#loving right

[corinthird]

I broke open just a little bit,

Because you showed me that loving me wasn't such a bad thing,

That it could be nice,

And now I'm healing I think.

Oh wow, I forgot how beautiful it was out here,

Outside of everything mundane and tedious,

Breathing the sweet energy that flows through all of life,

And embracing the light and love its all

made out of,

Like floating in a pool of golden nothings,

Thank you.

[corinthird]

I'm going to love you without expectations, Including the expectation: Of you loving me without expectations.

[thesecondsthatremain]

"You mean to tell me that, in a fit of jealous rage you wrote your wife a love letter?" Eddie Valient, Who Framed Roger Rabbit

[masslaxer]

Relationships: Loving Right

Loving Right: 1. Respect them. -Never judge them. Never put them down or make them feel bad about who they are or what they like. Give them a chance to speak and have an opinion, and when they talk, listen to them. Respecting them also means never giving them a reason to think that you're unfaithful or that you don't really love them. It's fun to flirt with other people, but if they see you flirting with everyone who walks down the street then they're never going to want to commit to you. 2. Be a good friend. -The person that we're with should be our best friend, at least in terms of how they act. This means that you should always be there for them and be unselfish in your actions. Put their needs above your own, as a general rule. But do these amazing things for them without a thought for personal gain. Be a good person because you want them to be happy, not because you want something from them. 3. Remember that you are two separate people. -No one wants to feel trapped in a relationship. This is why many people keep themselves from getting too serious. If you give your significant other the freedom to do the things they love and be their own person, you will go far in making them feel comfortable with the idea of loving you. Respect that they are their own person; don’t try to change them and certainly don’t invade their privacy. They are allowed to have secrets and things that are just theirs. 4. Let them be who they are, how they are. -Celebrate the good things about them and embrace the bad things about them, but also give them the space to be who they are. Don’t rearrange their living space without asking. Don’t try to change the interior decorating in their home. Don’t force them to change their diet or how they dress. If you make suggestions along these lines and they say “no”, respect that and don’t bring it up again (at least for a long time). Don’t suck up all of their time; they probably have things they need or want to do that they need to do alone. 5. Let them make choices about their time and personal space. -Do let them have time to themselves to do the things that they want to do. Alone time is important for both of you. Do encourage them to make their own decisions regarding personal items and decoration. For example, if your boyfriend asks for help picking out new clothes, find three shirts that you think would work and then let him pick one. If your girlfriend asks you to pick a place to go out for dinner, give her a short list of your favorite places and let her choose what she’s in the mood for.