#loseher

[fidjiefidjie]

Bonne soirée 💟 😊 🆕️

LoseHer 🎶Jardin d'hiver

[dandelionyellowgirl]

my friend text me “i’m here”

but we both know she isn’t

[thewonderingangeleyes]

[cathsdream]

[danadtyler]

It’s been awhile, but I hope y’all will join me for a spirited discussion with the one and only Pastor @timfindleyjr tonight at 9pm EST on #FBLive. As I ponder slowly wading back into this dating pool, I hear over and over again that “he that finds a wife...blah blah blah...” 🙄It made me think: So while I’m sitting on a shelf like a can of tomato soup waiting to be found, what will he do when he “finds” me!? What are the fellas doing in preparation for this thing called marriage? Are they just searching!? Let’s talk about it tonight! #FindHer #KeepHer #LoseHer #WeepOverHer #Singles #Love #BlackLove #LetsChat https://www.instagram.com/p/B1e-KlpJ6nf/?igshid=1p6kbd9rnf2el

[guptark601-blog]

You Don’t Lose Her! Because you didn't want to lose her, you lost yourself in the process. You became a boy who kept being mistreated and you formed a habit of saying "I'm used to it".

[cyntiarm-blog]

This is how you lose her…

This is how you lose her.

you lose her for every second you make her feel less and less of the beauty she is. When you make her feel that she is replaceable. When you make her feel you are fleeting. She wants you to stay. When you make her feel inadequate. She wants you to know that she is enough and she does not need to change for you, nor for anyone else because she is she and she is beautiful, kind and good.

You must learn her.

You must know the reason why she is silent. You must trace her weakest spots. You must write to her. You must remind her that you are there. You must know how long it takes for her to give up. You must be there when she is about to.

You must love her because many have tried and failed. And she wants you to know that she is worthy to be loved, and she is worthy to be kept.

And this is how you keep her. 

-Junot Diaz 

[girlxxaliemighty]

"This is how you lose her.

You lose her when you forget to remember the little things that mean the world to her: the sincerity in a stranger’s voice during a trip to the grocery store, the delight of finding something lost or forgotten like a sticker from when she was five, the selflessness of a child giving a part of his meal to another, the scent of new books in the store, the surprise short but honest notes she tucks in her journal and others you could only see if you look closely. You must remember when she forgets. She remembers when you forget. You lose her for every second you make her feel less and less of the beauty that she is. When you make her feel that she is replaceable. She wants to feel cherished. When you make her feel that you are fleeting. She wants you to stay. When you make her feel inadequate. She wants to know that she is enough and she does not need to change for you, nor for anyone else because she is she and she is beautiful, kind and good. You must learn her. You must know the reason why she is silent. You must trace her weakest spots. You must write to her. You must remind her that you are there. You must know how long it takes for her to give up. You must be there to hold her when she is about to. You must love her because many have tried and failed. And she wants to know that she is worthy to be loved, that she is worthy to be kept.

And, this is how you keep her."

— Junot Diaz, “This is How You Lose Her”

artwork by Pauline Bactad