lalafell gender dynamics: mages or merchants
crossposting a thread from bluesky i made a little bit ago bc i think i should start doing that more. but lets talk about lalafell gender dynamics based on a wizard ↔ merchant scale that is about learned skill as much as societal disposition. its not something explicitly named like that but its very common expectation in lalafellin families that children will grow up to either become mages or merchants, regardless of birth gender. its more apparent among dunesfolk but still observable with plainsfolk
the terms used arent actually defined as their modern conventions imply. being a wizard just means one focused more on honing ones skills, they dont have to be magical in nature. and being a merchant means having a penchant for socializing well, not actually selling things. and these arent hard definitions either. you can be an extroverted wizard, or an artisanal merchant. but it is considered something of a social faux pas to not fit either category at all, and those who dont often get pressured to try otherwise. bonana is a merchant. sasabe is a wizard. thanks for coming to my ted talk
more thoughts on this: part of why this isnt explicitly named is because the terms used are a modern understanding of an ancient system that can be traced to distant southern seas history. a loose translation of the historical terms would be "one who leads" and "one who is lead". also i should be clear most of this im kinda bullshitting but not really because i Do think a lot about how lalafell are commonly defined as merchants or being really good with magic, as well as them being incredibly social and open to intermingling with other societies. gender dynamics are really just about power, and defining who owns it. so for a race where men and women physically arent very different, obviously they would define power differently. and my answer is to them everything is about social connections, either through charisma or brute force. of course lalas are often still subject to regular gender dynamics too, especially in areas of higher racial diversity. so you do end up with muddied expectations of like, i want my kid to be a mage but shes a girl so itd probably be easier for her to marry one instead and inherit his power. also its very common for "wizard" to be seen as feminine and "merchant" is masculine















