#longdistancerationship

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Hey!💕 I'm in a ldr and I had known my boyfriend for 2 years and we've been a couple for one Despite the ups and downs (He has OCD and anxiety attacks now and then, I help him in every way i'm capable of) We're doing pretty well! I love him deeply and so does he My question is: Is there anything you did to motivate yourself to keep going? Do you have any advice? Thank you so much! 💕💕💕

Idk how religious you guys are, but I’ll share what I did. For a while I had panic attacks when I wouldn’t here from my bf. When we couldn’t talk I’d isolate myself from basically life. My advice bc it’s super easy to fall into a dark place and it’s SUPER scary is to find your peace or a way to keep you guys grounded. Some things I did that worked was sand my bf got matching promise rings. It was or symbol and sign that even though we were apart we are still tied. I started meditating and doing yoga, which I feel helped my mental state. I bought a healing stone bracelet and essential oils. And I began to read my bible. If you want to know what I read, what yoga channels I did on YouTube, or where I bought my healing bracelet let me know. I also kept a journal, which I bought from Etsy. I would write when I was lost and feeling dark. I would write when I had amazing moment. Importantly I’d step back and think we made it this far we pushed this long. Why give up? What’s the gain of giving up? It might hurt but I would think of how much hurt it would cause to lose my bf and throw us away? Ask yourself those questions. Bc it made me cry soo much harder thinking about a life without him. So I pushed on. Make long term goals. Goals and a plan for what you guys will do when your ldr comes to an end. Goals on where you see yourselves as a couple and as An individual. Refer back to those goals. Keep your eyes on that prize. On the idea of it WILL end. Take away you guys as a couple have the advantage of learning your partner in a while nother way! You are seeing some raw emotions. You are learning the real them. Breathe bc you can do it!

[help-the-lost-blog]

The hardest parts of long distance that aren't talked about

I've been in a long distance relationship for 4 1/2 years, so I've decided to shine some light on the difficult things no one really talks about and how I've solved these "problems" 1. When your friends talk about missing their partner when they go on vacation: Of corse this is so valid! But I find people tend to talk about these things before thinking hey, ____ hasn't seen their partner in weeks, months or even years Solution: Try and stay positive, realize that their feelings are valid and maybe try and give advice for there temporary problem or be honest, tell them your not comfortable talking about it because ____ 2. Finding new ways to keep interactions interesting: Being that my boyfriend moved to different country I havnt seen him in about 4 years meaning we've been skyping everyday for that long. After a while you run out of things to do and talk about Solution: EXPLORE!!! Try new things even if their weird. Me and my boyfriend take turns reading books to each other, play video games, eat meals together, take a couple days with no skyping and watch movies/tv/YouTube videos together 3. Trying to find the best way to communicate: There are TONS of apps and social medias you can use to connect but different things work for different people, finding what works for you AND your partner can be time consuming and a real struggle Solution: Write a list of good apps/sites you both would like to try then pick a day to go through and try them. It may take a bit but there is always something out there for everyone 4. SEXY TIME: Sexting, Nudes, and FaceTime masterbation sessions are a great way to keep things alive but after a while they die out and become boring and repetitive. For my relationship neither of us are comfortable being with other people which can cause a lot of sexual frustration Solution: Get creative! Whether you chose to see other people, watch porn together, write out sexual fantasies or act out fantasies such as being a cam worker 5.Lack of communication: I find many people I know in long distance relationships harbour their feelings because they don't want to ruin the little time they have together on negative things which can cause major problems Solution: Make it a positive experience! Set a day or time aside where you both can express yourselves in a mature manner. This makes it so it's not sprung on them and you have time to truly thing of what and how your going to say it to them. Also set up rules for these times such as no put downs, no invalidating, no yelling and so on. Though its best to do this face to face some times that's not always possible. 6.Staying hopeful: Even in an amazing relationship it can be hard to find a balance between being realistic and being hopeful. In many cases it seems impossible to have a future due to age, time, or distance which can cause you and your partner emotional stress. Solution: Of corse you'll have doubts! Everyone does! But get to know yourself enough to know when your relationship is getting too stressful. I have been with my boyfriend since I was 14, we havnt seen each other in 4 years but we are doing great and planning to work on my citizenship in about 3-5 years. But not everyone can do that. Don't give up because it feels impossible but don't hold on just because it is possible. Thank you so much for reading! If I've left any out please let me know! Also share your long distance stories and experiences! If you have anymore questions, want suggestions about apps/sites, just need someone to talk to or would like me to write about something else you can reach me at kik: TylerJayy_ Or Instagram: Tybear_98 (:

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