On The Sosoo discussion on who loved each other better
This is just a random observation that is rooted in my observation of the MLSHR fandom. Discussions on who loved each other more or “ whose love is greater” is a pointless abysss that no one can reach. One can keep arguing of course ,but no one can reach a proper, legitimate conclusion. It’s like the equivalent of asking a child who loves better: mom or dad? A mature , mediating child will not pick sides but a child that knows it’s favourite parent certainly will and will come up with many explainations on why that particular favourite parent loves them better. The only conclusion one can reach is one’s own preference , favouritism and devotion. Which is why, in MLSHR fandom most of the bloggers and posts that deride Hae Soo and accuse her of not loving So enough are almost , always Wang So fans, who usually see him as a tragic hero and defend him in any chances they get. It’s a result of their favoritism and devotion towards his character, as they almost idolise him in a certain fashion. That’s where the difference between them and Soo occur because no matter what Wang So does or becomes, Soo always views him as a simple, flawed Human being. She doesn’t idolise him or hail him as great and that is precisely why though he becomes King, she is able to defy him, shout at him and hold him accountable for his actions. I guess that’s the difference between idolisation and love . Maybe even Wang So’s love and Hae Soo’s love to a certain degree. To Wang So love was grand gestures , ultimate loyalty and devotion and to a certain degreee , idolisation. We see it in the way he loves Hae Soo and his mother. He’s very preoccupied with the idea of his mother, though she has made it clear time and time again, that she wants nothing to do with him.She’s committed so many cruel deeds to him , yet he crawls to her side, hoping for affection because he still idolises and views her as a motherly figure that can give him warmth.Meanwhile, Hae Soo after her terrible experience with love from Wook and her former boyfriend who cheated on her, she understands idolisation doesn’t do you any favour in the long run.Her love for Wang So was rooted in genuine acceptance of his flaws. She knew how dangerous he is and accepted him anyway. It’s exactly why he is able to feel warm and comfortable in her love.In my opinion, her love is more sensible because there’s genuine acceptance of who he is as a person and it encourages him to be a better person. This is why she is so successful in “ taming him” , as they call it.But still, there’s no denying that that each of them loved each other greatly, but only in a different manner.For Wang So, it’s only understandable that he would resort to idolisation and extreme expectations,given how lonely and desolate the circumstances he grew up in were. He just doesn’t understand love and to certain extent, human beings.