus gets frustrated with not feeling good enough based on projected ideals not being met by the house person, and in a lot of ways, the house person is just overwhelmed by Venus.
Venus can definitely become a little performative and over-giving in this relationship, especially when they are feeling insecure or feeling like they are losing their “grip” on the house person. They can literally become who the house person wants instead of just embracing who Venus is naturally, but this is only if Venus is being rejected by the house person. I want to stress that in positive synastry, Venus does not have to do this because the house person does not make Venus feel insecure!! However, this dynamic will play out differently for everybody! In a bad situation, Venus will keep the peace rather than speaking their mind, and in a good situation, Venus debates the house person and has a voice, and their voice is strong!
On the subject of esteem, while this placement does not directly affect Venus’ (or the house person’s) esteem, it is worth noting that the 7H can influence both of their esteems based on how the relationship is going. Feeling chosen, feeling loved, or rejected by each other can definitely affect how they feel about themselves, more so Venus. This is because, in practice, the 1H–7H axis is all about confronting who you are on your own versus who you are when you're with somebody else. In synastry, when you have your Venus in the 7H, both can end up activating each other’s sense of relational identity and how they define themselves through partnership.
For the house person
Just like Venus, the house person feels like Venus is their ideal partner and relationship material. I feel what really defines the difference between how the house person is feeling about this energy versus the Venus person is how they are internalizing things. For the house person, they are more focused on how they are changing in this connection. For instance, I find that the house person has not experienced such a desire for a close relationship or a partner that wants to give them such commitment, so when they get with Venus, it is like a whole new experience for them! It's kind of like feeling what genuine love is for the first time ever and having to not sacrifice one bit for it. In a way, the house person typically reaps the benefits in terms of love, affection, and time from Venus first and only then shares that energy when they feel comfortable enough.
What the house person does not share with Venus is that they feel just as intensely, but it is because they are learning more about themselves while being with the Venus person. Prior to Venus, they didn't care to settle down or to take things seriously with another person or to combine finances with somebody else or even put trust into anybody else. Things are different with the Venus person—the house person sees a bright future, not only with Venus, but they see a whole new future for themselves. And in a lot of ways, the house person’s identity is very tied to their relationship with Venus. Just like how Venus can sometimes overwork themselves or become the person that they think the house person wants, the house person can internalize a lot of what Venus says or does to them, which can, in a way, make them also become who Venus wants them to be. Do you understand how this is sort of like a cycle between both people? This is why it's always important to show up as your true, authentic self upon meeting somebody you have 7th house synastry with.
Something interesting that I have noticed with this synastry is the fact that the house person seems to mature very quickly when in this relationship. They might want to take on more responsibility than they haven't wanted to before, like putting a down payment on a house together right away, making important business deals together, or investing in each other in ways that seem a bit scary on the surface. For the house person, it genuinely feels like they are ready to risk it all for the Venus person.
In a way, I think the house person should be cautious about how they are extending themselves and the resources they’re extending to Venus, and just make sure that they are not giving more than they have or more than they're getting as well. Sometimes there’s an imbalance of energy exchange between both people, but not always. Either way, the house person feels a strong desire to keep the Venus person in their life, and it’s sort of out of a fear of losing them because they've idolized the Venus person to sometimes an unhealthy degree. Just like Venus puts them on a pedestal, the house person does the same thing, but sometimes out of desperation to keep the Venus person.
Just like Venus tends to project too much, the house person tends to idealize too much. Sometimes, the house person can totally ignore the incompatibilities between them and the Venus person entirely. Sometimes, they don't realize that they are incompatible with this person until it is too late and they have invested too much time, effort, and money into the relationship. In a way, the house person is wanting to believe the image or illusion that the Venus person is selling them, and to a degree, they will accept what Venus shows them and ignore the sometimes very obvious red flags.
Depending on the house person’s natal aspects to their Venus & 7H, and even their Moon, the house person can really struggle with love and what love is supposed to be versus what love has been molded into for them. I like to think of the house person as somebody who is just wanting to feel complete or even just seen in a relationship to the point where they will do whatever they have to do to prove themselves to the other person. Check the natal chart for Venus-Pluto or Mars-Venus/Pluto placements, because I think that just further emphasizes how far the person will go to prove their love to their lovers. Nonetheless, the house person can also give more than they will ever receive from the Venus person, but this looks more like the house person giving Venus security, stability, loyalty, etc., but not feeling like the Venus person is giving that in return, or feeling like there is an imbalance in this factor.
The house person can really struggle with what their heart wants versus what their logical mind is telling them. This is because the house person is trying to hold on to the image that Venus sold them so much to the point where they gaslight themselves into seeing Venus as this all-perfect person when they are not. On a smaller scale, this looks like not letting Venus just be normal and have flaws. This could be like the house person feeling a shock to the system when Venus does something, to their standards, that would be “out of character,” when really it’s just Venus being themselves. On a grander scale, this could be thinking that Venus is loyal to you, committed to you, and serious about you, but then the actions of the Venus person do not match their words. Maybe they are actually really flaky, and maybe they are selling you a story. These things can happen with Venus 7H synastry.
I also have noticed that the house person can definitely feel like the Venus person has to complete them, and this can form a certain level of codependency on the Venus person, or definitely put pressure on them to perform a certain way or be a certain way to keep the balance in the connection. This is obviously not always the case, but I do find that the house person really does feel the absence of the Venus person in a way that they don't feel complete when they are not around them. This is definitely a soul tie, but you have to remember that soul ties are not always good, nor are they always bad, and a certain level of discernment is necessary with this connection as well. The house person has to remember that nobody is responsible for completing them. They have to find a way to maintain independence in this relationship, because it could feel like they are losing themselves to Venus, especially when the relationship is not healthy.
Bitterness happens when the house person feels like Venus is taking advantage of them, or is not serious about them, or not dedicated to them, etc. I think that the house person struggles with Venus’s expansive nature and desire to really experience the finer things in life, including the attention of others sometimes. Now, this is certainly not to say that Venus sees other people, but Venus does like attention, and I feel like the house person can sometimes become jealous of the attention that Venus gets, which causes its own issues.
If I could really emphasize one pitfall for this connection, it would be that they really do tend to lose their own identities when they get serious in a relationship and It's also important not to avoid conflict for the same reason, and to always show up authentic, because if you want somebody to love you, then you must show them who you truly are, inside and out, and this synastry can definitely make you or break you depending on how both people are showing up in the connection.
This connection THRIVES when there is the RIGHT balance between two people, and this looks like pouring into each other’s interests equally, doing romantic gestures for each other randomly, showing mutual support, etc. One person cannot carry more of the weight than the other all of the time. If the love is strong between both people, this could be a connection that lasts a lifetime. This is marriage that is long-term; this is a marriage that doubles as a business partnership. A strong team that sticks together. The love will be unmatched, but only if the effort, love, and acceptance are equal.
Do you have this synastry with anyone? Are you Venus, or are you the 7H? How did this dynamic play out for you?
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