Sooooo....I'm at this weird state of my life where I ran across an asexual post and found myself relating to a lot of it. Like, ALOT of it. But I'm still not sure if it real fits me. I mean, I still feel arousal even if I rarely to never want to engage in it with another person. What if I'm just wanting attention or being a crybaby or whatever? What if I just want some attention by even asking this? There's so many stupid thoughts like that making me really unsure if I qualify as ace. I guess my question is, how do you know? Like, REALLY know you are?
I’ve never had an ‘AHA!!!!!!!!’ moment of absolute surety that I’ve chosen my destiny-given path of asexuality. But I can assure you that I empathize completely with what you’ve described here, down to the whole ‘I really relate to these asexuality posts’ and I’ve been id’ing as ace for eight years.
And I doubt myself a lot, too. I doubt my gender, even though I’ve been on T since 2016. I doubt my mental illnesses, even with my intensive rotation of doctors.
Doubt is really common in all marginalized communities. The more you live with these doubts, the less important they become, until they’re just white noise and you wonder why you were ever worried.
- Fae
